Ever get flaked on a date?

MonMag · 2017-03-31T03:16:18+00:00

I had the same thing happen. Said she was studying and fell asleep. I had confirmed the date 3 hours prior. She tried to reschedule 2 days later, but ghosted when I said, "sure if you're buying the drinks".

SpinPlates · 2017-03-31T04:12:26+00:00

You should excpet every girl to flake and have a back up.

Tinder has like a 50% flake rate.

throw162534 · 2017-03-31T03:09:04+00:00

Yes. I deleted them from my phone and unmatched them. No desperate messages asking them for another time. Nothing. I've been stood up twice by girls on tinder - still went out both nights and ended up making out with a girl and getting their number each time. I use it as motivation.

BlackMarmoset · 2017-03-31T03:17:16+00:00

It may help:

Setting the date close to your place / a place where you're going anyway;
Getting her number, write her 10 min before that you'll be 5-10 minute late: if she doesn't replay she'll flake.

Doesn't matter what happened, if a girl I met on tinder flakes on first date I next her.

GetHimSomeMilk · 2017-03-31T03:20:36+00:00

I don't get angry at bitches I haven't even met yet. Depending on the situation I'd still try to meet up with her if I liked her.

That's my way of looking at that stuff is until I've actually met them, they really have no basis for how they should treat me

valjean913 · 2017-03-31T04:52:51+00:00

"You flaked on me after I drove to your shitty little town. Yeah, we can meet up again, come over to my place at 9."

mrpthrowa · 2017-03-31T11:00:40+00:00

Tinder has three types of chicks.

50% Those who set it up, and they are never active.

40% Those that already have somebody in their lives (they won't tell you), or are just looking for matches, late night chats and validation. Don't waste your time if they don't give you an immediate yes to give you their number and meet. It shouldn't take you more than 6-7 messages to weed these out. They'll say something like "they want to know you first", or bullshit like that.

10% Those that are seriously looking to meet. First don't setup meetings on tinder, set them up after you get their number (it sets you apart). 50% will flake because girls are disorganised and flakey. Of those that flake 50% of these will message back to re-arrange. Give them ONE other change on your terms. Your second meet chance is 50%.

The standard Tinder chat (once you have a really good profile) is opener, brief 3-4 chats about the cool stuff you're doing lately, then ask for her number and take it to Whatsapp/SMS. If they don't give you their number then fuck it and move on. They'll never come around reliably.

Certifiedfamilylaw · 2017-03-31T03:54:12+00:00

Around once every two weeks or so, maybe more. I always bring my kindle

sonder_one · 2017-03-31T05:28:57+00:00

Women flake all the time. Some TRP types will insist that you've failed to game her well enough if she flakes, but that's toxic thinking. You'll tie yourself in knots trying to figure out why you failed, but it was HER. She's a woman, ergo she's crazy, and being flaky is just part of that.

kankouillotte · 2017-03-31T09:53:10+00:00

Haha, just had a flake yesterday evening from a girl I spent an hour making out with last week end in my car.

I knew she was hot, but didn't want to escalate too far at that time because "i'm a gentleman". No, i'm a beta bluepill that's what I am, she was ready to take the D then and there, and because I didn't move on it, now I got flaked on.

Lesson learned, always do as much as she will let you, whatever the circumstances, otherwise you're done for and lose her respect.

Coming from a girl who was REALLY into me and showered me with attention and compliments. You never have won until she's taken the D and then you dont care whatever she does.

ronsoness · 2017-03-31T09:09:53+00:00

Get into the habit of confirming appointments.

People are flakey. Or they're irresponsible. Or they're forgetful. Or they're on the fence about meeting you, so they just put it out of their mind. Yes, fuck these people, but the main thing is to prevent yourself from getting your time wasted.

if you have their cell, confirm that day with a text message "hey, see you at abc bar at 8pm today?". If they forgot, this will be a helpful reminder and they'll respond with "thanks". if they don't respond, assume they will flake on you, and don't bother going or getting dressed.

This is not just for girls, but for friends and professional appointments too. Just have to adjust the medium and how far ahead you confirm.

Cell_Technician · 2017-04-01T20:58:27+00:00

Would you fall asleep if you had a date with a hot chick? Ghost and move on to the next.

281threethreeoh8004 · 2017-03-31T12:50:54+00:00

Had a girl tell me she fell asleep after I drove about 30 mins to get to her apartment in the city. Gave her another chance - the day before we were supposed to meet she moved it to the day of, then when we planned to get together she claimed she agreed to work late because she didn't hear from me for 3 hours ... after we confirmed our plans.

I just nexted her after that.

Make plans with her one more time but have a backup. If it falls through again, next.

TheBlackAlistar · 2017-03-31T03:40:34+00:00

I'd give some of them a second chance, if it happens again then ghost for sure.

Title	Ever get flaked on a date?
Author	Ubiquitous-Toss
Upvotes	2
Comments	24
Date	March 31, 2017 2:59 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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