Resolved: Talk a lawyer first.

We have joint accounts so I'm trying to figure this out. At work tomorrow I'm going to contact a couple of divorce lawyers and start figuring out my next steps.

What lead to all this is when my Wife mentioned, "We should sell our house." When I asked why she said, "to live in an apartment."

She's gone down this tangent before when she's upset about things so I played into and asked if I would be involved in this to which she didn't respond but shortly after said "well I wouldn't be able to afford one on my own anyway."

She has never directly saying the D word but has pushed. This could all be a bluff as she is a SAHM as of recently but still has a PRN job. I know the whole "ignore what they say and watch what they do"

I took a new job a little over a month ago that allowed this to happen. Smartest idea? Probably not but I got the job I wanted and I'm happy in that area.

At this point I currently don't care if we stay married or not anymore. Now I want to continue the work I am doing (lifting, dieting, STFU, and correcting my mindset etc) and save some collateral damage.

What would anyone that "gets it" better than me at this moment start focusing on financially? I'm not even going to pretend that I've internalized all this or that I haven't been fucking up for the last few years.. I was considering opening a 2nd account which I should have done before but didn't (mistake on my part).

Thanks