How Do You Keep Grinding?

2023-12-03T03:44:32+00:00

Maybe money, abs and women aren't your mission.

Meteor1x · 2023-12-03T07:24:27+00:00

Goggins frames it pretty acurate: You should not be looking for motivation, motivation does not work as it’s just a current mindset which can be easily overthrown by other life circumstances/decisions. What you are looking for is cultivating callus to make grinding your life. So much for your main question, go read his book if you want to know more, it’s called: can’t hurt me (preferably audio book)

Now, from what I read in your post it becomes pretty obvious that you are lacking a real meaningful mission. Fucking and making money is not a real mission, of course when it gets saturated you will get bored of it. You got some soul searching to do to find the answer to this.

Sepean · 2023-12-03T10:48:36+00:00

At some point, you hit diminishing returns. Find something you enjoy.

AlohaMaui808 · 2023-12-03T18:34:46+00:00

You've just now passed the tutorial bro.

Now you get to actually play the game.

Great news - its an entirely open world concept, and the only thing holding you back is you.

So, What Do You Want?

Around this point in my life, I just started studying things that interested me while maintaining what I've built in my life.

You've built a platform that allows you to see the land around you, now where do you want to go?

For some guys, figuring this out is one of the most difficult things in their life. So I encourage you to remember - you're not locked in to anything you decide to try.

Maybe you take guitar lessons for 6 months and get decent, but figure out you don't have a passion for creating music. Ok, cool. Just move to the next thing that interests you.

For me I'm generally looking for something I can again pour my heart and soul into that I hope will leave a lasting impact. I want to give back after the world has given me such abundance. Your core might call out for something different.

When is the last time you read or listened to WOTSM?

CreatineCapsule · 2023-12-03T08:28:59+00:00

Imo, realise that none of it really fucking matters and do what you enjoy (process rather than goal oriented) without compromising the base that you’ve built. Mission and grinding seems like more and more of a corporate scam the further along the journey I go.

Some spiritual goals might be good, I gained a lot of insight from a 10 day silent meditation retreat

DanubianDelusion · 2023-12-03T08:10:06+00:00

https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/podcast-598-journeying-from-the-first-to-the-second-half-of-life/

jazerac · 2023-12-03T14:11:31+00:00

Ya once you have a good women, make solid money, get out of debt and maybe have a kid or 2, anything else provides significantly diminished returns. I just find hobbies to focus on. Trying to become a scratch golfer. It's enjoyable and fulfilling. Does it mean anything at the end? Nope... but what does really?

-craven-moorehead- · 2023-12-03T14:34:20+00:00

As others have said, you need to find a mission. Something in life that lights and keeps the fire under you. Something that you would at least seriously consider giving up everything else to see through.

In the meantime, DO NOT LET OFF THE GAS ON EVERYTHING ELSE. Once you think you've "made it" is when you can hit a serious backslide.

I see from one comment that you're going to read Unchained Man 2.0, which you have been slacking on. If you think there may be value in reading it, then read it. If not, don't. But if you are slacking on this, what else are you slacking on?

Also, for the things that you listed as goal posts you have reached, can you do better? I'm not saying doubling down is necessarily the way to go, but:

150k per year after tax, own 2 houses - can you find ways to increase this? Start a business? Can you continue growing your real estate holdings to the point that you can have enough passive income to live off? On the contrary, do you enjoy your work enough to continue pushing down this path? If I recall, Horns walked away from a ~500k per year executive job and changed his lifestyle so that he was doing what he enjoyed.

Lifting and BF - if I recall from OYS you're jacked and likely close to your muscular potential (or exceeded if you're not natty). This is diminishing returns, maintain here, IMO.

Get laid when you want - consider plates? Not for everyone, but DoneDreadPirate has a good writeup on plates while married.

It all comes down to knowing what you want and doing what you need to do to make it happen. But the biggest battle is being honest with yourself, are you where you want to be, are you living at your edge?

handybh89 · 2023-12-03T23:54:18+00:00

Your cup is so full it's overflowing. Now is the time to give back to the community. Help those who need it. Make something better than it was before.

Persimmon_Dazzling · 2023-12-04T11:46:48+00:00

Stop consuming. Create someting new.

feargrinn · 2023-12-05T13:33:37+00:00

You’re citing things you already had coming in. You’re bored because your n count is still one and nobody’s given you permission to do something about it: have at it.

thewayof-vikings · 2023-12-09T13:56:54+00:00

U just do.

Great base and the foundation of an attractive man so keep at it. If your in the what's next or now what phase, maybe you need something spiritual checkout r/RPchristians.

Maybe it's time to grow your family? My first three kids are girls, but when I had a son even at 39 it is so fun having a mini me running around. Always down to wrestle and remembers to piss on the compost pile.

I've also found finding a hobby you love then pushing it to extremes is fun too. For instance I love gardening although I'm in the north I figured out how to do it year round and I've eaten daily out of it since July of last year. Hunted with a rifle instead of shotgun for the first time this year. I'm good to 200 yards with some practice and research I think I can dial that baby into 400. Used to think no that's not hunting but then realizing what it would take to drop an animal at 400 yards it's become quite appealing to me.

corvid-19corvid-19 · 2023-12-03T04:17:36+00:00

$700 and I can share. Not kidding

kvakerok · 2023-12-03T18:37:23+00:00

Look for a way to change the world to be more to your liking.

Cam_Winston21 · 2023-12-03T23:51:10+00:00

Are you really asking us how we continue to do the things that have been proven to make life better?

byteseed · 2023-12-07T15:16:14+00:00

>and I'm not sure how to keep on driving now that I'm most of the way to where I want to be
You don't.
Motivation is for pussies.

If you think you achieved something by having two houses and getting laid, maybe you have lame goals. "do better than yesterday" is not a goal.
I want to invent a new gene therapy is a goal.
I want to conquer every mountain in the world is a goal.
I want to build a new electric car is a goal.
You should have goals as big as your life.

Title	How Do You Keep Grinding?
Author	BecomingABetterMan1
Upvotes	12
Comments	35
Date	December 3, 2023 3:28 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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