When does it "click"?

ImSteveMcQueen · 2017-11-02T21:30:05+00:00

You start making it when you starting acting for yourself instead of pleasing others.

The first time you realize this is when someone challenges you and you say "Yes, I did." and DGAF instead of DEERing. That is when you are operating in your frame without compromising for others.

chachaChad · 2017-11-03T15:38:18+00:00

It clicks for me in subtle, little ways over time. It clicked when she was down on her knees blowing me like she's never blown me before. It clicked when I took my shirt off to shower and caught the sight of my new muscles in the mirror. It clicked when I noticed she was coming in for a hug with her head on my chest more than usual. It clicked when I woke up and didn't have the sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach that told me I was a worthless loser. I clicked when I noticed women smiled at me without me smiling first. It clicks when she throws a level 5 shit storm and I don't melt. It clicked this morning when I got up a little early to work on my own project instead of getting lost in my thoughts about how shitty the marriage was.

I have a long, long way to go but I'm eking out progress. The anger is still there but it's going away slowly.

TakeEverything · 2017-11-02T20:02:43+00:00

I have noticed though that I am more open to talking to people in elevators, passing by, etc, before I wouldn't.

It's already working.

It doesn't all click at one time.

mrpthrowa · 2017-11-02T20:56:51+00:00

It never does. It's a continuous life process.

RPTA3498 · 2017-11-02T20:57:56+00:00

I think TRP/MRP is like a jigsaw puzzle. You start by building the border and continue to fill in the pieces, you'll start to get an idea of what the picture looks like and the more you read the more of the picture becomes clearer. At first, you'll have no idea what the picture because you don't have a box to look at, some people are able to envision the final product before others.

BobbyPeru · 2017-11-02T21:09:17+00:00

There’s always a knuckleball or some other pitch you haven’t seen.

But, the short answer is it depends on how much effort you put into it. With a good amount of effort, you should see strong frame gains (that you aren’t faking) in 12-18 months.

Ultimately, it depends on the person and people involved. Every situation is different.

Now, quit asking autistic questions, and get to work.

simbarlion · 2017-11-02T21:31:32+00:00

Its like having a baby. First 3 months is total confusion. Then the pieces fall into place, but you still don't know what you are doing....but you can 'see' it. Slowly you get it.

Only recently have i started to want to be at the gym. Only recently have i started to see muscle definition. Only recently have i paid full attention to the subtleties of ioi's from randoms. The double take, the smile. The unexpected niceties.

Most importantly, recently have i come to understand how my wife communicates positively and negatively in a covert way, and how i can manage these interactions for my benefit. I realised a while ago her obsession with scratching and picking at my back was one of her ways of showing affection, I used to hate this. Still not my favourite activity but i respect it for what it is.

Still have not got close to mastering frame, STFU (my weakness), dominance, although there are good signs.

Biggest difference for me is i now see what i do wrong.

I'm 6 months in.

screechhater · 2017-11-02T23:10:37+00:00

domino effect

Read this over and over concentrate on Lesson 8

Sepean · 2017-11-03T07:48:24+00:00

Who the fuck knows? Some guys have it naturally, some guys couldn't hold frame if their kid's life depended on it. Some guys can internalize the red pill after they've practiced and see that it works, others will have to fake it all their life.

If what you're looking for is some reassurance like "don't worry bro, it'll stop being hard in 3 months", you've got a fundamentally flawed approach to this. Embrace the suck, bro.

TheFamilyAlpha · 2017-11-03T12:13:04+00:00

When you stop thinking about the act and just do it.

Some guys spend months inside their head analyzing every interaction, others just flip the switch a few weeks in.

You'll have to stop worrying so much about A/b and just do what you want.

Eventually you'll look back and realize that for the past 2 months, you've done so much and never thought about it.

red-sfpplus · 2017-11-03T14:23:38+00:00

When you can legitimately say "I don't give a fuck."

This isn't just about women, it is about everything.

I am selling an investment property of mine. The people buying it are so emotionally invested in it, it is sick. They HAVE to HAVE IT. I didn't come down $1.00 on price, not fixing anything else, nothing.

I seriously didn't care if they walked or still walk, because there are TONS of people out there wanting to buy houses. Why someone thinks, that one particular house is the absolute only house they can have it crazy. People get Oneitis on everything.

That is when it clicked for me. OI on EVERYTHING.

FireTempered · 2017-11-04T04:07:41+00:00

It does not ever "click". It is, and always will be, a continuum.

Think of it as learning a new language. At first you study the language. Then you try to use the language, and you learn communicate somewhat. As you think and converse in that new medium, over time, you will become increasingly fluent.

Three years now, still learning everyday. What has changed, I learn faster.

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2017-11-04T13:51:06+00:00

When you see results, it clicks. Until then it's simply one of many possibilities in your head.

ReddJive · 2017-11-04T16:36:54+00:00

When you stop thinking about it.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-11-07T04:00:36+00:00

when is it that one goes from faking it to really making it?

The first time I stepped into my Karate training room I cornered one of the instructors demanding to know how long it would take to get a black belt.

He took off his belt and handed it to me. "Put it on, you can be a black belt right now."

Title	When does it "click"?
Author	AlphadustBeta
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Comments	25
Date	November 2, 2017 7:52 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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