I'm A Single Mom But I Refuse To Date A Single Dad

Pardusco · 2019-01-22T01:14:39+00:00

All of the traits that she dislikes could easily be applied to her as well. The hypocrisy is astounding! Mods please feel free to change the flair if you feel like something else would be better.

iowaclass · 2019-01-22T01:21:39+00:00

Lol! Jokes on you, if I were ever a single dad, I’d never have another relationship of any kind ever again.

KoloGupta · 2019-01-22T01:47:10+00:00

She's important, her kids are important, but he isn't. To add insult to injury, there would be the kid(a) and baby mama(s) cutting into his resources to which she's entitled in full. Her birthright!

In trying to make herself seem intelligent, she has succeeded in fully airing her intentions and expectations; things ~~Beta Bait~~ Good Men are not supposed to be clued in to.

Well, attention and and feels untimely win out over strategy. Said strategy is nothing more than expecting betas to worship her and kill himself, providing resources to her, in exchange for...some kind words once a month, if he's a good boy.

LesboPregnancyScare · 2019-01-22T01:17:42+00:00

Oh god, that entire site. I also found this gem

Crusty_Fedora · 2019-01-22T03:05:20+00:00

You guys see her pic at the bottom of the article? She's a fat black chick. It all makes sense now.

brazil84 · 2019-01-22T01:57:37+00:00

By the way, the attractive girl kneeling in the photo at the top of the page is Not the piece's author AFAICT.

Anyway, people can obviously have whatever requirements they want. I myself am a father but if I were single I would not date single mothers.

The real question is whether this author is critical of men who refuse to date single mothers. And whether she seriously expects men to value her as much as they would if she were childless.

ISaidBeeeeetch · 2019-01-22T04:00:07+00:00

Lol @ the single mom generation- nobody wants y’all. They are too stupid to realize that the only people that would want to fuck with single moms are dudes that are going to pump n dump.

loneliness-inc · 2019-01-22T04:12:08+00:00

Bolde should just rename themselves to bullshit. Let's direct a few choice passages.

Let’s be real, for every homeboy, family member, or girlfriend my daughter’s father has told he wants nothing to do with me, he’s tried to have something to do with me five times that. A casual shoulder rub here or there during drop off or an overly dramatic “How are you?” can easily lead to an invitation inside to play house for a while. I even personally let it happen one too many times before I had to put my foot down on the confusing unhealthy behavior.

Translation - I'm a weak pussy who has succumbed to the temptation of sex with the ex one time too many. I also assume that getting sex is as easy for men as it is for women. Therefore, I assume that because I fell on the ex's dick so many times, that any man with a child will inevitably slip and fall right into the ex's vag because that makes total sense.

I JUST CAN’T COPE WITH ANGRY BABY MAMAS.

Truth is that men are more likely to want to involve their ex into the children's lives while women are more likely to shun the ex from the children's lives, but carry on....

I’D END UP PARENT-SHAMING SOMEONE.

Of course I would! I'm the absolute best parent alive! Every other parent - especially male parents - is truly a shame, hence the term parent shaming.

BEING A DAD DOESN’T MAKE HIM MY CHILD’S FATHER.

But I also don't want more children. I just need him to pay and kill spiders because...

I run the ship here, and no new men are needed to replace the father she already has.

Naturally.

HE’S PROBABLY PAYING CHILD SUPPORT.

And if he is, he has less money to give me. I only need him for his money so if he's paying child support, he's useless to me.

I’D BE LEAVING MORE THAN JUST HIM IF IT WENT WRONG.

Always gotta keep those options open!

YOU END UP COMPARING KIDS.

Because women compare just about everything.

Men with kids are just as great as any other guy, I just personally don’t find them, or their children, to be in alignment with what I want out of life right now!

Because gynocentrism means that he ought to align with me, I don't need to align with him. If he doesn't fit perfectly into my life, out he goes!

Where are all the good men?

Laurina_Novizza · 2019-01-22T03:27:38+00:00

It's Bolde. That's all one needs to know. It's as though a bunch of women who never made it past high school all wrote the same article ten thousand times.

thottranslatorbot · 2019-01-22T04:42:53+00:00

1. THEY’LL ALWAYS HAVE A CONNECTION WITH HIS KIDS’ MOM.

Let’s be real, for every homeboy, family member, or girlfriend my daughter’s father has told he wants nothing to do with me, he’s tried to have something to do with me five times that. A casual shoulder rub here or there during drop off or an overly dramatic “How are you?” can easily lead to an invitation inside to play house for a while. I even personally let it happen one too many times before I had to put my foot down on the confusing unhealthy behavior.

translation: I still give it up HARD for the alpha who widowed me, and would run back to him in a second if he'd have me. I am unable to believe that others would be more faithful than I personally am capable of being.

2. I JUST CAN’T COPE WITH ANGRY BABY MAMAS.

The truth always comes out and I don’t want to be on the receiving end of any craziness when the woman he told me he was through with is somehow now texting me asking me who I am. I thought he was spending time with his child, not who he made him or her with!

translation: I am an angry baby mama. I also am unable to resist throwing myself ass first onto my alpha ex's cock at every opportunity. I'm aware of my relative value and wish to limit the amount of women I have to compete with as I am no longer able to do so to any significant extent

3. I DON’T WANT ANY MORE KIDS.

I’m pretty sure I’m never having another child, even if I ever do end up in a happy, well-rounded relationship. I love my kid, but she’s difficult at times and I just can’t imagine having to deal with someone else’s! Plus, my kid takes up enough of my attention. I don’t need someone taking up his like that too! Just being real.

translation: I got mine, and deep inside I know I will never find a partner with better genes than my ex. Also I'm lazy

4. I’D END UP PARENT-SHAMING SOMEONE.

I would either be judging that he never was with his children enough and try to encourage it or feel like he had them too much and not be able to understand how a woman could go without her child for so long. Either way, it’s none of my business and I could be using my time on so many more productive things.

translation: I'm such a judgemental bitch you have no idea

5. BEING A DAD DOESN’T MAKE HIM MY CHILD’S FATHER.

It would be awful if a man thought that him being a father in general granted him the right to parent my child. I run the ship here, and no new men are needed to replace the father she already has.

translation: I want a man who I can control completely, because I understand that the only way I have any hope of holding onto a guy for longer than 2 dates is by finding a real sad pathetic cuck. Know your place, Billy!

6. HE’S PROBABLY PAYING CHILD SUPPORT.

It’s great if a man is taking care of his child financially the way he should, but that might be leaving him strapped for cash. If he doesn’t have the extra funds to take me out and do nice things for me during the courting process, I’d rather just be alone.

translation: I'm going to try and frame this like I'm a decent person, but actually I'm mainly concerned about him being able to bankroll my life.

7. HE ALWAYS HAS AN EXCUSE.

It could be in the middle of the night, right before a planned meet, or not calling or texting back, but he’ll expect a pass if it’s in relation to his child. It’s also the perfect strategy to make you feel stupid or dramatic if you don’t buy the excuse.

translation: I need to preemptively protect my personal go-to excuse. Also I need him to be available 100% of the time and will not tolerate him putting me and my child second for any reason, ever

I’D BE LEAVING MORE THAN JUST HIM IF IT WENT WRONG.

A breakup is not so simple when children are involved. It would be pretty disheartening to be semi-attached to someone else’s child and then one day never see them again. Separations happen, all the time and often. If the kid isn’t yours, you aren’t entitled to visits and things that biological parents have set up. That’s not just hard for me, but also for the kid.

translation: shit I just read this list back and I sound like a self centred asshole - better add a bit of sugar to this shit pie... oh I know! I'll miss his kids! Yeah, that sounds like something men would believe.

9. YOU END UP COMPARING KIDS.

There’s too much potential for comparing our kids that could become ugly. Developmental and growth differences could be insulting if critiqued the wrong way, and then behavioral issue even worse. Everyone has a different style of parenting and teaching, and the last thing I need to be around is a kid that never stops screaming.

translation: I'm deathly afraid of competition, and am so bizarrely insecure I even compare my child to other children.

10. THERE’S AN AUTOMATIC ASSUMPTION OF INCLUSION.

Men with kids often times feel like them having a kid too is an automatic pass for a group play date or trip to Disneyland together. Whether he has a child or not, I have little interest in him being around my daughter for quite some time. Then there’s the simple fact that I don’t understand why he’s so open to letting someone around his kids so soon… I’m just not feeling it.

translation: me! Me! ME! IT'S ALL ABOUT ME. It's weird to admit that tho so I'll hide behind my daughter

Men with kids are just as great as any other guy, I just personally don’t find them, or their children, to be in alignment with what I want out of life right now!

translation: I'm deluded af and haven't realized that my market value is in free fall.

FINAL ANALYSIS

This thot has been alpha widowed hard, and is happy being an occasional side piece for her ex. She's too emotionally entangled trying to compete with the other women in his life to really take stock of her situation, and is distracted enough by the occasional injection of her baby daddy's meat that she doesn't feel any real compulsion to do so at this point, so she's made a bizarrely demanding list of reasons to justify not making herself truly available to a new potential partner -

But hey, if he's a wallet on legs he's welcome to babysit while she pops over to discuss visitation rights with the ex. Don't worry Billy, she won't stay the night, Chad would never allow that anyway so rest safe in the knowledge that she'll always return to leak another man's ejaculate through the bed ;)

- your friendly neighborhood thot translator bot

smfuel87 · 2019-01-22T05:40:56+00:00

This kinda irks me. Every single mother in my social sphere re-married a man without kids or without a prior ex wife. Even my ex wife did. Single dads get financially destroyed by their exes. Single non-divorcee men are still financially solvent. So single dads get passed right over every time. As a man, you are essentially totally fucked after the first relationship failure. Women? They get multiple goes, and even then they still are the ones initiating the end of the relationship multiple times. I personally think single mothers should be barred from relationships after the first go, but fuck me. I don't control shit in this world. Not even my own kids or where my money is syphoned off to.

But heres the funny thing. Most of these girls who turn me down on the first pass don't give much thought to the fact that even after I pay support for two, I still make twice or more after deductions than the dipshit bartender or flunky waiter they're dating.

Fuck em'. Stay MGTOW. Don't be their next meal ticket.

Bruchibre · 2019-01-22T02:02:18+00:00

Why would we expect a limit to the entitlement and hypocrisy of these little bitches? To use their words, let’s be real guys. I mean if I could write a wish list to Santa Claus I’d also put lots of silly things. Seems like these jaded women believe in Santa Claus and the magic of internet.

_Anarchon_ · 2019-01-22T04:38:36+00:00

Does the chick really have that many options, or is she just talkin out of her ass?

oh_no_aliens · 2019-01-22T05:17:33+00:00

I'm a morbidly obese landwhale but I refuse to date a man with a few extra pounds!!

Tookthemethpill · 2019-01-22T03:04:26+00:00

she just has to lash out because no one worth her while is giving her the D. So to cope she puts herself on an artificial pedestal to be able to look down on others. A sad life if you ask me.

Sol_Install · 2019-01-22T04:55:53+00:00

She wants his benefits 100% but doesn't want to benefit him at all. Simple as that.

Futureman999 · 2019-01-22T05:08:08+00:00

I have no children and I never will. She makes a great argument for why I would never want to date her.

Also, I did date a single mother long, long ago. Everything was about her not being able to afford a baby sitter.

Single parents are like smokers, addicts, crazy people, convicted felons, and obese people. They belong with their own kind. Period.

bk6830 · 2019-01-22T10:05:59+00:00

Just because I have a child doesn’t mean I have to be with someone who does too.

Ok. It's called "entitlement" and this discussion is over.

smfuel87 · 2019-01-22T06:00:47+00:00

Scroll down to the bottom of the page and take a gander at the author, Jessica.

Don't worry Jessica, Judging by your pic, I doubt many really wanna date you either anyhow. Echh... Go jog or some shit.

https://www.facebook.com/jessiiica.roseee

MGTOWtoday · 2019-01-22T07:24:39+00:00

“I may have nothing to offer you but my leftovers, but FUCK YOU, GIVE ME YOUR GODDAMNED RESOURCES!!!” -this single mom.

AWALT.

CursingWhileNursing · 2019-01-22T09:21:18+00:00

I am bookmarking this article, just to rub it under the nose of every "you need to man up and take care of her and the kids that are not yours" idiot.

DonLandsman · 2019-01-22T14:21:08+00:00

translation:

I'm selfish, self centered, and self absorbed. The entire world revolves around me. Men must serve my interests, always, at all times. I will never ever give one inch, while men must compromise all the way. I will never ever meet a man halfway. I'll come 1%, he has to come the other 99%. I will never ever give you anything you want; but you must give me everything I want.

anthaela · 2019-01-22T04:53:38+00:00

My older brother always says single moms are toxic waste. Avoid all contact

IcebergHermit · 2019-01-22T05:27:38+00:00

We really need to start contacting these bitches that make these articles and refute their bullshit and also put up dating profiles so we can these bitches up With demanding unrealistic standards

It’s time to take the war of words to them

MajIssuesCaptObvious · 2019-01-22T11:04:00+00:00

She sounds a little entitled.

byronshadow · 2019-01-22T16:12:03+00:00

It would be awful if a man thought that him being a father in general granted him the right to parent my child.

There it is, right from the horse's mouth. She wants a sort of half-dad who pays the bills and helps babysit without exerting any authority. A man would have to be spiritually/physically/mentally on his knees to want a small child he couldn't discipline running around the house.

The irony of course is that a single dad is going to be a better parent than a single mom 99% of the time.

Developmental and growth differences could be insulting if critiqued the wrong way...

I guarantee you men want no part in the "mommy wars". If you use formula because nursing is painful to you or don't sign junior up for the fancier preschool because of finances men will understand. The criticism will come, as with fashion/style, from other women.

slavmaf · 2019-01-23T09:15:11+00:00

This simply shows how her brain works due to female solipsism.

She is valuable simply for existing. In this potential new relationship, he would need to provide for himself, her, and her child. so he will be working 30% for him, and 70% for her side.

If we add his child into the equation, it would be 50% for his and 50% for her side, and apparently this sort of a deal is simply too outrageous to even be considered by her.

On the other hand, she will need to enter the relationship with her existence, and duty sex once in a while.

Let's say she gives out once a month regularly (because she has more important things to deal with), if he has more children, then it means more must be provided for them, if she has more children, what is he going to do? Ask for sex twice a month because he is supporting two of her children?

Absolutely skewed equation from the start, where even 50/50 is not good enough for the female.

BernieSandersgirl101 · 2019-02-12T14:27:03+00:00

Funnily enough, I'm not a single mom (never had sex, ever), and I'd date a single dad, as long as they didn't have STDs and would have kids with me too. Being a single dad generally means that he's either a really great dad, or the mom must be really awful, because dads don't normally get custody.

muricanwerewolf1 · 2019-01-24T17:57:27+00:00

The hypocrisy is so over the top it makes me wonder if it’s not bait.

bresra2500 · 2019-02-14T09:23:54+00:00

Add to that: I don't want him to be a father to my child or want him to have children at all. Ever.

Fuck that chick is a dumpster fire.

Title	I'm A Single Mom But I Refuse To Date A Single Dad
Author	Pardusco
Upvotes	310
Comments	84
Date	January 22, 2019 1:12 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/comments/aihfn2/im_a_single_mom_but_i_refuse_to_date_a_single_dad/
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