Help! I’m an emotional cheat

BobbyPeru · 2018-04-22T04:56:40+00:00

So you lift occasionally and haven’t read the sidebar, and now you have an emergency. K

ReddJive · 2018-04-22T02:49:39+00:00

what the fuck do you want us to do?

Give you permission to divorce? To fuck other women?

Tell your wife you're sorry. Do the dishes. Gather some laundry. I hear that words great to improve any situation.

alpha-zach · 2018-04-22T02:58:11+00:00

Read NMMNG

Bacon_Deadlifts · 2018-04-22T14:37:03+00:00

Problem: The real problem is me.

At least you're more honest than most guys first time posting

Inability to be keep fidelity.

Aww, as if this was something outside of your control. How about rewriting this as "continuing to make decisions incongruent with my goal of staying in this relationship", or "can't be arsed to make the decision - if I want to be married or spend my life fucking strange". Or even Tradis3's third option. You're framing this as out of your control when it's really the only thing IN your control.

really f-ed up kink stuff which wife isn’t quite into (and I didn’t have patience to guide her into).

Kink stuff - so what. But you frame this as "you don't have patience" - so you want instant quick gratification without putting in work to achieve those ends. Maybe it's achievable, maybe not, but how far do you think you'll get int the rest of your life with an attitude like "I have goals but can't be bothered to invest time in them"?

And from your other comments

She has installed gps tracker on my phone, limited freedom for me during evenings and weekends.

Ahh, now it makes sense why you framed your first statement I highlighted as something not in your control. You don't have any control of anything.. not your emotions, not your fidelity, not your sexual urges, not even your own goddamn phone. But the thing is, you actively GAVE away all that control when it has actually been inside you all along. The tiger analogy was actually pretty good here. You've made yourself into such a reactive undisciplined little boy that it's no wonder you're running all over the place looking for validation and gratification. You gave the key to your jail cell to your wife and now you're crying about being confined. You need to decide on a goal, then get in the habit of working toward it . Sidebar resources are all valuable as well.

And for God's sake, stop lifting "occasionally" and get in the gym 3/4x a week. Almost like... building discipline through habit.

screechhater · 2018-04-22T15:03:22+00:00

As you walk through life, you will find there are those that own what they do, and there are those that play the victim.

In reality, you hold all the cards to your life, and therefore must fulfill your wants and desires on your terms. There will be collateral damage in your path of life, but it happens.

You actually don’t need anyone to confirm or deny your wants and desires. It’s all on you. Once you develop the mindset of what you truly want, and make your life your own, others, including her, will be asking to be a part of the life and lifestyle you create

David Lee Roth to Sammy Hagar- “you have a party. I, AM THE PARTY ...... “.

It’s all up to you

SorcererKing · 2018-04-23T16:14:16+00:00

Any constructive advice or experience appreciated. (I already know I’m a bad and lousy person).

Concern trolling yourself, that's a new one.

Look man, that quote above there shows that you're in a philosophical crisis. You're experiencing massive cognitive dissonance, feeling guilty for the mismatch between what you say and what you do.

Best advice for you: go to the therapy, try to work out why you need so much female attention and "sick bdsm sh*t" to feel good about yourself. Is it something obvious like you were abused as a child? Or something more subtle? I don't care, so don't tell me here; figure it out for your own sake.

When you get down to the why, the what will handle itself.

88Will88 · 2018-04-23T14:56:12+00:00

Then either stop it or divorce her. Grow up bitch

Triadis3 · 2018-04-22T03:12:30+00:00

Calm your tits.

Not an emergency.

This post is what we call a "victim puke" Means you've been playing the victim...poor baby thinks all his problems stem from external sources. They don't. You have created the shitstorm circulating around your life. You get one puke here... then we'll start making you eat your own vomit.

Stop whipping yourself for wanting to fuck other women... that's how men are. Your purpose is to reconcile needs/wants with your own morality.

You have three choices...

1 - Start fooling around on the side.

2 - Divorce and fuck many many women.

3 - Allow/lead your own wife to be the naughty little slut that is hidden within every woman.

Your problem is you are a blue beta through and through. Your mindset is so feminine I can't even start to unpack the shit that is piled between the lines here.

So, drop the ego, start reading the sidebar, go lift (stop bullshitting yourself that you're "fit"), and start posting in married red pills' weekly Own Your Shit posts. You'll see that you aren't such a special snowflake after all.

I suugest you start with my post which contains a 10 step roadmap for most newbs that appear here so deep in their own shit that they don't know which way is up.

Stay. Learn. Stop shitting on yourself... that's not helping. Own your masculinity. Now drop the ego, shut the fuck up, and get to work.

ex_addict_bro · 2018-04-22T10:29:13+00:00

Mother replacement found. Baby is safe now. Time to get some sex then.

You big big big boi you

noprayerforayear · 2018-04-22T10:35:25+00:00

Read no more Mr. Nice Guy before making any decisions you might regret.

BluepillProfessor · 2018-04-23T15:01:44+00:00

>Lose smartphone, start therapy and stop all kinky stuff.

How about 2 out of 3?

> No issues with her denying sex regularly.

Of course! Because:

> I’m somewhat confident with women, and can regularly get interest

> I can’t help wanting to engage in sick bdsm sh*t which is not really good for a relationship too.

I am not sure that is true. It could be very, very good for the relationship. The problem is you have the wife on a pedestal and cannot treat her like you do the 'other women.' What's the deal? Are you going to leave her up their and dust her occasionally? Or are you going to take her down and get her a little dirty?

> I don’t think I can ever be satisfied with monogamy

Your options are to continue discretely cheating, tell your wife and negotiate a hall pass explaining to her that you have these twisted needs that only a lower quality woman can satisfy, or get divorced.

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2018-04-23T18:59:03+00:00

So what's the kink then you pussy. Own your shit! Is it pegging? I know what you are thinking, that's a very specific kink you brought up there. Am I projecting?

JoATMoN9 · 2018-04-22T03:07:08+00:00

Good luck

chachaChad · 2018-04-22T14:31:29+00:00

Have to admit and be comfortable with who you are.

TheGlassStone · 2018-04-24T03:41:45+00:00

If this isn’t a troll post, I don’t know what is.

ArticulateSavage · 2018-04-25T18:12:31+00:00

I lift occasionally.

Shakin' mah haid...

I need the occasional relief (but not something wife can accept).

I wonder if your weak and pasty body has anything to do with this?

Title	Help! I’m an emotional cheat
Author	pikapikachiu
Upvotes	1
Comments	34
Date	April 22, 2018 2:35 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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