ignoring her... yay or nay.

stonepimpletilists · 2017-03-02T16:38:54+00:00

she was then cuddling. kissing me. trying to get my attention. i was still a bit aloof minus an arm around her. otherwise, i got some rest and felt great. didnt affect my emotions one bit!

You're reveling in this 'punishment'. And she called you on it.

This reads to me like the opposite of being aloof and DNGAF. You're holding your engagement as contingent of her never getting emotional on you, thats a fools errand. Pick your battles.

If she did behaviour that's not on (throwing shit, hitting etc) then you need to shut that shit down... hard. Not "How can she slap!" but more like this. Granted, not everything is a next situation, I'm hoping you know how to dial it back from this example.

Want to know what aloof is? Aloof is not caring if she wants one or not. If she asks, then theres plenty of examples here on how to AM or fog this. Aloof is not caring that she was emotional last night. Aloof would have watched her run her mouth, and figured 'running your mouth requires one dick of payment for my time'

So to answer your question, don't do anything, have a smile, poke fun at her for raving like a lunatic, and turn it sexual, because then you can give a shit what she's talking about. That's your mini come-to-jesus speech. The best way to engage you is to keep you happy and receptive... In this case, through sex, being pleasant.

Either way, you're using a lot of words to convince yourself you are aloof, not bothered, and not responding to shit. You're psyching yourself up with bullshit. You're pissed, you're emotional, and you're now revelling in this punishment... That'll show her, right guise!

Granted, it's good you at least kept your bitch beta ways to yourself, it's the last thing she wants to hear...

SexistFlyingPig · 2017-03-02T20:00:30+00:00

She doesn't want an apology.

She wants sex.

You won the argument by leaving. She came to bed and was cuddling. The argument is now as relevant as the price of tea in China. She bluffed that she was leaving, and you called her bluff. When she came to bed she wanted sex.

There's nothing tricky going on here. You're leading. She's following. Just close the deal and go to work the next day.

cholomite · 2017-03-02T16:41:25+00:00

She basically flat out told you "I'm a woman, I'm crazy and emotional and you should not take me seriously. Please be my rock and not give a fuck about my crazy mood swings"

You're letting her emotions influence you, and that's not good. If she's pissed, let her be pissed. You don't care because you see it for what it is, the crazy emotions if a child in an adults body. Don't try to change her mind, try to change her mood. Don't take her or her feelings seriously, always stay upbeat and positive and cocky and funny and all that shit. I always give my girl a big hug when she comes back to me after acting crazy. It shows her that her feelings don't influence me like they influence her and she loves it.

fakefalse · 2017-03-02T16:28:45+00:00

When I reach an impasse, and STFU has been exhausted, I revert to the classics...

(.)(.)

Be stupid and fun. Gets em everytime.

BobbyPeru · 2017-03-02T17:51:03+00:00

What were you trying to accomplish by being "aloof" - this looks like a comfort test... Easily handled with a 10 second kiss, hug...

You're overthinking it.

GongShanks · 2017-03-03T13:44:36+00:00

Show me you love me!

zipppppppp*

Evil grin. And hold your frame.

Seriously. You might have missed an opportunity for awesome sex. You had her feels at a fever pitch here.

ignoring her... yay or nay.

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Title	ignoring her... yay or nay.
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Date	March 2, 2017 4:03 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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