Burning Bridges

theUnBannableHulk · 2020-02-20T17:18:27+00:00

You were JUSTIFIABLY angry and you reacted accordingly.

Anger doesn’t work on these hos with the massive matriarchy these days but don’t beat yourself up over it.

Best way to play is to only text logistics nothing else and let them fade out or fuck

mksu911 · 2020-02-20T17:21:38+00:00

It can be therapeutic. You don't have to accept everything these hoes do and bottle up your emotions.

Opperkech69 · 2020-02-20T17:34:30+00:00

If they wanna meet, schedule them to come to your place on a night that if they don't show up, you don't lose anything. If you don't have evenings like that, just ignore.

RedUtopia · 2020-02-20T20:48:33+00:00

Girls burn bridges everyday.

Nastynatee · 2020-02-20T17:25:00+00:00

I think it can be a good thing to say something like that as long as its paired with a hard next/ghost. These fucking pigs think they can do whatever they want lol.

SoA_MC · 2020-02-20T19:11:07+00:00

What upsides are there to burning bridges?

Anyway, you screwed up with that text and I have made a similar mistake before, but it’s far from major damage. Long term, it’s nothing, it will be forgotten. Let it fade, go no contact, if it comes around again you can start fresh and you’ll probably be in better place mentally and circumstantially

ApdoSenpai · 2020-02-20T17:08:13+00:00

Ignore/soft next is always the go to. Although I’ve burned a couple bridges back in my day, never really worth it though

newyearzz2020 · 2020-02-21T01:08:38+00:00

Based on the info you presented I wouldn’t cuss her out or anything like that. Just soft next. Don’t hit her up or anything.

Her behaviour indicates that she’s definitely on the carousel though. She’s being distant because there’s another dude in the picture.

Use a condom with this one if she comes back around

nexther · 2020-02-20T19:40:28+00:00

Girls are sometimes going to flake, nothing to get mad about... especially if you had 3+ other plates.

Consider just moving on.

Thinkingard · 2020-02-21T01:58:05+00:00

It's not really burning a bridge. She was never a bridge in the first place. Burning a bridge is more like ending a longstanding relationship, economic or otherwise, where you may potentially need that person's help or assistance down the road. As a rule of thumb, it's wise not to burn bridges, but it's also rare for someone to actually be a bridge, who can and would help you if you needed it.

shadowentityrising · 2020-02-21T06:09:01+00:00

It's OK to do whatever you want, however acting butthurt makes you look weak and needy with no other options. Its best to just ignore the message entirely. Once they flake don't txt them back, eventually they will call if they want it bad enough. Women like to compete with one another and the hamster will start spinning with no replies from yourself.

Vynxe-Vainglory · 2020-02-21T07:34:14+00:00

“You are shit” is my go-to for flakes who don’t give any excuse or apology.

I see nothing wrong here.

SalporinRP · 2020-02-21T13:32:50+00:00

Acting like you don't give a fuck is far more effective. I know you don't plan on seeing her again but that response just makes you seem butthurt.

I just wouldn't have texted her at all.

HurricaneHugues · 2020-02-20T18:24:26+00:00

"We made plans at my home and she flaked again so i texted her ''I don't have time for your bullshit''"

If that was true you would've just ignored her and moved on, deleted her text thread and number. But not only did you not ignore her but you had time to make a post about her on the internet.

ColdBeing · 2020-02-20T18:53:39+00:00

No.

I've had a girl that I hung out twice. Flaked on me a few times. I ignored her after a year. She sends me a snap randomly, I initiated contact and she flaked on me a couple more times, no biggie. Got her to actually come over after a week of catching up and was able to do the deed with her

You just gotta expect it's going to happen and play it cool. I wasn't surprised she was still flaking on me after reinitiating. I made other plans as backup but I sure as hell was surprised when I saw her car in my driveway.

I used to get angry when that happened and would let her know. You don't ever do this because it's pointless. She is just going to say sorry and it's not going to make her learn anything. But after she reached out to me and still flaked, I acted like I didn't care and it wasn't a problem. Just gotta play it cool

The-Knowing · 2020-02-20T18:19:24+00:00

It's pretty rare that it is optimal to burn bridges. You get a lot of manchildren here on asktrp saying "HARD NEXT, BLOCK ON EVERYTHING" whenever any minor frustration occurs.

If someone is being excessively obnoxious to the point of spamming you negative messages or so on, then you block them. If it is something minor, just think like a girl, and treat them the same polite way you would treat a stranger.

macheagle · 2020-02-21T01:23:12+00:00

You lost frame. Why did you care so much for a plate? Next her and move on. Always hold frame. The best show of disrespect is to ignore and give the silent treatment. Would you yell at an ant? Someone who you yell at has to be worth it in the first place.

Title	Burning Bridges
Author	Sergelano
Upvotes	22
Comments	28
Date	February 20, 2020 5:07 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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"We made plans at my home and she flaked again so i texted her ''I don't have time for your bullshit''"