While this is an occurrence in my bedroom from time to time, I am writing this post because I have heard this complaint from many other men and I want to help myself and them. What has me confused is that some of these men are fit, and in some cases jacked and/or ripped. Most of the men whom I talk to are upper-middle class. They dress well. They have masculine personalities and carry themselves well. They're not pansies. My question is this: What are we(these men, and me) missing? Our behavior? The way we treat our wives? It seems we all want better quality sex, not even necessarily more of it, but we want it to be better. We want out wives to be much more into it instead of the starfish. Looking for advice for myself and my buddies.