Ask IllimitableMan - June 2015

GayLubeOil · 2015-06-15T19:21:12+00:00

Would you be interested in getting together with the other endorsed contributors and publishing a Red Pill handbook to preserve this communities values in case of a ban?

Have you considered tailoring some of your content to Red Pills 17 year old ADHD crew.

Do you believe that speed limits apply to you, or do you consider yourself Illimitable in that regard as well?

Temuzjin · 2015-06-15T19:46:37+00:00

As a TRP newbie, I'm very grateful for yet surprised by the amount of energy and time you and other TRP veterans are expending to help other people for free. I'm sure you personally have enough knowledge and discipline already to basically do whatever you want to do, so why are you choosing to spend your valuable time on TRP? Is becoming just a tiny bit more knowledgeable yourself worth the time investment, is it charity, is it a hobby, is it a "perfection in all things" philosophy, something else?

pcmaniacxx · 2015-06-15T18:39:08+00:00

Hello!

I wanted to ask something about having all the answers and internalizing them in a way that they are embedded deep inside you. Basically an internal level change, what process is it usually that takes place in the transformation and how do you generally come to accept a belief that you believe to be right but not in a pragmatic manner (say TRP principles)?

And one more question, how do you remove the notion of the 'time running out' when you try to focus on multiple things and your productivity generally deteriorates rather than increase?

soontobgrad · 2015-06-15T19:45:17+00:00

IM: Your redpill antibiotic nuke post was one of the best I have ever read in my entire life, by that, I mean one of the entire internet. Now that I have let you know about that, I want to ask you a question that has been bugging me for weeks ever since I have finished school. I realize you're British so you can't completely relate to me about this (I am an American) but I thought I'd give it a chance.

Unlike a lot of the red pill sub, I am not a late bloomer, I learned the game much earlier (started when i was 14) and made decisions throughout my adolescence and college years that led to favorable circumstances in terms of getting laid. In high school, I played sports to raise my status and hook up with some hot girls. I also went to a high school in the upper middle class neighborhoods which meant we had a lot of hot girls my age.

After high school, I went to college where I would get a bid for one of the biggest and most respected houses on my campus. My college is a big state university with thousands of hot girls. I slept with a good number of attractive girls and it seemed so easy, it was all in front of me.

I graduated college this past spring semester and ever since then I have been worrying about life. I feel like I experienced all there is to experience in terms of women, getting laid, and having fun/partying. In a way, I feel very jaded and feel as if there is nothing for me in the future. Never in my life will I be around an abundance of hot girls, have an easy time making friends, and so much free time on my hands.

Now I feel like I have experienced all that the game has to offer me now. I feel like at this point, I will be pushing myself and fighting for scraps because so many of the hot girls I knew in college are married and have degraded in looks throughout the 4 years I was there. A part of me feels like there is nothing the world can offer me now that will rival my amazing experience in college and I just feel so jaded about it. So many of these days I have felt like just getting married and having kids as soon as I get a stable career going.

What is the best thing for men in my situation to do? Do I just go into monk mode and find other hobbies? Do I go down the marriage route?

MrEiffel · 2015-06-16T11:05:59+00:00

You've written extensively on the importance of Machiavellianism and the Dark Triad concept for RP people. Articles about it's nature, how it works and how we can and should try to incorporate aspects of it in our daily lives.

But at the same you have also written quite a lot about morality and immorality, which seems to be mutually exclusive with DT & Machiavellianism.

How do you manage this dichotomy? Is the DT & M aspect purely theoretical and the moral aspect your personal conviction? Do you draw a line based on some moral principlecs?

Ralt · 2015-06-15T20:43:42+00:00

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Johnny10toes · 2015-06-15T20:14:06+00:00

What is your process for meditating? In some of your articles you state of stoic meditation and in others suggest zen and the art of archery which would be mindful meditation if I'm right.

LiLBoner · 2015-06-15T23:27:34+00:00

What do you think is the best cure for depression?

AWALT_AWALT_AWALT · 2015-06-21T08:30:36+00:00

Once a man decides he wants to LTR a plate, how should he go about it?

In today's hookup culture, many relationships naturally progress from a more casual fling. A man of value expresses his interest in a woman, and they end up having a sexual relationship. After long enough, one or the other may develop feelings and wish to become exclusive with the other. My question is, what if you're the one who reaches the conclusion that you want to commit to a woman?

From my understanding, TRP theory holds that because men are the gatekeepers of commitment, a healthy relationship is one that a woman requests and a man grants. This allows the man to enter the relationship from a position of power because he is accepting an offer. Of course TRP endorses a male-dominated relationship, so this would seem correct. Also, blue pill men often attempt to nurture an emotional connection/commitment from women before pursuing a sexual relationship with them (they're over-occupied with proving that they respect the woman and desire things from women that women are not wired to provide in a relationship). Would this mean that any and all progressions from a plate to a LTR should be initiated by the woman?

To me, this seems so. If a man is high value enough, any woman he's fucking should desire his commitment; hell, in theory the prospect of an LTR with any plate should rarely be difficult to obtain. Does it necessarily follow from this that if a woman is fucking a man, she would/wants to commit to that man?

What about casual, friends-with-benefits arrangements, in which both the man and woman understand that each other is also seeing other people? That's the situation I've found myself in. I've been sleeping with a girl for a while (one of a few I've got on rotation) but her personality, attitude, etc. have me developing oneitis. Admittedly, I am not against the prospect of pursuing something more serious with this woman, but I'm not sure exactly how to do so. My understandings of this theory tell me that telling her of my feelings would be blue pill. Ideally, she'd be the one pushing for a relationship with me, right?

The way I see it, her commitment to me, while not worth as much as my commitment, is still worth a fair amount. She'd be sacrificing the right to sleep with any/all of the other people she currently is. Would that not mean that for me to expect to secure her commitment that I would need to be the best guy she has?

And if I'm not yet the best, I'm guessing the advice would be to become the best by continuously improving myself for myself, and eventually she may come around. Ultimately I'm left wondering is there any course of action a man can take once he realizes he wants to date a woman other than be the best he can until she budges first?

AB_6 · 2015-06-16T11:03:12+00:00

As a recently turned 20 year old university student who lifts and reads, what else would you recommend one do to go about making the most of the next decade to becoming the best version of one's self possible in terms of socially/sexually/career-wise?

Zeparic · 2015-06-15T19:56:18+00:00

As someone well-versed in Machiavellian understanding, when interacting with people do you have any particular internal process for sizing them up? Like a checklist, or a routine if you will, that you take into consideration before employing Machiavellian tactics?

Fulp_Piction · 2015-06-15T20:38:27+00:00

Hi IM, I've read a lot of Manosphere over the past year or so, and I've noticed that you speak on perhaps a deeper, more complicated level about things. A real dissection of the concepts. So in that regard, what is your thoughts on ego, validation and how to use them to your advantage with respect to the red pill, and life in general? It's something I've recently been grappling with after watching a lot of Alan Watts.

rp_question · 2015-06-15T21:05:40+00:00

Is it hypocritical for a man to expect physical faithfulness in a long-term relationship without giving it in return?

I've seen a lot of highly upvoted posts/comments (example) in support of polygynous relationships on /r/theredpill, but there are also a lot of people who say that it's only fair if the relationship is completely open (as opposed to open for one half only). Curious what an expert has to say on the matter.

Synthtwo · 2015-06-15T22:02:43+00:00

Honestly how likely do you think it is that north American countries actually face a beaureacatic restructuring of sufficient calibre to actually save us from our own slow inevitable demise?

Expanding on that note, what do you feel is the best approach for ensuring ones happiness in the long term whilst living in a society where the future remains uncertain?

This is totally unrelated but could you define love? I'd be really interested in how you view the sensation in a traditional monogamous sense, seeing as the primary advocacy around these parts is constant cycling of mates.

This is more philosophical than anything but I enjoy reading your opinions on the rest of life so it's neat to postulate the question.

bz1028 · 2015-06-16T00:33:30+00:00

What rites of passage do you think a modern boy has to go through before he can consider himself a man? I ask this as a student about to graduate high school. With a summer full of free time ahead of me, is there anything I should work on besides lifting and reading books?

[deleted] · 2015-06-16T03:15:35+00:00

Give me the one thing I can hold onto when I hit rock bottom and I see no hope of future change.

[deleted] · 2015-06-16T03:56:03+00:00

What are the beliefs and practices that uphold masculinity or rather, the basic framework for masculinity that makes a man a man?

trpdownunder · 2015-06-16T08:08:10+00:00

How do I increase my ability to manage time?

romanRai · 2015-06-16T10:42:02+00:00

If you could recommend 10 books for personal growth, what would they be?

topredhat · 2015-06-21T00:34:50+00:00

Automatic or manual?

AvatarStinky · 2015-06-23T15:14:19+00:00

I have a guy that I was friends with up until last year. He's been married for 5 years and been with his wife for 14 years and they have a child. He's a high school dropout that has never worked and used to get by selling weed until he married his wife. Since he has no work history, no marketable skills, and a lengthy criminal record, he has no career prospects so he relies on his wife. His wife's father is very wealthy and she runs one of her father's companies that he gave her to run. They do okay financially, but he spends all of her money trying to appear more successful than they actually are (more on this later).

I've been lifting for a long time and have an exceptionally good physique. I started getting him into lifting, and with lifting came more attention from women. Still, if you can imagine the type of women that are interested in high school dropouts with no career prospects then you can imagine the type of women that he cheats on his wife with. He sees all of these women as inherently good, special, snowflakes and places a high value on them even as they excoriate him behind his back.

I internalised a lot of TRP concepts and I don’t treat any of these women special just because they’re women. In fact, many of these women are shitty people (as one would expect) and they call me an ‘asshole’ yet continue to talk to me because I’m interesting and I’m constantly improving. He isn’t really interested in getting better, but he spends all of his wife’s money buying things that make him appear successful in an attempt to get validation from other people (especially from women). At one point he even confronted me and said “listen man, I know we’ve known each other for 15 years, but some of the girls say they don’t like you and they have the pussies so I have to listen to them.” In effect he’s loyal to shitty women most of whom he’s not even having sex with.

I've completely cut him out of my life and I haven't tried to communicate with him in a year. The thing about this person is that he's constantly out for himself. Because of this he has no friends. If trust is a commodity he’s squandered his trust by ripping people off and stealing from friends and family members (he sent his brother to prison for several years over a tiny amount of money).

I have read the essays on Powertalk and it has worked beautifully so far in marginalising him. The ex-friend has always been at the bottom of the social hierarchy. Our group consists solely of my friends; his friends are mostly career criminals in prison/rehab and everyone in our group is my friend as he only knows them through me. The problem is that he's definitely of the clueless group that mistakes Powertalk for Straightalk. For example he'll show up at a place by himself if he knows we're going to be there. I don't want to hang out with him so I'll say "You know what I'm going to check out a different place. You guys just hang out and I'll meet my other friends." Since he’s at the bottom of the hierarchy everyone wants to come with me, and he tags along. This is a problem because no matter how often he gets ditched he is unable to see the false narrative that is being laid out for him. He tries to contact my friends and invite them out to events, and he’s constantly attempting to undermine me in an attempt to gain more social status within our group. I don’t really care about his behaviour, as my place in the group is secure, however it’s starting to get on my nerves. It’s been almost one year and this guy isn’t taking the hint. Any advice on how I might completely remove him from the group and cut him off from any interactions?

alreadyredschool · 2015-06-15T19:30:28+00:00

Female entitlement:

Ever since starting to improve myself my standards rose, not just because I am able to pull more quality girls but because I appreciate it when girls put in effort. Women learn how to do make up, apply it every day, read magazines to find out about new styles, take hours to select good clothes, spend tons of time on their hair, diet to stay thin...

You will often hear that the root of the female entitlement syndrome lies in feminism, the feel good media and the fact that many guys swoon over them. But maybe this is a bigger contributor to it. What do you think?

seattleron · 2015-06-16T00:05:50+00:00

Of all of the things you've seen, read, contemplated, etc, what is the No. 1 advice you would give a noob who desires a RP lifestyle?

Title	Ask IllimitableMan - June 2015
Author	IllimitableMan
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Date	June 15, 2015 6:22 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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