35 year old virgin

PimPedOutGeese · 2019-05-13T21:58:00+00:00

Let's see here... First things first read the sidebar. All of it. Take your time. Ingest it all. Now.... Reread it. Do it again you missed a few things.

I'm 35 yrs old and I'm black and have successfully had relations (do we still call it that?) with multiple younger women... And funny that? We both have the same preference for white girls. Can't get enough of em.

A couple of things first the good:

Your black. Couldn't care less what anyone on here says about the subject. Being black gives you a straight up advantage. You are forbidden fruit by nature. White women will have sex with you just to spite there dads. INCLUDING "racist" women. Could care less my dick is getting wet. Now don't forget though... Just like you have a preference for white women some women don't find black men attractive so I wont go too crazy here. It is what it is....

Your height and weight is a GREAT starting point. Most people need to lose weight. Seems like you just need to bulk up.

The bad:

Porn. Needs to stop. I was also addicted to porn. It will kill every drive in you man. Not only that but it'll stop you from performing when it's actually time to do it.

Mindset in general. Stop the woe is me bullshit. Stop it! Start thinking positive shit about yoir life. Did you wake up today? All right then today was a good day.

Dating younger and your an older black taboo... Bullshit! Thats a preconceived notion in your on fuckin head. You can do what the fuck you want. And fuck whoever gives a shit.

The fix:

Sidebar. Read it. Own your shit. Stop being a fuckin loser! Get a fuckin job. Flip fuckin burgers for minimum wage for fucks sake but get SOME kind of income. Start lifting. Get a membership after you get a job. Stronglifts is a fantastic starter program for you. Internalize the concepts taught here and PRACTICE talking to women. Just fucking talk to them. Hold a conversation passed hello.

You can DM me if you want. Feel free.

mybro_ · 2019-05-13T21:48:08+00:00

Getting a job is your number one priority right now.

Cutting porn is probably the easiest thing you can do right now.

Unless you have extreme self-esteem (which you don't), you can't expect success with women if you're pathetic.

Also, at that age I'd seriously consider an escort.

[deleted] · 2019-05-13T21:39:23+00:00

Become the best version of yourself. Don't expect so much when the effort you put in is so little in return.

Poltergeist-God · 2019-05-13T21:24:57+00:00

35 yo,broke,virgin,bad looks,addicted to porn,no future and you demand a hot 21 year old woman?That's what I call audacity my friend. You're a 35 yo virgin for a reason.

notdoreen · 2019-05-13T21:56:32+00:00

It's never too late to get your shit together. Start now.

Figure out what you need to do to make more money, what you need to do to get in better shape, and what you need to do to be better with women.

Then focus on doing these things, every single day.

Neil Strauss was around your age when he discovered pickup. He was 5'6, balding, out of shape, and didn't get laid. Now he is still 5'6, completely bald, and has gotten more laid than half the people on this sub. It's never too late but you need to take action.

Bigblackbuck73 · 2019-05-13T22:31:35+00:00

Read, learn, lift. Don’t ever stop.

In addition, get 3 hobbies:

1 that is your creative outlet 1 that brings you secondary income 1 that helps keep you fit.

Do that until you are happy with yourself and the women will come to you.

Whisper · 2019-05-14T00:51:43+00:00

What have you done on your own to improve your situation?

SalesAficionado · 2019-05-13T22:11:28+00:00

go get some shit job, save up ~5k, buy a plane ticket to bangkok, take a bus to pattaya, and fuck hookers everyday for a month. you'll be revitalized and probably invigorated to go "do something."

FixYourselfFirst · 2019-05-13T21:28:24+00:00

Ask u/FixYourselfFirst or.. just read his username and follow the advice.

Aymane221 · 2019-05-13T22:18:15+00:00

Hit the god damn gym and stop the porn wtf

Andgelyo · 2019-05-13T22:28:56+00:00

Start lifting, eating more, upping your wardrobe. Apply for any job at this point just to makes ends meet. If you can’t get a job start volunteering somewhere just to put it on your resume.

Either way DO SOMETHING. Time is the most valuable thing in the world and you are wasting it away.

communistcontrolact · 2019-05-13T22:21:16+00:00

Just go to se Asia and fuck hookers

[deleted] · 2019-05-13T23:23:05+00:00

Get a hooker to lose your v-card, then internalize sidebar and begin your journey. Good luck :)

umizumiz · 2019-05-14T14:18:17+00:00

1st.

Stop the porn.

2nd.

Listen to the other, more esteemed members' comments you're receiving lol

boy_named_su · 2019-05-14T16:12:33+00:00

read the sidebar on / r / theredpill , twice
read Models by Manson and Gorilla Mindset
find a mission (a career you enjoy) and work on that
you're a skinny little bitch. eat more and hit the gym:

calculate your TDEE, add 500 calories

find your protein requirements on examine.com

start StrongLifts 5x5, but add Dips and Chinups

creatine, zinc, magnesium, omega3, vitamin D

Once you're in shape and have some money from working, figure out your wardrobe on malefashionadvice wiki

FixYourselfFirst · 2019-05-14T01:46:15+00:00

Truthfully, it's going to be 2-3 years before you can get laid. You've got so much work to do. There's a lot of mental issues you need to correct.

Get a job, any minimum wage job
Track your calories, eat +250 above your TDEE
Join a gym, just do treadmill for the first month
After a month, do Stronglifts 5x5 3 times per week
Report back here every month with your progress.
After six months, come back here for stage 2

sleepyatworktoo · 2019-05-14T14:33:22+00:00

First, your mindset is straight up fucked brah. You need some tough love.

Frfr, You have the mentality of a frustrated white 16 year old reddit poster and let your fears consume you for far too long. Where's your black support system to DDT you through a table smh. The community has FAILED you.

Contrary to popular belief, you're BLACK and that's an ADVANTAGE. Being black an utilizing that shit correctly is ALWAYS an advantage. But..You're not at an advantage because you're "forbidden fruit." You're at an advantage because you've hit the f'n genetic/swag jackpot and you're wasting it wallowing in self pity.

Red Pill is dope -- but alot of it needs to be tweaked for the mentality of black people. You're a prime example why.

If your main concern is gettin ass, you need to focus on your mouthpiece. Broke black people bag dimes all day off of straight GAME and self belief and you're on here saying " should i give up porn! omg im old! its taboo! wahhh!!" "I need to up my resources!" "stronglifts!" "creative hobbies!" FOH.

Before you do anything.. get your mind right. Make a conscious decision *outloud* to change the way how you think about yourself now. If the first thing that pops up in your head is hesitation or an excuse, you're weak and actually subconsciously prefer your current situation.

You obviously have a long battle ahead, my friend. As a 35 year old black guy who prefers black women, white women are easy af to get to me (if i wanted them) because of the lessons I've learned being in tune with my own community. Quality white women don't want black guys who aren't desired by their own women. And black men don't want black men around them who whine on message boards about being a virgin.

You've been placated far too f'n long.

All this red pill side bar lift job stem career blah blah blah ish dont mean shit until you can bag black women.

The quickest way to get your game on point is to step to black women because unlike white women, they'll viciously tear your game down and FORCE you to stop being a bitch and get your mouthpiece on point.

Look within, my brother. Self correcting REALLY does not take years. You can seriously course correct tomorrow if you MAN UP and reconnect with the ancestors.

H_Crush · 2019-05-14T07:01:29+00:00

I like all the encouragment and I think you can theoretically make it but only with focus being on improving yourself, perhaps eventually banging low quality women/prostitutes just to get some confidence up and don't have the thought of being a virgin in the back of your mind, although you can frame it as not important or right how it should be atm if you get a good plan/mindset.

Your focus should be on yourself and feeling better, at the moment it's more important than getting pussy. After improving mindset, getting disciplined and having goals you're passionate about, only then can you give some of your focus on women. Or rather ignore everything and go the full pick up route to later find out woman were not your real problem.

In that age, if you find a drive, it could be a huge turnaround. The reason you want the hot 21-30 has probably the same roots as your addiction to porn or rather has something to do with it. If you just want to bang them, get prostitutes. If you want to be desired by them, you know what you have to do. But know as long as you live for that reason, something's wrong. It's a great feeling to be desired by someone but it comes as a byproduct and not from trying hard to be desired because you have a need for it (possible but fake because the foundations were wrong). You need something to trump it all. You may actually need Jesus.

Greaterbird · 2019-05-13T22:34:40+00:00

Lift, obviously, though a gym membership to a decent gym is going to be easier to do after the job. Until then, focus on calisthenics. Check out the bodyweightfittness subreddit.

BurningOrangeHeaven · 2019-05-14T00:09:29+00:00

Gym isnt everything, this guy needa to get a job first thing not fuckin go workout like a moron and pretend thats going to solve his problems. At 35 you need to have money coming in bro.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-05-14T06:15:38+00:00

You're not so much putting the cart in front of the horse,but taking the wheel off the cart, putting it in front of both, and expecting it to pull both the horse and the one wheeled cart.

Get a job and get your career back on track, man. Consider learning machining.

Nobody gives a shit how many warm holes your peen has been into.

Incaahhh · 2019-05-14T16:02:15+00:00

What's the most surprising to me is that you have a preference for what kind of girl you want. My advice is to focus more on yourself than who you want to be with. No porn, start exercising, keep busy with shit that matters. Getting laid should not be the goal, but the spoils of self-improvement

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-05-14T12:38:54+00:00

This has got to be a troll

Lambdal7 · 2019-05-14T13:04:24+00:00

It’s simple.

Stop watching porn. You’ll become very twitchy, nervous with lots of energy
Lift
Get a job and then a stem, law, business or medical degree and then a job that pays $100,000.

This will all probably take 10 years. There are no short cuts.

BlueStrawCup · 2019-05-14T02:00:29+00:00

Woman here. Well, Black guys are not attractive to me.

Title	35 year old virgin
Author	Teddyfresh23
Upvotes	31
Comments	54
Date	May 13, 2019 9:23 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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