"Why do you love me so much?"

Remington-Holmes · 2022-10-06T20:05:02+00:00

From your brief description of the context, this is my guess:

"I have once more knowingly and deliberately trampled all over what you tell me is 'a boundary'. From past experience, I know you'll get upset and act like a little bitch for a while. Ultimately I know there will be zero consequences for me shitting all over you time after time. WHY DO YOU TOLERATE THIS YOU FUCKING RETARD??????? I DON'T RESPECT YOU, AND I'M ACTIVELY PISSING ALL OVER YOUR GOALS BY SQUANDERING YOUR MONEY. GROW A SPINE AND MAKE ME STOP BEFORE I WRECK YOUR ENTIRE LIFE! I'M BORED WITH THIS RELATIONSHIP AND I'M POKING A BEAR WITH A STICK, BUT THE BEAR APPEARS TO BE DEAD".

Your wife also knows that she's not satisfying you sexually, and there are also no consequences for that either. 'Why do you love me so much?' means why do you let me get away with this when I'm not fulfilling your needs.

Women like your wife are bored in the relationship. She's not excited imaging you ripping her clothes of and taking her. Her mind isn't kept busy by trying to please you and add value to your life because you'll VERY PREDICTABLY tolerate all the bad behaviour. You are boring, humdrum and predictable - no challenge. To keep boredom at bay, she'll find other occupations, to give dopamine hits like squandering money, and even picking fights with you. The more tolerant, boring, predictable and whipped you become, the worse she will be.

Wife needs consequences for not meeting your needs and expectations. Standard MRP approach is SIDEBAR AND LIFT because the consequences are as follows: - You become physically strong, lean and attractive - You build your hobbies, social networks and social life, and find other things in life to appreciate, keep you happy. That social life (largely independent of wife) builds character, confidence, happiness and independence - The above removes time with wife, and time spent pandering to her.

As time goes by, and she continues to step over boundaries, and continually turn you down for sex, you will become less tolerant of her. You will see her as less and less value, and you will want to spend your valuable time elsewhere.

The time will come eventually when you point out that she has overspent again, but now your mindset has changed. You will not need to explain why what she has done is bad. You will not be whining or pleading her not to do it again and SHE WILL NOT DARE SHIT TEST YOU AND ASK YOU WHY YOU LOVE HER SO MUCH.

All it will take is to read your expression and body language and she will know that she has royally fucked up, that there will be serious consequences to betraying you and that she had better get on your program or she will be more or less erased from your life. It's clear that your love is no longer unconditional. You are a fun and interesting guy that values himself, his time, the fruits of his labour and loyalty. If she's still frigid, it's definitely time to head out to bang some other women. She may try to apologise. She may want to talk it through, make excuses, rationalise her behaviour or even brazenly make it out to be your fault, if you're stupid enough to engage. By this point, you're beyond that. You know that verbal intercourse is optional, and so is your presence. You'll know not to engage in arguments with an emotional woman, and you'll feel zero guilt, anger or shame as you walk away. Your boundaries exist now.

Tyred_Biggums · 2022-10-04T19:30:18+00:00

It’s often asked after we’ve had some disagreement, let’s say I’ve criticized her for overspending from our savings again.

Stop talking about it and take action.

Lock it up in I-Bonds (thanks /u/inchargeman) Alternatively take your paycheck and put somewhere that she can’t touch.

“Why do you love me so much?”

have fun with it. sounds like a shit test if after your “discussion”. If she’s coming to you crying with snot bubbles it’s a different story.

“certainly not your financial acumen” - with a smile

“your tits”

don’t take things seriously if a shit test.

for comfort tests: at advanced levels you can fog with inquiry. “why would you ask that question?”. “what makes you believe i don’t”

And lastly, there’s always the tried and true STFU.

One day youll be able to say a ton with just a look and not open your mouth.

BobbyPeru · 2022-10-04T23:06:26+00:00

It’s a sub-communication/shit test combo. Basically, she’s saying why do you love me so much when I don’t love you so much… but she’s also making sure your mental fitness level hasn’t changed (shit test part). You handle it the same way you’d handle any other shit test.

When do you STFU? Always. Especially in your case.

AnySandwich7450 · 2022-10-05T11:02:08+00:00

"Why do you love me so much?"

"Because I have Oneitis. "

"Because I put your pussy on a pedestal."

"Because I tell you every day at least 20 times a day."

"Because I believe in the Disney Love Story."

"Because you are The One."

"Because I'm fat and fear that you might leave me. "

"Because I have no other options available. "

"Because I have nothing better to do with my energies than invest them into you. "

"Because of all the billions of two legged human animals in the world, the vagina between your legs is the only one I have a vague opportunity of shooting my load into once in a blue moon. "

Subconciously, she already knows that these - and other similar responses - are the only truthful ones.

The challenge for you is not to come up with some clever MRP phrases from the "Alpha Playbook", but to become a man who doesn't get asked these type of questions by any woman, ever.

The only real question she should have for you in this regard is "Do you love me?"

De_Carabas_of_Below · 2022-10-04T21:21:10+00:00

Maybe she can't work out why you're still there after she's bitch-slapped you so much?

As for your question: STFU and leave the room, until your frame is stronger.

Aubrey_D_Graham · 2022-10-04T22:33:42+00:00

Maybe I'm a dumbass, but I'd try to lead her to the bedroom and provide comfort through sex. If she's obstinant, then I'd change course since this is now a shit test. I'd respond with DARE or remove my attention.

mrpthrowa · 2022-10-05T09:19:33+00:00

"Why do you love me so much?"

"I do???!?!"

"How the hell did you get that impression?"

"I love your tits"

omured · 2022-10-05T09:39:33+00:00

Solipsism 101 : "there is love around, it must be here because of me"

In the long run, you may get to a point where the following is not only a set of words, but your truth: "I do not love YOU. I DO love, and you just happen to be around".

adeptintact · 2022-10-09T22:50:06+00:00

To me the correct response is amused mastery. I'd say because you suck my dick well.

Title	"Why do you love me so much?"
Author	AnySandwich7450
Upvotes	8
Comments	29
Date	October 4, 2022 7:36 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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