Breaking up with BPD girlfriend

CuntMonteCristo · 2019-12-04T13:32:43+00:00

I feel for you bro, I had one of those. There is not much that you can do besides calling police or ambulance or whatever if she threatens to do something to herself or to you. Record everything, try to message and not talk on the phone, keep the messages, don't meet with her without witnesses etc. she might want to harm you or accuse you of something. Be very careful and make sure you are on the safe side. I had a BPD girlfriend for 3 years too. Was something I wouldn't wish to my worse enemy.

Aznarog · 2019-12-04T13:39:50+00:00

Had one at 17 for some months... I was a pure weak bitch back then (I'm levelling up now tho). I know how it feels too bro, being with em. I broke up by saying this is the last day I see you. Done. I saw her that last day and then ceased contact, everything. I liked her, it was hard whatever but that was it cya

jacksonbroome · 2019-12-04T16:18:36+00:00

If you wouldn’t mind, what are the red flags that someone has this?

Throwaway22247q · 2019-12-04T14:47:56+00:00

Yeah trying marrying one then get back to me junior. Ok if you want her to leave,trigger her abandonment issues. You can go full beta and that will turn her off eventually. Or introduce her to some chad thats better than you.

ViolentInteger · 2019-12-04T16:11:06+00:00

When it comes to BPD women, you do not ghost them. This dumps fuel on the fire.

Instead, you repulse them with bluepill behavior. Ask yourself, "What would Billy Beta do?" Then do that.

Start texting her heart emojis. Start blowing up her phone with questions like "Do you love me?", "When you look up at the stars, do you just feel that we're right for each other??". Put that pussy up on a pedestal. "You're the perfect woman. I will love you forever no matter what." If she doesn't give you complete answer, have a meltdown about how deeply you love her and how you NEED to hear it back. Inform her that being a stay-at-home dad is your ideal lifestyle.

This will push her away without you needing to get a restraining order and/or landing in jail over false abuse accusations.

2019-12-04T13:43:06+00:00

Shit in a basic brown bag (the kind you may have eaten lunch out of as a kid), put the bag on her porch, light the top of the bag on fire, ring the doorbell (or knock) and run to a pre-set hiding/viewing location. If all went as planned the victim will see the flaming bag and be all like "ahh fire!" followed by a quick stomping of the bag.

Throwaway22247q · 2019-12-04T17:13:26+00:00

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W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-12-04T20:07:00+00:00

Time to act in spite of your fears, take a deep breath and pull the eject lever. It's going to be a bumpy ride but you'll be OK. Understand that. Your ability to keep your cool and stay on-script is greater than her ability to go batshit crazy.

The sooner you eject the smoother your life will be.

Step 1) Tell everyone important to you, preferrably over mass text and a Facebook blast that you've broken up because she has emotional problems and keeps lying to you.

Do this first.

Step 2) Immediately tell her you've broken up via text.

Step 3) establish Radio Silence. Block her on everything and everywhere before she has a chance to respond to this.

This might seem harsh, but it's important to establish this narrative with your immediate social circle before breaking up. BPDs are notorious for responding to rejections with malicious gossip and Character Asassainations.

Telling people she has emotional problems and is a liar is 100% true and you shouldn't apologise for it.

It's only libel and slander if it's false. You need to prime people's skepticism first.

Step 4) go for a drive or something to cool your head the rest of the day. Watch a movie for example.

Step 5) Understand that she'll attempt to cause all kind of apeshit drama, and fake an emotional meltdown.

She may threaten suicide, take a bunch of pills and then call 911. She's likely to tell a bunch of lies. Jokes on you, she already emotionally melted down a long time ago, and is now just a cold emotional slag heap, underneath her fake tantrums.

If she threatens suicide to you, call the police and have them perform a wellness check or at the very least least call her parents. Do not respond directly to her under any circumstances. Maintain radio silence.

Step 6) If she tries to confront you in person. You only need say 5 things to her:

"1)we're done. 2) I don't have anything to say to you 3) I can't help you. 4) Go away. 5)Stop bothering me or else I'm going to be forced to call your parents/the principal/the police."

Just broken-record her. Doesn't matter what she says. It's all bullshit drama and crocodile tears at this point and there's no actual emergency. Keep your poker face and keep broken- recording her.

Keep repeating this script over and over. If she doesn't fuck off after repeating yourself a third time, call her parents and tell them to come pick her up. Or call the relevant authorities.

Step 7) maintain radio silence.

Lastly, understand that she's likely to hook another one of her orbiters using some sob story, within 2-3 days, and attach herself using her hooks and suckers. This is almost a certainty.

This while she's also bombarding you trying to get your attention and simultaneously talking shit and spreading lies to her friends. This doesn't cause her the slightest amount of irony, guilt, hesitation, or confusion. It's just a big game to her.

MattyAnon · 2019-12-04T20:10:13+00:00

Any of you guys have a way of approaching the breakup with these type of girls? Any of you guys have any experiences with these crazy bitches? For the love of god guys, STAY AWAY FROM BPD GIRLS.

Dated one bpd, another was bpd / histrionic.

Basically treat as per stalker: cut it off, tell her in a public place, HAVE NOTHING FURTHER TO DO WITH HER.

And never ever ever be alone with her ever again. Revenge is too easy.

When she goes mental (and she will) - keep all communication but answer none of it.

If she stays reasonably sane, then answer a little here and there. But if the insanity starts, cut the bitch off 100%.

Did you pay heed to "never be alone with her again" ?

VividFall7 · 2019-12-04T13:22:22+00:00

Break up like regular. If she threatens to hurt you or herself, call the police.

DTron2332 · 2019-12-04T15:47:08+00:00

No contact, that’s the only way until she eventually finds someone else she will eventually idealize.

I was with a BPD girl for 3 years from 14-17.. worst decision I ever could’ve made. I was very blue pilled, and simply was pathetic as a human being. There was a lot of sex and attention, and yes the first year was perfect but with these types you need to be on your guard 24/7. Your frame needs to be extremely tight, and you cannot fall into their guilt trips.

CrackDaMarco · 2019-12-04T16:04:04+00:00

Yeah, to be brutal, sometimes just slipping off quietly out of the backdoor is the best approach. Could be seen as cowardly, selfish, but you don't wanna get into a situation where a girl starts guilt tripping you, or emotionally blackmailing you with suicide threats. GTFO, strategically.

kclanton80 · 2019-12-04T17:06:57+00:00

Tell her you two are too young to be in a long term relationship. That it's been great but you just want to be friends

GayLemon9000 · 2019-12-04T17:20:51+00:00

could you elaborate on how you found out she is BPD? You seem to throw alot of contradictions in your replies and I wanna make sure you're not getting advice for something that doesn't apply to you. Some women can show traits similar to BPD without being full crazy too. It needs to come with other signs/traits that are clearly indicative of her being in the BPD spectrum to be an actual one.

AceMav21 · 2019-12-04T17:24:31+00:00

Are you guys conflating actual borderline personality disorder with crazy bitches?

botanicalroots · 2019-12-04T17:49:36+00:00

this is how I got my BPD prospect to lose romantic and sexual interest in me.... I wrote her a letter declaring i cared too much for her, and she was special, loved her, bla blah bla, case solved... she just went away, later I found out about some ex'es of her that she completely destroyed and financially affected.... Phew bullet dodged, but yeah they are chamaleons, suddenly they love everything you do, your hobbies, your music everything so that you like them.

Don_Draper27 · 2019-12-04T18:36:11+00:00

Best way is to make it about you (because technically, it is).

"I've enjoyed my time with you and I'm grateful for the experiences we've shared but now that I'm starting school / work soon I need to be 100% focused on my future. It's not fair for you to be with someone who's going to be tied up with responsibilities."

It's a bad idea to attack her for her imperfections. It's not going to make you feel better and it's just going to increase the chances of her going nuclear on you.

Best approach for this is, "It is sad that we have to part ways now. I'm hopeful you will find someone who aligns with your pursuits in life."

2019-12-04T20:19:21+00:00

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Lateralanouncer · 2019-12-04T22:19:39+00:00

I’m a sucker for bpd chicks. Be very, very careful when braking up with one. You really don’t know how she is going to react. My last through my keys over the fence and jumped in my truck and held the horn down for over 10 mins. While I had my hand on the keys while taking punches to the face all with the neighbours coming out and watching. Not one helped or did anything. She new new I had rifles behind my back seat and was making all kinds of threats. After around 40 minutes of this she then ran into the house and locked me out while putting the gas on smashing the kitchen. she grabbed the large kitchen knife and Repeatedly Slashed her wrists then sat down with the music blasting. Turned out it was the back of the blade. (I didn’t know if it was the back or front and there was know way I was going in there to check) I called the police. They did not want to enter and worked out a plan to get in the house. Imagine this we enter the house with 15 armed officers and she is cooking sausages like nothing happened. Then advising the cops that I was cheating and abusing her etc. fortunately I recordings. Don’t put dick in crazy. The key is to try and make it her idea to leave you.

Domebeers · 2019-12-04T22:24:30+00:00

All girls have BDP, so I mean...

You've been with this girl since she was what, 14? Do you love her? If you do, and this won't go over well on this sub, but I'd marry her and have lots of kids. If you are the only cock she's had you might even have a chance at happily ever after. Maybe. I mean, AWALT and all that.

6paths_luds · 2019-12-05T00:18:06+00:00

Holy crap man I’m 17 I just got one of those girls. Good thing I ghosted her after 4 weeks lmao

Garathon · 2019-12-05T05:37:59+00:00

The problem is that you don't know until it's too late...

gyunbie · 2019-12-04T13:25:29+00:00

No, this is nothing more than "ghost". If you can't handle your girlfriend's behavior, all the crazy shit, what are you expecting to see here? If it's out of your boundaries, just leave her. There's no other way. Expecting her to change isn't worth the hassle and time. Don't want to do it? Then good luck with that psycho.

Title	Breaking up with BPD girlfriend
Author	Throwaway22247q
Upvotes	26
Comments	70
Date	December 4, 2019 1:10 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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