Gf blocked me from seeing snapchat stories

babybopp · 2016-06-15T01:22:51+00:00

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hammtron89 · 2016-06-15T00:22:13+00:00

Actually now that I re read your story, apparently you saw her see your name on the block list and she was unaware of this and said nothing until you brought it up. That points to deception even if it was a mistake to put you on the block list, which would be a hell of a long shot for that to happen by accident anyways.

M1s4n7hr0p3 · 2016-06-15T01:07:03+00:00

She's lying to you. That much is clear. You have to remember to regard women as children. She acted exactly like a child caught in a lie who feared punishment for it.

She may not be cheating, but she is doing shit you wouldn't like her to be doing, while you're not around, recording it and putting it on public display and then deceiving you. You won't get the truth out of her or her friends.

You have to decide whether you're cool with staying with a girl who is publicly making a fool of you and then lying to your face. She knows she fucked up, that's why she acted like she did.

My advice? Downgrade to plate. Radio silence for a bit until she's ready to break and then let her know how things are going to be going forward. Just remember: downgrades never upgrade back to LTR.

Make her your plaything. She's proven that's all she's worth.

iamgoingbald666 · 2016-06-15T05:07:38+00:00

Never used snapchat (or any social media, it is cancer) but from what I understand:

She blocked you on purpose
Lied about it
Tried (and succeeded from what I gather) to manipulate you after you found out

She obviously also posted something she didn't want you to see. Red flag, red flag, red flag, red flag.

Make her a plate is my suggestion. That sounds harsh given what was a seemingly small thing, but it won't stop there.

I can also tell from your other posts this is something you don't want to hear, but I digress.

tentomasz · 2016-06-15T04:17:01+00:00

So

she knew exactly to check her "blocked list"?

after seeing your username there she didn't tell you anything?

Sorry bro, but that doesn't look like 'accidentally' ;o)

Plan_of_Action · 2016-06-15T00:17:37+00:00

Fuck. I hate this shit. To be totally honest I don't know and I can't know, but my gut tells me she blocked you so she could send nudes then forgot to unblock. I dated a sociopath who did everything including fake crying and lying to my face to cover up her cheating. Really hard to see through when you're infatuated and live with a girl.

It's up to you what you do and how you react. I'd wait for an EC to reply.

ThisTension · 2016-06-15T01:58:03+00:00

Crying is the most manipulative thing a woman can do. Never talk to her when she is crying as a response to you being upset.

REDBOOBIESHAREMPUSSY · 2016-06-15T08:06:19+00:00

two sides:

1) I grew up with a sister. When we where younger she would say awful stuff. The moment we told our parents, she would start crying, screaming,... that she did not say those things. As if she actually beliefs it herself, very weird. So yeah, don't let tears deceive you.

2) After months me and my best buddy came to the conclusion that I was on his blocked list on his phone. Only me. No reason, we both didn't know, we where just thinking why the other one did not response on our texts. So yeah, it's possible to acidently do it to someone you know very well. It's not always the worst option that is true but it's def possible.

good luck !

hores · 2016-06-15T09:25:11+00:00

if it doesn't make sense to you (your gut is telling you it's bullshit) then there's something somewhere in the story that is bullshit. I'm thinking it happened right around here:

She goes into her settings and looks at that option where you can block people from seeing their story and my name was blocked. I see her going through this and don't say anything. I just keep watching tv, but I'm not touching my girl anymore or paying her any attention and this gets to her. 10 minutes pass and she asks me "what's wrong" and I asked her why I was blocked. She got up and was saying that she has no idea why I was blocked

The fact she saw your name blocked and said absolute zilch about it until you called her out on it is a red flag to me.

If it bothers you enough then you need to softly demote to plate status.

2016-06-15T09:28:54+00:00

She acts guilty.

mksu · 2016-06-15T11:50:40+00:00

She's crying because she's guilty.

trippymofoAF · 2016-06-15T09:27:14+00:00

If you are who you say you are and she sees you that way (alpha) fucking alpha widow her ass and fuck her on the side whenever you want, it'll probably fuck up her dating life but there is a price to be paid for every action, in a world of freedom we forget to learn that freedom doesn't mean zero consequences. Also if she did it on accident she would probably shrug it off rather than go crazy trying to explain herself and how shes "sorry and sad" that you caught her, she isn't sorry about the block, she feels bad in the moment.

The-Ban-Hammer · 2016-06-15T11:51:48+00:00

This is a lot of denying and crying and hemming and hawing and focus just to suggest she didn't know how a block could possibly be there when you can't just "ass block" someone in the same way you "ass dial" someone by mistake.

She did it. She knows she did it. She was hiding something from you. She got caught. Hamster is in warp drive.

TheLakotaSioux · 2016-06-15T10:16:18+00:00

Already posted, but I'm going to offer another option. If she was without a doubt in your mind lying to you and going behind your back on her story I guess... give her the ultimatum. "Listen, I know you. I know you were lying to me, now either you're going to tell me exactly what you were hiding, or I'm breaking up with you. Your choice." Id assume she did something mildly crude from a picture in a swimsuit or underwear on her story, to picture/video of her with a guy casually or dancing. Neither would phase me. My girl is extremely sexually attractive. Pretty face, black hair, blue eyes, good frame, nice rack, pearl ass. I let her wear whatever the fuck she wants, post whatever she wants, and talk/text whoever she wants. I know she's faithful, and if she does something, I'll be quick to drop, and will know it wasn't meant to be. My theory is I like her showing off. I like when dudes check my girl out. I don't mind when she posts selfies to Facebook Instagram or Snapchat. She's also posting photos of us and posting on my wall showing me off as well. Why don't I care? Because she's bad as hell and it's all mine. I'm the one piping from behind on the regular. She's only been with 5 dudes including me, and I already know I'm the biggest and best she's had in the sheets. She wants someone else? Lol go for it. Your loss, I'll just find plates to spin. You're on TRP, yet you're acting so insecure.

Tl;dr

If you're positive she was hiding something from you (I'm not) find out what it was. Give her the ultimatum. Depending on the outcome, handle it accordingly. Show your girl off my man, be her biggest fan. Jealousy is for women, don't be a bitch. If you know you're the best she can get, then act like it.

DillonDockery · 2016-06-15T13:21:13+00:00

A) You can't block someone by accident on Snapchat. Go into your phone and try it yourself. The steps to block someone are:

Click on your friends list in Snapchat and find a persons username
Click on their username
Click the settings icon
Click Block
Snapchat will ask "Are you sure you want to block XXX user?"
Click "Yes, I'm sure".

B) She is crying because she is guilty.

No-M3rcy · 2016-06-15T02:30:57+00:00

I'm pretty sure it's not an accidental thing to block someone on snapchat. What she probably did is, do something behind your back that she is sure you won't like (who knows what it is) and blocked you from seeing it and forgot to unblock you. No one blocks their "boyfriend" accidentally.

There's a very small chance it might have been accidental, but if it was, why would an innocent person try to explain their actions and do all the cleaning and stuff she did? I for sure wouldn't. She knows she's guilty and since you said she can't find a guy like you (you probably have higher SMV than her), she is doing everything she can to get you back.

If you want to give her the benefit of the doubt, play the dread game on her. Cut off all contact for a week. If she calls, don't answer. If she messages you, don't reply. After a week or so give her logistics for a fuck and maintain frame. If she really wants you back, she'd stop the shit she was doing on her stories.

If you want to play the Abundance mentality game during the dread period, go to a bar or club or whatever and get as many pics of girls with you and POST IT IN YOUR STORIES. She'll get a clear message that what she did is unacceptable and that she can be easily replaced, especially since your SMV is higher according to you.

Good luck comrade, and a Field Report in theRedPill would be nice if you cut off contact all week and do what the commentators said.

edible_aids · 2016-06-15T04:38:46+00:00

An age would be relevant, but let me tell you from experience man.. Don't underestimate women. I thought my girlfriend of 3.5 years in high school (we dated through a year of college after graduating HS) would never do anything to hurt me or go behind my back, etc. Things were even going really well (regularly hanging out, having sex frequently, weren't mad at each other) basically up until the point that she started hiding things from me, cheated on me (sort of), etc. The worst fucking part is you can't help but to be bothered, paranoid, and jealous; because obviously you have feelings for her. It kills your confidence, fucks with your head, and it's just emotionally tolling. I hope to God that this isn't the case with you and her, because I wouldn't wish that feeling upon my worst enemy, it truly sucks.

But if there is one thing I can say I regret about the entire situation, is trying to make things work out with her. I should have followed my gut instinct and pushed her ass to the curb right off the bat, and never talked to her again (that's a bit extreme, but I should have definitely stopped talking to her for weeks if not a month or longer, and maybe try to resolve it after things cooled down). I was so fucking close too, but she had an emotional grip on me, and she knew it. She begged and pleaded and swore it was a mistake, and promised things would work out, and once it was all over we'd be much stronger. All bullshit, and a royal fucking waste of time. We ended up hating each other essentially, and haven't talked since the final "fuck you's" that we exchanged. Like I said I really hope to God this isn't the case for you, and it probably isn't, so keep your emotions under control. But just keep in mind, it may not be today or tomorrow. But really just don't ever underestimate women, and try not to invest all of your time and emotions at too young of an age, it'll fuck you up if you get burned.

RedPillMeditations · 2016-06-15T00:21:25+00:00

You really can't know. But that isn't a setting that she can accidentally add you to, is it? Maybe she likes to show off other guys she hangs out with to her friends to (cheating)? It's too hard to deduce much from this. She did react very strongly when you found out about it, so I'd be curious. Could be a red flag.

uxeazy · 2016-06-15T00:26:24+00:00

What's wrong?

Nothing

That was how you should've handled it, now she knows what bothers you. Maybe she posted something she didn't want you to see.

ilovemagicmush · 2016-06-15T02:01:00+00:00

If she did cheat or lie to you, would you still consider the time you spend together worth it for what it is?

absolucion · 2016-06-15T12:04:24+00:00

This seems cut and dry. She didn't unblock you on the spot, tried (and succeeded) to cloud your judgment with tears and theatrics, and keeps apologizing profusely to try and get you to drop the matter. Ask her sister what's in her story? Sure, she's going to tell you about everything she's doing because you guys are the best of friends, right?

This is a huge read flag, man. She's using your feelings against you. Think about this objectively. What you do in the end is up to you but I'd be on high alert if I were you.

Eyes_Of_The_Dragon · 2016-06-15T14:02:50+00:00

Snapchat is a platform for women to show off their tits and get validation while automatically removing traces of the interactions. She is showing off to get other men to drool over her and she does not want you to see them. My advice is to dump her.

shuritsen · 2016-06-15T15:04:41+00:00

She's not sorry she did it, she's sorry you found out. Seems too coincidental that you and only you were blocked. Sounds like she does some stuff in her snaplife she doesn't want you to know about. Maybe nights out with her girls and getting hit on guys, doing drugs, etc. Sounds like at the end, everything she did was some sort of overcompensation to get you back on her side. I wouldn't trust her after a stunt like this. You can't make her unblock you on her snap without losing face, so unless she owns up to her mistake and does it on her own, looks like you're finding yourself out of a gf.

TissueBabies · 2016-06-15T03:37:11+00:00

The thing here is that we don't really know. In fact, even if a EC comes by and gives a comment, they are operating on even less info than you have. However, given what you presented, I'd say that something's not right. From my perspective, she tried to bait you into become the "over controlling jealous boyfriend who goes through my phone" When that failed she had to go somewhere else to get her thoughts together and possibly delete evidence. She cried either because she was caught and/or wanted to pull on your BP tendencies and knew you could hear her. IMO her reaction far outweighs the situation at hand. Either she overreacts all of the time which is a huge red flag, or she's covering up.

SexistFlyingPig · 2016-06-15T05:33:45+00:00

She 100% posted stuff she didn't want you to see, and then forgot to change the setting. You haven't found what she posted, but it's probably pretty incriminating.

She likes you and doesn't want you to dump her, but if you saw what she blocked you from, then she knows that you WILL dump her.

She's 100% lying about what you posted in paragraph 2.

fabRWENE · 2016-06-15T10:03:17+00:00

Hate to be devils advocate, but i think this one could have just been an accident.

hammtron89 · 2016-06-15T15:14:48+00:00

When you see her tell her you have zero tolerance for deception and that you saw her look at your name in the block list and carry on as if nothing was wrong. Don't let her make a fool of you. This will send a message to her and all of her friends that would otherwise think you were an idiot. I'd end things now that I have had time to think about your situation, the fact that she said nothing about your name being in the block list speaks volumes.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-06-15T15:15:11+00:00

Bro ask yourself this. If you just casually blocked your girlfriend by accident. And she then accused you of being a cheater. Would you go on the defensive as much as she's doing right now?

Somethings fishy and your gut picked up on it.

muddynips · 2016-06-17T08:58:28+00:00

She doubled down on the lie. That's the most damning part.

If you ignore her she will eventually trickle-truth you. Don't believe a word.

As Patrice would say, your girl just lost her "say".

Ali_s1987 · 2016-06-15T07:04:04+00:00

You keep saying you dont know what to do and what she did made no sense. Everyone here is telling you she lied to you a 100 percent. And then covered it up and made a fool out of you. When you told her that you couldnt see her post, she knew exactly what to check to see why you couldnt see it. An innocent person would have asked you to check your settings, then checked their own. She went directly at the block settings. Dump her doode. She cant be trusted. And if she comes out with the truth it will certainly be TRICKLE truth. You dont need that shit.

nodoxsavefreespeech · 2016-06-15T04:49:56+00:00

lol she guilty af

idkhowtomakeaname212 · 2016-06-15T06:31:55+00:00

I'm no playa, and i never had had a gf. im beta as fuck i bet. but to me it sounds that she has something to hide. Why would someone get so emotional over blocking someone, and the person they love hardly reacting? Must feel guilt or some shit, and not just for "accidentally" blocking.

slcjosh · 2016-06-15T08:06:34+00:00

Waterworks doesn't mean it's the truth. Downgrade to plate.

FrameWalker · 2016-06-15T00:41:36+00:00

These hos ain't loyal fuck. Don't know what you should do here.

Luckyluke23 · 2016-06-15T03:12:25+00:00

standard case of her sending nudes... pretty standard. if i was you i'd start to shape up and ship off to the club.

TheLakotaSioux · 2016-06-15T10:02:04+00:00

I'm sorry but I don't really see the motive. On Snapchat she can either send snaps directly to you, or you can see snaps on her story. If she blocked you, you're only unable to see her story, and she can't snap you. How does this lead to her cheating on you? Is she an A1 sloot to the point shed post dirty pics on her snap? If this is even a possibility don't you have someone who was friends with her on Snapchat or wouldn't someone tell you? I know if my girl did that I'd have literally 10 girls in my inbox within 3 hours... I'm going to assume you're a good looking dude with the confidence you have. How shitty is your relationship? You said you don't wanna be the jealous type well then how are you gonna fret over this? If you thought it was serious you should have just said "let me see your phone right now" I mean hell she even offered.... I don't go through my girls phone period, but that's because I'm beyond confident she's not going behind my back. We have trust built into our relationship.

I'd like to hear an update.

hammtron89 · 2016-06-15T00:19:56+00:00

There's a chance it could have been a mistake, but I have a feeling most people here will tell you that she is hiding something. I don't know how Snapchat works, so I don't know how easily she could have added you to her block list instead of someone else if that was her intention. If I was you, I'd let this one slide but keep your eyes open.

uNhoLeee · 2016-06-15T09:58:01+00:00

one of the bests posts i read was about daddy figure and mentality.

one of my best mates was talking about a girl he wanted to make his gf. problem was, i met her by accident the night before at a bar and pushed her up against a wall and kissed her and played a bit, before my date came into the toilet.. so i told my mate about it and he's quite the daddy figure, so I watched him message her and how she started to break down saying she loved him, and that 'nothing had happened'

anyway i've used this 3 times (all different girls) as punishment. all with good results.

one for messaging me about bf's and dating when i told her i dont want a gf and didnt want to hear her dating (psychology major rich girl trying to play games / make me jealous to bait a relationship)
one for lying that she would take the train on specific date, wasting my time, trying to manipulate me on a romantic day to waste my time and she actually arrived the next day.
one for lying about not deleting someone i told them to.

so your girl has definitely done something wrong and you ignore it you'll set a precedent.

first step is to text her does she have something to tell you? (are you sure?) (think carefully / harder)

don't let up - and don't give her clues. she already knows, so just tell her she knows, and you don't like lying.

the point here is she is going to lose you if she doesn't admit it. when she admits it, so tell her what should she say to you?

get an apology out of her, if she just says 'sorry', say sorry for what? does she think thats appropriate? and in the future, what will she do? etc

-then tell her you can't accept the apology you don't think it's sincere

let her sweat it for a bit and tell her to come over your place
meet her at the gate or downstairs, wherever. tell her no talking, no touching. not aggressive but domineering attitude, staring right at her is ok.
walk her to the door, then stop her - and again ask her if she should say something to you. get another apology out of her and make sure its sincere.
when inside give her commands, - walk inside, stop, turn around, take off your shoes, take my jacket, fold it, put it on the table there, come back here, take my bag, on the table, i told you no talking, on the table, yes thats right. come back here,
tell her to take her clothes off, get on the bed, put her finger in her mouth, touch herself, sit up, suck your cock, whatever
if she doesn't comply point the door, and say there's the door. dont reply to her text messages

so two girls didn't dare go to the door because you know the next step right?

one girl actually i hadn't even fucked yet with but she lied and didn't delete a girl i told her to. i told her to get on the ground and bark like a dog, she didn't so i said there's the door - she grabbed her stuff from the table and left.

she came back 5 minutes later crying

i told her to take off her clothes then, again she wouldn't so again i said there's the door - and i thought this time she was gone for good, however if she couldn't listen and respect me how would the relationship work?

10 minutes later.

she comes back again. I didnt think she would but her emotions were that strong. I grab her manhandle her upstairs, tear off her clothes and fuck her for the first time.

Title	Gf blocked me from seeing snapchat stories
Author	redhomme
Upvotes	25
Comments	95
Date	June 14, 2016 11:52 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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