Fucking the neighbor took a wrong turn...

VasiliyZaitzev · 2021-02-15T11:24:41+00:00

Congratulations, you are the plate.

You should be happy, because she gave you a pretty smooth exit to a situation you probably shouldn’t of gotten yourself involved in the first place. File under “bullet, dodged.”

yoitsericc · 2021-02-15T13:16:29+00:00

It's easy to talk about abundance mindsets and spinning plates, but sometimes it's a bit harder when faced directly with reality.

It's like the old Mike Tyson quote: "Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth."

You struggling like that is getting punched in the mouth. Brush it off and keep moving.

Yharnam_Queen · 2021-02-15T10:32:59+00:00

Something something don't shit where you eat.

You decided at the beginning she's not a girl for anything more serious- stick to that.

brngamer · 2021-02-15T13:40:37+00:00

You had your turn. You hit some new pussy for a few weeks and were let fly her nest to pick up more.

For the laugh, plough the next pussy through her wall. My guess is your neighbor will be back for more.

Do not commit or LTR this slooot. Do not come back here saying that you’ve hooked up and are now thinking about an LTR.

Go forth and plough.

AshyLarry27 · 2021-02-15T15:09:14+00:00

If a 8/10 girl walked up to you right now and was down to go at it in this moment, you wouldn't care about this neighbor for a second. We like to imagine when we meet someone that we become the apple of their eye, and nothing could interfere with that. It's some weird ego trip where we imagine no other guy could ever come between the level of attraction she feels for you. Reality hits like a ton of bricks though, and you experienced reality hitting the side of your wall via her bed.

Its nothing to be ashamed of or concerned with, because having more actual, in-life, experiences like this will remind you of reality. That we are all expendable. I don't mean that cynically, but practically. When you have plates, the distribution of attention and affection should ideally make a challenge for you to develop "one"-ities, as you are talking to "multiple" plates. You seem to admit you understand this, but it isn't until real world scenarios pop up that you will adjust. For example, before learning to drive a car you are forced to read the manual and textbooks on them before the "written" exam. Then eventually you take the actual drivers test in a physical car. Now the written exam is designed to inject the concepts of driving, like how the sidebar and forum in general are designed to inject the concepts of TRP. You can understand the concepts, just like understanding "press on the gas to accelerate, press on the brakes to slow down." It is not until you endure that challenge of your early moments in that car that you understand at a practical level how challenging it is to understand how much pressure to put on the gas and brake that you have truly absorbed the concept.

So right now you know women will "AWALT," "branch swing," and "shes not yours it was just your turn." In enduring the reality she just slept with some one else, you just went from "understanding what the brake and gas pedal does," to "woah, okay I have to control how much pressure to put on the brakes and gas." Eventually these moments happen often enough to where your brain adapts and gets used to this. There is a reason our biggest heartbreaks are in High School where we have no understanding of how to interact with women. This is why there is less drama in our dating lives as we get older, because we understand people come and go.

sagaty12 · 2021-02-15T10:32:25+00:00

Don't shit where you sleep

linkofinsanity19 · 2021-02-15T12:06:48+00:00

Just do your damndest to fuck new women and just bear with it until then. Also, she's already on another dick so she's already disqualified herself from the race. No reason to keep telling yourself she can still win a trophy.

Edit: I second making sure to fuck other girls while she's home as well.

doc-holliday01 · 2021-02-15T11:19:13+00:00

She knew you would hear her. Fuck someone else louder and make sure she’s home.

MattyAnon · 2021-02-15T19:02:09+00:00

blabla. I feel like shit since than and I try to figure out a way out of this mess and I can't get my head around why someone could shetter my mind when we only saw each other for 3 weeks.

If you're seriously hurt by this it is due to your own lack of abundance. Your investment in this girl should have been close to zero, and you should have been exploring other options.

I want to find out what is going on in an psychological level.

Scarcity triggering attachment.

I set up some dates at the end of this week to get back in track but I must admit, I struggle hard right now.

You struggle because it went like this:

Found girl to fuck, assumed this was an ongoing thing.
Maybe you felt super lucky
You got lazy and you didn't find more options
She certainly did
You expected too much, and you emotionally invested because you had a mild version of "this is the one!"
You expected her to behave not-as-a-woman
You invested too much and you got nothing out of it, this leads to that feeling of being hurt
This is so bad that you don't want more of the same, so you don't want to go on more dates.

Just get back on track, keep dating, keep trying, and DO NOT DO THIS TO YOURSELF AGAIN.

Also, don't shit where you eat. When will you guys learn this simple basic fact? It's only five words long, the meaning is visceral and clear, why does it never sink in?

Pooddit · 2021-02-15T13:46:45+00:00

That is so insensitive of her she might be doing it on purpose. Who knows. Oh well. That's why when you fuck you fuck like you're never gonna fuck again and get everything you want. When your turn is up shed feels over a few days and be living your life like normal: gym work friends activities etc. Prepare yourself for the next pussy to tear into.

IBETITALL420 · 2021-02-15T15:14:16+00:00

Get that rid of that fucking oneitis

L2diy · 2021-02-15T21:56:48+00:00

You lack abundance. Fix that and you’ll stop feeling like shit.

Efficient_Film_149 · 2021-02-15T13:17:54+00:00

A lot of people read sidebars, “internalize”, etc., when it comes down to the are you or are you not most are not.

BusterVadge · 2021-02-16T00:32:32+00:00

Sluts are sluts my man. Who you are as a person or your actions won't change who she is.

scissor_me_timbers00 · 2021-02-16T18:02:14+00:00

Never fuck her again because you have to detach your emotions from this girl. And go get some other pussy pronto. Gradually shake this off over the next few days. It’s primal ape mating game instinct emotions you’re feeling. Understand you gotta detach and let that unfold

btt069 · 2021-02-15T11:58:52+00:00

Most of the comments are epic. How the fuck do you even care now? Like this is a rare event: a girl of 3 weeks telling you that she found someone and banged and you moved on and leave her at that.

IDK how are you struggling. I think you got too attached to her. Saying that: "she is fun to hang out with", means some attachment. btw she moaned so that you could hear and you got butthurt.

man, bring 3 girls and do a foursome. just let her and her bf hear you doing it. Or DGAF. Abundance Mentality comes from having options which you clear dont think you have. GFTOW esp HB7 8s and you will feel good as an extreme measure.

Good Luck

empatheticapathetic · 2021-02-15T13:09:18+00:00

Ask her if you can film her with her new guy.

Fabulous-Craft · 2021-02-15T17:26:14+00:00

She's not yours, it was just your turn.

midgetpooooo · 2021-02-15T18:51:09+00:00

So next times you see her, flirt with her as normal. Continue to treat her as a plate

muricanwerewolf1 · 2021-02-16T03:25:13+00:00

The cool thing if you can actually cultivate not caring too much (it's tough to not care at least a little bit if the sex was good, but it's the angst that makes you get weird that's the problem) is there's decent odds she'll be back for more at some point. She'll be thinking "the sex was good, he was chill so there's low emotional risk, and we've already fucked." I can't tell you how many have come back around when I didn't make a big deal of it, and how many who have conspicuously not because I dumped my purse out on them lol.

Also I highly suspect she was seeing this guy before you even came into the picture, and made the decision to simplify things/commit more to him. Sucks you gotta hear her get banged out though.

CustardMuster · 2021-02-18T07:25:09+00:00

High five her in the hallway. Offer to make her breakfast because she really needs to recoup. Make it awkward as fuck for her.

danaw1992 · 2021-02-15T14:38:20+00:00

When she breaks up with him she can come and fuck you. So you have a girl to fuck occasionally when she has no bf. She's a slut, don't be in your feels and shit

DEAagent1515 · 2021-02-15T10:34:54+00:00

Bro just tell her to fuck on the other side of the room or someshit. Wtf I’d be so mad trying to sleep and this bitch moaning next door

antioch94 · 2021-02-15T11:30:48+00:00

I also think that it’s not beneficial banging a neighbour since we know how frickle women are and that the consequences could overweight the benefits for you here. You still shouldn’t care that much man. You banged her, your turn is over and now it’s another mans turn. Why do you care so much? Even if you don’t have abundance at the Moment your mindset is wrong or you probably didn’t internalise all this stuff here. Even if you don’t have abundance with women you have to get abundant by working on yourself etc. You also have to consider that some emotions aren’t wrong per se. Banging a woman and hearing her doing it with another guy shortly after activates some feelings we have no control over. That’s normal for men and there are some explanations for that from evopsych perspective ( men feel jealous because of paternity fraud etc) So what do you do now? You act as if nothing happened when talking to her and you work on yourself. You try to create abundance even if you don’t have it at the moment .

Optionsmfd · 2021-02-15T13:33:58+00:00

ive spent my career dating and banging chicks i work wish so i do stupid all the time

i have a few attractive women in my building.... but they are all young kids and i learned my lesson with single moms...... (i hope lol)

i would just work on plates........ easiest way to get over one women is to get under another..... or 3

its obvious that u have some feelings..... cause otherwise u wouldnt care minus the noise... that being said i go to sleep at 9 and if that bitch kept me up i would have to come up with a smartass comment so she can fuck some dude without bothering me

WTTT · 2021-02-15T13:57:34+00:00

She is a woman, she is shit testing you, even if somehow you do care, act like you don't. Besides it's your dick thinking these things and trying to search for justification through your brain, she sounds like a woman you use and send back to the streets, not a relationship, even then be on guard. You need to practice semen retention and hold in your semen as you have sex. Bang another girl. She is not the best you can do and the happiest you have been ...is not the happiest you will ever be, carry on in joy.

Xerexes3869 · 2021-02-15T17:43:19+00:00

Should have took pictures and made videos when you banged her. It's always nice to whack off to those later when you are a bit down.

Anal_bandaid · 2021-02-15T13:53:13+00:00

Fucking the neighbor took a wrong turn...

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Title	Fucking the neighbor took a wrong turn...
Author	pmultiplyb
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Comments	74
Date	February 15, 2021 10:27 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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