Recently divorced, need advice.

sicrm · 2021-07-18T02:48:25+00:00

you need to clear your head.

pick a place you always wanted to visit and book a flight if you can.

ilove702 · 2021-07-18T04:18:46+00:00

Skinny fat and bad hair is your problem. You need the confidence the gym body gives you then everything else comes automatically.

For hair dont cut or shave any hair that grows on your body for a month then book an appointment at a mens salon tell the stylist you need him to craft a repeatable attractive look and teach you how to maintain it. Best $100 you can spend in your life.

Your style is to help you attract the type of women you want to attract, read up on archetypes and what types of women are drawn and repulsed by each archetype. Then look up style examples of that archetype online and start putting together outfits that fit that archetype. It easy and fun to dress when you have a ripped body, embarrassing when flabby which is why lifting is so important.

BobbyPeru · 2021-07-18T07:35:28+00:00

Book of Pook is decent from the sidebar

You should never stop day gaming, even if you are in a relationship. You need to stay fresh in that area for various reasons. But don’t be in a hurry to get in a relationship.

That doesn’t make sense that you have ONEitis and you are the one who filed, so I’m guessing you aren’t telling us some key information.

For now, continue to focus on the gym, the sidebar, and take a bunch of time to reflect about how you can improve your life and your frame. Also reflect on what happened to your marriage.

thisisme0007 · 2021-07-18T03:14:28+00:00

You should be at your peak. Instead, you're the shitshow and you're not talking at all about what you've done to fix your blue pill mental models.

If someone gives you a link to the best gumroad course on how to game women, what makes you think you're not just going to screw things up again with someone else?

1nt3grity · 2021-07-18T03:31:09+00:00

Looking through your post history, it seems you never did the work here. Start by making yourself a better man. The last thing you need is another hoe to go and save.

The go plan is the same as the stay plan.

Anathem · 2021-07-18T07:05:51+00:00

what are your lifts? what's your bodyweight and fat %?

Ole-Guy · 2021-07-19T00:46:03+00:00

I (38M)

I even joined Tinder and Bumble looking, but it's a shitshow.

Any man that is over the age of 25~ should be mainly focusing on day & night game - period. Once you become attractive enough both physically and mentally, you will be in the top 20% of men out there on the sexual marketplace. You aren't attractive - yet... You need to focus on reading and internalizing the material on the sidebar, lifting heavy like your dick depends on it (PS: IT DOES!), and becoming a man that is OI and living life on his own terms.

You have work to do. You have weight to lose, you have muscle to build, you have your frame to work on, you have to learn to be social, you have to learn game. You are nowhere close to the imaginary finish line that all of the larping fagg*ts seem to push towards. You are on hard mode for the rest of your life. Men need to become attractive first before even thinking about dating women, let alone promoting a woman to relationship/LTR status. The reality here is that you won't be in a relationship for at least 2 to 3 years (min.) until you are able to plate women for at least a year. Get to fucking work!

PPS: Your post history shows that you are a balls deep BP fagg*t.

PPPS: You have done zero work on yourself and it's all your fault.

bob--man · 2021-07-19T00:58:04+00:00

I think I am better off doing day approaches or meeting women in person.

If you want to date and even promote a woman to LTR status down the road, going out and day gaming is the best selection. My current SO was a woman that I approached and opened up. She was in my pipeline for around a year in a half before promoting her to a relationship. In my opinion, some of the best women I have dated were women that I met out and about. If you become attractive and social, you should have no problem with it. At the end of the day, everything is a numbers game. Texting is logistics only too. Once you get better with openers, approaching, escalating, and closing, it will just be something that comes naturally to you. Keep the hammer down on your lifts and diet to make yourself more attractive. Everything else will follow after you work on yourself.

ArgentinaMRP · 2021-07-19T00:50:28+00:00

Your post history is... Creepy? Bad tinder screenshots? Going to the relationship subreddit? Holy fuck, you are a dumpster fire of retarded douchebaggery. STFU, sidebar, learn about dread, lift weights regularly, diet, and get out and talk to people without being a creep. Lose your gut as attractive women don't fuck unattractive men...

jdogworld · 2021-07-18T02:52:39+00:00

Trunk Club for clothes

business----travel · 2021-07-18T19:33:03+00:00

What books would you suggest reading to learn to game women?

Any suggestions for a clothing service that could help me develop my style?

All the answers you are looking for are located in the sidebar. The fact that you are skinny fat will be a major problem for you in the sexual marketplace. You should be lifting religiously and dialing in your diet. That should be your main focus first before worrying about buying new clothing.

husky-viper · 2021-07-18T19:56:30+00:00

I'm just about 12 months ahead of you. My divorce was finalized last June.

Stay clear of serious relationships for now. They will only prevent you from dealing with all the garbage that's built up in you over the duration of your marriage. If you don't think you can deal with women without getting oneitis, then don't try and start anything. Now's a time to heal.

Healing is hard work, too. The sidebar is your friend. So are the men here; metaphorically speaking. Some of these assholes would rather spit on you than look at you, and some will spit on you and tell you to man the fuck up. They're right. But part of manning up is dealing with your emotions instead of covering them with women, mission, hobbies, and all that other endlessly empty doing of stuff.

In my life, God has been the major healing force, unearthing all the anger and bitterness, speaking truth to the lies of self worth, and so on.

[edit] seems like you missed the boat in a lot of things: get your body fixed too. I doubt you will. Most guys that "start strong" in this stuff fizzle. You've got an opportunity to reset your mind and body. [/edit]

BigBoiBahmani · 2021-07-19T02:02:21+00:00

Mystery Method is a must.

Remember, Actions drive mindset. Not the other way around. Do what you will with that.

Stellarhit · 2021-07-18T09:25:05+00:00

Hey buddy, i have gone through a similar journey. Pluss add one rebound with a borderline personality disorder chick. Believe me when I say this; fuck online datin! It lessens your SMV by maybe 3 steps. That means if you are a 6 you will be datinf 3-4s. Learn game!

Also, and this is the most important thing. You need time to heal. I’m 2 years down the line and only now am I starting to get back to myself. First now am I happy being single and comfortable on my own. I didn’t realise how slow the process is and I thought I was fine, but it takes a long time to acclimate one set to such a big reality shift.

Look forward and do your best to distance yourself from your ex, separation is the best cure for a broken heart.

Good luck fellow traveler!

Title	Recently divorced, need advice.
Author	Annon-1
Upvotes	8
Comments	49
Date	July 18, 2021 1:48 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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