Did I handle this correctly

Mr-Blonde123 · 2021-03-29T12:34:49+00:00

Congratulate yourself in handling it like a man.

Cry, get upset that’s ok. Keep in private.

You done well,be proud of yourself

themostgianthorse · 2021-03-29T12:07:57+00:00

You did well.

Who cares about the god damn tickets

KAGDocta · 2021-03-29T11:11:43+00:00

You handled it very well. Fuck the tickets.

CoyoteMiyamoto · 2021-03-29T13:26:05+00:00

Good reaction. Crying isn't bad. As long as you don't cry over a woman in front of others.

Terrorinthecity1 · 2021-03-29T15:59:25+00:00

Everybody is so cut throat, sometimes a breakup can be a shit test. She might want to see how you’ll react. You reacted good but Just make sure it’s not her shit testing you. A breakup is a hard reset to a relationship. Depending on how you react is everything. Go no contact until she reaches out to you. It may not be over. I feel like women are AWALT and so at some point they all stray away and comeback. If she was cool, consider taking her back if she was quality chick and you can look past this.

crew6dawg0 · 2021-03-29T13:34:43+00:00

Bro I always delete their info and remove them from social media. I meet very few girls with the intentions of being friends, so once our relationship is over, I am done. I didn't want friendship to begin with, and I don't want it after the fact. It also prevents you from getting the urge to spy on how they're doing after the fact, which can hurt more if you are emotionally invested. I can see how some people might think blocking/deleting shows weakness, but one could argue it shows strength because you're removing them from your life and moving forward.

Since you got some emotions involved with this chick, I recommend deleting and blocking her on everything, including your phone. If she contacts you it'll just prolong the pain. You did good on not asking why she did it, because she would have just lied and said it was more about her than it was you, they all do it. It also doesn't matter why she did it, because they arent logical. There's nothing about crying in private about it, chicks do that shit all the time and look how quickly they bounce back into the game.

vCynicalx · 2021-03-29T13:50:53+00:00

I stopped looking at her social media when she kept posting stories saying how happy she was, I just saw through it and realised it I look it validates her so just do not, I understand you Buddy I really do, if having her becomes an issue let’s say by Friday then il just delete her. I’ve muted her on everything so I can’t see her stuff

jjj2576 · 2021-03-29T14:23:27+00:00

I don’t talk to ex’s— no point in setting myself up to break Iron Rule #7.

A lot of your actions here are grounded in outcome dependent thinking (fear of appearing butthurt vs internally not being butthurt).

Also— new vs knew.

ItWasAlwaysOver · 2021-03-30T00:17:36+00:00

hypergamy sucks man. I'm sorry you had to go through this.

TorpCat · 2021-03-30T08:02:26+00:00

Deleting their number or not is just preference. No way is "the" right way. You have done yourself a bug favor by being this mature and not acting like a lil bitch

IamEins · 2021-03-29T11:09:31+00:00

You did what you did. Dont think about it anymore. Change for the better. For the future, dont invest money in something that is not long term. Dont talk to much about you enjoyed it etc. Be cold in a break up.

I would take the tickets and go there with a better chick.

Technical_Advance_69 · 2021-03-30T01:49:54+00:00

Yes you did. You should never offer closure to a women after a breakup. There are rp videos and articles on it look it up. Never ever offer a woman closure or discuss feelings with her.

Case in point, I dated this fat indian chick for almost a year, we already had sex a hundred times already by now, showered together, etc. At the beginning she use to respect me and kiss the ground I walked on. Literally. After the breakup, she was already hundreds of miles away. I let emotions cloud my judgment turned into a whiny little bitch asked to see her one last time and she just blocked me and said I was trying to manipulate her, and wished me the best.

So yea, trust me, you did the right thing, these woman are ruthless and don’t deserve closure or your time. They’ll pray on your weakness and laugh at you when they see it. If you don’t accept the breakup, it’ll make you look super weak and she’ll loose total and complete respect for you just like what happened to me.

kclanton80 · 2021-03-31T16:59:42+00:00

You have done well sir! You don't have to block her phone number but I would definitely remove her from any social media. you don't want to be staring at her images reminiscing about the times you had.

Liberal_On_Guns · 2021-03-29T11:36:06+00:00

Let me first express some sympathy for you man. How old are you? The answer is no, you didn't handle it correctly, but you already know that.

If a girl dumps you, you basically ghost after collecting your shit. And you should have taken back those tickets. You can't really undo this screw up. But the principle is that you can't go around giving gifts for free; that's simping. If you bought her any jewelry, or tickets, or lingerie, or a bath mat, you take that shit back. Doesn't require being a dick, either. Regarding the tickets, you should've taken them back and taken someone else.

Then you delete/block. It doesn't matter if you come off as petty to her; you shouldn't care what she thinks about you anymore. What you don't want is seeing her on social media and that distracting you from your purpose, from future girls, or moving on, etc.

Title	Did I handle this correctly
Author	vCynicalx
Upvotes	24
Comments	32
Date	March 29, 2021 10:57 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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