Ghosted after ONS

FereallyRed · 2019-06-19T22:29:14+00:00

That's how a ONS works.

acp_rdit · 2019-06-19T22:05:52+00:00

and you didn't even have to pay her, grats

californiawaves23 · 2019-06-19T21:58:32+00:00

Probably has a BF

walawalawa · 2019-06-20T00:48:16+00:00

Any suggestions on what should have I done differently or what can I do?

Yes, stop obsessing and get more girls. The fact is despite all this nonsense they spout about "NO ONS" that's just a way of them rationalizing having a ONS.

Case and point, I met a cute girl online, banged her twice, suddenly she doesn't want to see me. She's busy. My response? Nothing. I have 4 others on the go.

Without knowing the details of your interaction it's hard to know precisely what happened. But in general the situation you're describing is common and so is your panicked reaction looking for answers.

A few ideas: ASD, hypergamy (she found another guy), personal issues, not enough attraction, too much attraction not enough comfort--etc etc etc.

mseand · 2019-06-19T22:24:04+00:00

Sometimes it better to open with a little bit of flirtation and text game before you make another "ask". In my "asks" - ie. Meetups, hookups , dates, etc. - I'm making plans while simultaneously giving the girl a hard time.

What this does is it keeps her emotions intact while making a logical decision to meet up with you. Once she agrees to the plans you're pretty much set, but it's also good to give a little bit of comfort and make it seem like that's not the only thing you're after.

So why do I try to keep her emotions intact before she makes a logical decision to meet? It's because emotions are volatile but decisions aren't; emotions change but plans are usually fixed. Once she agrees to the plans, she knows you have value that's logically explainable

Variables such as how well you know her and the quality of time you've spent together are determining factors which can either make the "ask" easier or harder. In your case you barely know her so you have to employ a little bit of text game here.

I'm a huge fan of burning the numbers down with value-offering texts which don't require a response but instigate it. If you're a beginner in game I'd say soft next but if you're intermediate-advanced then burn that shit down because it doesn't really matter in your day-to-day life. Always instigate for a shit test to give you a chance to display more value. I can go on and on about PUA shit but I hope you take this into consideration next time you do text game

asorals · 2019-06-20T00:07:47+00:00

They come and go, it's what they do. It could be a number of things, no point worry about the reason though.

amwfhunter · 2019-06-20T11:57:09+00:00

lilgoatedboy · 2019-06-20T05:50:21+00:00

I think you messed up with the kiss and “have a safe trip.” This is a girl you just hooked up with not your damn LTR. Show her the door in the morning and say peace. She’ll most likely hit you up. Even ONS girls don’t want to be the ONS girl most of the time, she’ll be wondering why you didn’t text her and if she’s just 1 of the many thots on your roster, hell does he even know my name?

Title	Ghosted after ONS
Author	haxewep24
Upvotes	2
Comments	20
Date	June 19, 2019 9:54 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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