A big fail today: - I was getting our oldest kid (2yo) ready for daycare this morning and my wife comes to join me for a few minutes after leaving our bedroom from breastfeeding our little infant who was sleeping on a pillow on our bed. Wife barges in and starts trying to take over me getting the kid ready, I finish up what I am doing and we walk out together, my wife now holding the oldest kid. Wife looks at the baby monitor and sees the infant baby has slipped from the pillow and panics. I am already running late for work at that point and tell my wife to give me the kid and go check the baby. My wife runs to the room and fixes the situation and proceeds to absolutely lose it on me “What kind of father are you?! Work is more important than your kids life blah blah blah”. Reflecting back, I acted like a complete bitch. Basically I said, “give me the kid while I run away from the problem and you go save the day”. My wife lost significant respect for me today. I have not apologized but I did a lot of DEERing like a bitch after a significant fight. She said “what kind of father are you.” And I told her never to say that to me again and that is strike two - strike three will be the end. Further fighting ensued.

Anyways, the point I reflected on is we do all of this self improvement so that we can perform in these split second moments. I don’t really know how to recover from such a bitch display… but that was a lesson.