Read all the sidebar, lifting, About nine months in.

I have a condition where my eyes swell sometimes. The wife and I have been planning to have a breakfast with about eight family members and her brother's girlfriend tomorrow morning. When I woke up this morning my right eye was swollen and almost completely shut. I suggested to the wife that we cancel the party.

She insisted that we still have the party. I whined like a bitch about it for a bit and then STFU. It doesn't really hurt, just cosmetic temporarily. So, my gut feeling is that I should just man up and stop complaining about it.

I've been taking leadership at the family gatherings, and mentally this is a bit of a challenge. I suppose it's probably all mental and I'm being a pussy.

Anyway, wondering if anybody has any suggestions about how to handle this mentally/emotionally and maintain leadership status and frame at the party tomorrow