Dirty talk help?

snatch_haggis · 2017-12-14T22:57:06+00:00

So IMO like /u/outlawrp said it's just about dropping the filter a bit and saying what's already inside your head.

I get that you don't want to start talking like a porn star out of nowhere, and honestly a lot of the examples I hear other people use would sound stupid coming out of my mouth.

For example, my wife has a lot of hangups around promiscuity and if I called her a dirty little slut she'd dry up like the Sahara, and, more importantly, I'd feel really dumb saying it. It's just not my style. And I personally don't wanna be called Daddy. That guy isn't anybody I want to be anything like.

But hey, maybe that's your style. Maybe it's not. Just figure that out and go with it.

Start simple , little stuff like, "I like that.", "that's good", "you're so wet", "do that again", "faster", "slower", "right there", and so on.

Tell her what you want. Just be yourself.

Also, try to find ways to get her to be vocal without handing over dominance. So if you're a "say my name" kinda guy, do that, or stuff like "tell me how good that feels".

Definitely don't ask an open ended question like "how do you like that?" or similar. This is the bedroom equivalent of "where do you want to eat tonight" and if you do it often, you might find your woman giving you play by play instructions. Ask me how I know.

Like somebody else said, right before orgasm is a great time to move things forward.

Like most of this stuff it's really just about being comfortable in your own skin and feeling good about being you.

So be you. But, you know, louder. :)

crimson_chris · 2017-12-14T21:42:28+00:00

My take on a starting guide for beginners, not the experienced guys on MRP.

Dominance – You must have some semblance of domination in your relationship for sexually dominant language to work. Not meaning that you have her in a dog collar, but your wife should be at a place where she will ask your opinion. She should comply when you make a request (like asking her to get you a drink, give you a massage, etc.). You have to be comfortable and confident telling her what to do.

Emotion – I don’t think this is important when starting out. Why? See below.
Variety – Also not important starting out.
Immersion – I think this is one of the most important elements if you want to start “finding your dominant voice” when fucking your wife. I think the ultimate point of Immersion is orgasm (no one gives a fuck what is happening around them when they are having an orgasm). That is why you want to start here. She will be in a state where she will be relatively open to whatever you say (so a good place to start).

3 Thoughts

1) The closer she is to orgasm the more open she will be to dominance

Wait until she is about to cum. That is your opening. What can you say? “I want you to cum for me”, “Scream for me” any variant of that. This will help her to associate your dominant voice with orgasm. Also, it is a less awkward place to start. Oh, and I assume you are having PIV or maybe using your fingers? Luckily (maybe) my wife has no problem orgasming from PIV.

2) Be physically dominant + verbally dominant

Pull her hair (at the base), grab her shoulders, pin her, slap her ass (hard) – I have found that I there is no limit on how rough I can be with my wife when she is near orgasm. My wife once told me that she does not like it when I slap her ass. One time the combination of dirty talk and slapping her ass (hard) right before she went over the top led to her having a “whimpering orgasm”. Literally sounded like she was about to cry and she was quivering.

3) Tell – don’t ask

Again, try this out once you can tell she is into it (moaning or hips moving). Physically and verbally lead her to the position you want her to take. Again, lead her – don’t ask. “I am going to xxxxx” [insert whatever you want to do to her]

So there can be dominance before, during and after sex. For newbies, I think it’s best to start where your SO is the most Immersed. In the beginning that will be when she is closer to orgasm. As you improve yourself and bring her into your frame you can begin to use sexually dominant language further away from orgasm (ultimate immersion).

SteelSharpensSteel · 2017-12-14T21:17:59+00:00

You sir, have been a sex ninja. Silent, deadly... and undoubtedly your wife has also been a sex ninja. You must embrace the way of the sex samurai! Be forthright in your speech! Talk to her about your fantasies. Tell her what you like about her.

To use a famous quote from Robin Williams - Genie: "She's smart, fun. The hair, the eyes. Anything. Pick a feature."

The key thing is to not think about it. Don't overthink it. Just make it intimate - whispering stuff intimately is better than talking normally.

bogeyd6 · 2017-12-14T21:43:51+00:00

Alot of dirty talk is done DURING the heightening of sexual arousal. Not after you finish your eggs if that was what you were wondering.

Beginning:

You like that you little slut, as she is about to cum.
Your lips look so good wrapped around my cock.
This pussy is so wet for me.
I love the curves of your hips.
Your tongue feels absolutely amazing.
The way hair falls of your face drives me crazy.

Medium:

Suck my cock you dirty little cock sucker.
This pussy is only good for fucking.
You are a worthless slut and I am going to punish you with my cock.
Laughing, look at you cumming from that. You are such a whore.
You look better on your knees bitch.

Anyways, advance it as little or as much as you like. Just try them out and work them into a flow with your touching. Run your fingers through her hair as you compliment it. Kiss down along her hips or breasts as you compliment them. Etc... etc... Once you get to ones she likes, and believe sometimes you cannot believe what they like. Hell, sometimes it makes you feel dirty, but man up and beat that pussy up.

hystericalbonding · 2017-12-14T21:38:34+00:00

Easiest start is to let out the moaning and other noises, and to share the stream of consciousness.

It has to be congruent with your thoughts and emotions. Some of the lamer stuff in SGM would sound weird if you said it. But when she does that thing you like, then you tell her how fucking hot she is when she does that thing. Make her feel good about making you feel good. Make her feel good about the passion that she inspires in that moment. It's the positive feedback she needs to make sex better for both of you.

That requires emotion and immersion on your part. Get out of your own head, and get carried away.

outlawrp · 2017-12-14T21:22:25+00:00

No comment

Flagfootball99 · 2017-12-15T00:17:31+00:00

This was one of my big issues too after starting my MAP. SGM backfired on me big time at first. Key point.. at first. I was way too early in my MAP.

I realize that we were both so quiet during sex. Cring worthy. My wife has reacted positively to the below lines but I’m still working on more hard core dirty talk but not there yet.

Here are some good ones for a novice to break the ice:

for starters, MMSLP says that you should roar like a fucking lion when you cum... like a fucking cave man. Do it! Go back and reread thelat section. That’s your pussy man, it belongs to you ! Enjoy the fuck out of it. Don’t lay there quietly like a beta. Let out a roar!!
god... your pussy feels so good
mother fucker.. baby... fuck.... -as you’re fucking her good. Simple , but good for a beginner. use some moans for fucks sake
fuck... I love your pussy, feels so fucking tight.
tell me that pussy is mine (bonus points when she actually tells you.. she will eventually as you progress and you won’t be able to believe it !.)
fucking her missionary... pull out and say roll over , face down and ass out - for doggy style
imma explode all up in your tight little cunt
don’t wait for me, cream all over my cock baby
when you are getting close , say “ tell me when you want me to cum baby”
when (if) she is sucking your dick, say her mouth feels so fucking good.
god,,, I wanna your pussy so bad
doggy style, slap that ass for fucks sake, use your full hand so it doesn’t hurt.
tell me that my cock feels good inside your cunt ( not : does my cock feel good?)
if she doesn’t say anything . Too shy maybe . Just Say , I can tell that you love it because your pussy is so fucking wet

These seem pretty basic but you sound like a hard case newbie like I was. So start off with these and then progress to calling her a dirt little slut or open your mouth so I can fuck your face.

Edit: after you first try one of these pay attention to her mood the next day. Mine was acting all giddy and childlike and playful. It goes back to the post on polarity: you are now acting like a fucking man therefore she is allowed to act like a girl.... finally. Also she likes being dominated my a strong man.

simbarlion · 2017-12-15T01:21:14+00:00

Lots of gold in these replies. I started at this recently.... Settled on statements that come across as a compliment.

E.g. "Oh baby you're so hot." "you Really know how to do that, don't you".

Maybe conservative but thats where I am at

wekacuck · 2017-12-14T21:24:38+00:00

You'll find good advice about this in the sex subreddits. Try searching r\sex and r\sexover30.

cabanaboy46 · 2017-12-14T23:22:32+00:00

When you are a few minutes into banging : moan and say "your pussy is so fuckin tight/wet/hot". The slash symbol / means you should pick one of those words, dont literally say all of them fyi.

When shes close to finishing :"cum on that dick".

When you are close to finishing : "im gonna cum in this pussy"

Its really simple, just say filthy shit that you want to say in that moment.

jcbstn · 2017-12-17T20:00:14+00:00

Thanks guys for all the responses! Some solid advice I look forward to trying.

AquitasVeritas · 2017-12-17T20:38:29+00:00

Dont talk.. just roar when u hit it hard.

alucard205 · 2017-12-15T16:26:12+00:00

I have always been pretty comfortable with dirty talk, even in my hardcore BP days. I have definitely had to do some work on building up the dominance aspect. Now that ive seen how much of a response i get from it, its my favorite and the most comfortable for me. The best advice I can give you is to not worry too much about getting it "wrong". If your wife is really into it, you can basically say just about anything and it will work. The one big thing I suggest trying is telling her "that's my pussy" a few times. After you lay the ground work for that, switch it up to "who does this pussy belong to?" Or "tell me that's my pussy". I 100% promise you that the first time your wife tells you, unprovoked, that her pussy belongs to you it will make all the awkwardness and nervousness worth it.

Title	Dirty talk help?
Author	jcbstn
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Date	December 14, 2017 8:40 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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