Do things like skin conditions affect HVM status ?

Lindapod · 2020-03-15T01:43:27+00:00

Not at all imo, but thats up to individual people to decide

Sage_Planter · 2020-03-15T16:43:25+00:00

One thing to add to the conversation is how you're willing to let your skin conditions affect your life, and whether or not you actually do something about them. For example, constantly complain your skin is itchy but do nothing about it? LVM.

My dad is an extremely HVM, and he's had psoriasis for years. He went to the dermatologist throughout his life to see if there's been any developments in treatment, and he continually tried different products to see what could improve the situation.

Mistygirl179 · 2020-03-15T09:10:34+00:00

No i dont think that has anything to do w your value.

throwaway-786786 · 2020-03-15T19:37:45+00:00

I’ve struggled with acne all my life, and while I look a few years younger than my age, it’s still annoying. I could never judge a guy for having a skin condition since I know how frustrating and stubborn it can be.

However I work VERY hard at taking care of my skin. I avoid dairy, sugar, and treat with topical meds twice daily. If I met a man who is doing these things consistently and still has acne (which is totally possible), how can I judge him for that?

I’m mostly clear now but still get a big one once a month or so. It’s sad but not worth the risk of taking Accutane.

spacebubbletea · 2020-03-15T17:24:25+00:00

No, but if you have severe acne and you do nothing about it you’re not a HVM, because HVM is about improvement

Trocek · 2020-03-15T15:22:01+00:00

In my case it wouldn't change anything. But of course HVM need to be sexually desirable, so it depends on the woman. For some women it will be a dealbreaker and that's totally fine

even_thriller · 2020-03-15T21:17:51+00:00

No. For me it doesn't. I look for overall care in appearance (fitness, taking care of skin, eating right) but skin conditions does not affect HVM status.

Soulsalts · 2020-03-16T02:52:53+00:00

I once had a hardcore crush on a guy with a gigantic wine-stain birthmark that covered like a quarter of his body. I found it attractive because it was on him, and he behaved like a gentleman and had some nice arms.

ErikaNaumann · 2020-03-16T20:30:40+00:00

It doesn't matter to me. As long as the guy is taking care of himself using whatever treatments he can and doesn't let it affect his life in general. Not even models have flawless skins. I value behaviour much more than a skin condition.

ivy176 · 2020-03-17T03:19:03+00:00

No. That would just come into overall attraction. I have eczema and no man has had an issue with it.

Natural therapies can help. Avoid steroid topical treatments as much as you can because they break down the protein of your skin and cause atrophy, thinness and wrinkling. Cutting out dietary triggers and working on gut, liver and lymphatic health can help.

Probiotics like lactobacillus rhamnosus GG reduce presentation of eczema/atopy in babies, so if someone was worried about passing it on, the mother should take it esp in 3rd trimester.

Fitncurly · 2020-03-18T02:40:56+00:00

No, my husband gets keloids from certain skin traumas. I noticed a scar my daughter has developed a small keloid. He’s a good dad and that’s the last thing I think of, as it’s just some dermatologist trips away from being taken care of, and same for her if she decides. Now if it were a disease or life-altering condition, I would honestly have re-thought procreation, as I believe it’s just mean to inflict genetic illnesses on children.

chasingshoesales · 2020-03-19T12:14:39+00:00

This really depends. If it's genetic and can be dealt with, then why not. If it's genetic and would hurt a child, I'd consider adoption. I have sickle cell trait and wouldn't risk my kids having sickle cell anemia unless I knew of a cure. I wouldn't break up with someone for their genes though. I would break up with them if they had different values and believed bringing a child up into a painful life was worth it. Like no, we can adopt or have kids elsewhere.

2020-03-30T02:42:49+00:00

Absolutely not. Do your best to manage these with what your doctor or dermatologist recommends and don’t neglect caring for yourself

grimreapersdtr · 2020-04-07T18:11:28+00:00

Since so many women have those issues themselves, I don’t see why unless you refuse to get them treated appropriately, or your obsession with your skin condition makes you mentally unwell.

One pet peeve I had with my long term ex is that despite his raging untreated psoriasis which I politely ignored, he’d make remarks about acne breakouts.

In other words, don’t demand perfect flawless skin from women if you yourself don’t have it.

MandJtraveltogether · 2020-03-16T16:37:07+00:00

Absolutely. This includes acne too. No way would i want to afflict my future children with conditions like that. My skin is clear and i use multiple products to keep it that way. Why can't you? i won't settle for a guy who doesn't take care of himself.

Title	Do things like skin conditions affect HVM status ?
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Date	March 15, 2020 12:29 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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