Got called out for spitting game, having 2 personalities.

PragmaticRedTruth · 2016-06-23T23:25:33+00:00

You are making shit tons of excuses for yourself.

You're overly invested in others opinions and their affect on other people.

The irony: when you stop caring, people can see it. When they do, it's much more attractive. He probably would have jumped right into your frame and started sucking your dick after he noticed you being this way.

VaeVictor · 2016-06-24T12:07:02+00:00

The fuck dude?

are you bipolar or something? [...] I am bipolar, but they don't know that.>

What you are is full of shit. Don't kid yourself. Getting TRP lessons for free on reddit doesn't equate to you deserving to berate on someone pointing out some pretty obvious shit about yourself by argumenting that he's lower SMV than you so you should tackle him, because you feel insulted.

If the truth is insulting to you ,maybe, just maybe you have a problem, not the dude you want to beat up. How would I rate you? Fuck 1-10, I can do better. You're a wannabe tough guy who read up on some theories and equated them to cheap tricks he'll use to impress his loser friends. TRP is about becoming a better man, not winning dick measuring contests.

JackGetsIt · 2016-06-24T04:53:11+00:00

But I'm insecure about being 5'8"

Seriously? Work on this first. Stop being insecure about your height. You said you do BJJ. That alone should teach you that height is not a big advantage.

I feel like I'm in a lose-lose situation

You are. The guy was banking on it and he knows it.

and I'm too rational to not fight

That's a good thing. Those guys will eventually be in jail and you will be living the high life fucking those same girls.

What would you rate my handling of the situation out of 10?

You didn't really handle it?? Except to say that you didn't get baited into a fight. You didn't AMOG the other guys or win the girl but you can't win em all. Sometimes not getting baited into a bad situation is a win.

DennisReynoldsAMA · 2016-06-24T00:49:18+00:00

What you said wasn't bad I don't know why you're overcomplicating things. Read my post I just made in trp, it has to do with situations like this.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2016-06-24T04:08:31+00:00

You're way over analyzing this. Ironically if you would analyze it just a little from a 3rd perspective you'll see the result. Here's what I would think if I was there and actually cared.

"Wow, that guys attempt at getting under his skin was flimsy and weird. I'm glad OP took it in stride and didn't make it awkward. He's ok in my book."

frequentlywrong · 2016-06-24T07:29:51+00:00

talks about how I change attitudes depending on who I talk to

This guy revealed himself to have low self esteem because he was threatened by your presence. The only thing you should feel is pity for him.

InformalCriticism · 2016-06-24T10:59:00+00:00

I really wanted to just tackle him and beat the fuck out of him

Maybe you are bipolar.

If we're talking about a low value dude, he probably saw you as a potential ally, but lost confidence in your consistency and didn't understand what or why you were doing what you were doing. You said his GPA is even lower than yours, yet you hold him to the same standard you held yourself.

Not only does that show that you don't know what a leader would have done in that situation, it shows you don't understand people in general.

Being cocky is fine, but you're venting emotions due to ignorance of a greater nature than you recognize. You're asking questions about the specific instance, yet it's the entirety of your demeanor.

If you are living in a western culture, you don't need to actually physically dominate other males. Society has made it dangerous, or at least not in your best interest, to fuck people up who you don't like.

You didn't fight, that's half the battle +5. You left the door open for both males and females to think well of you in that situation if you won the group approval +2. You didn't get the girl +0. You're worried about what betas think about you, who are not your friends +0. You don't understand a fuckload of things about the world, but you might one day +0.

7/10, because nothing bad happened, and you stuck to frame.

I think you're freaking out, because you probably don't have anyone except the Internet to vent to. No RP mentor. No true notion of what masculinity looks like in a subdued western environment.

Werkzeug81 · 2016-06-24T12:14:13+00:00

Being two faced is the reality of being successful. More like 100 faced tbh. You act and respond differently to each and every situation. There is no way in hell I would be a working class citizen if they knew what I did at home and vise versa I wouldn't have many friends if I acted the way I do at work to friends. For your situation there I times I put on game mode but others where I got shit to do and don't even attempt to talk to women. Just play the hand your given and don't be afraid to change for any type of situation.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2016-06-25T02:08:53+00:00

I feel like he didn't deserve to even attempt to take shots at me. I really wanted to just tackle him and beat the fuck out of him, put him in his place.

That kind of blatant, flaming insecurity is a real inner frame problem.

Sounds like you're not at peace with yourself. In other words, you have a lot of self-limiting beliefs and self doubt that you need to work to take care of.

The opinion of people who have no value to offer you, should be beneath your notice.

DoofusCPA · 2016-06-23T22:14:49+00:00

I really wanted to just tackle him and beat the fuck out of him, put him in his place. But I know that's not practical because popular people usually have friends/backup and obviously most people aren't worth going to jail for.

You answered your own question. If you get any sort of criminal record, your future job prospects, loan applications, grad school applications will be hindered.

redpillnobody · 2016-06-24T01:07:40+00:00

The group laughed at my joke, but I still didn't feel content. This douche was wayyy scrawnier and lower GPA and lower status than me, I feel like he didn't deserve to even attempt to take shots at me. I really wanted to just tackle him and beat the fuck out of him, put him in his place. But I know that's not practical because popular people usually have friends/backup and obviously most people aren't worth going to jail for.

You handled it well externally, and you handled it poorly internally. You still looking to other people for validation is the issue. You're being reactive to that, etc. Not doing this is the core idea in No More Mr Nice Guy, fwiw.

Am I supposed to spit game at everyone? Not just the women I wanna get inside?

No. You're letting the reactions of these people fuck with you. That's called losing frame.

tldr: You're doing it right everywhere but internally. Congrats on all of the cool shit you're doing. Keep it up.

Edit: You're taller than the average man in the USA: (5 ft 7 1⁄2 in) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_average_human_height_worldwide, also height doesn't matter all that much in the grand scheme of things. Being a tall pussy is much worse than being a bamf of average height.

theimmortalmortal · 2016-06-23T22:16:47+00:00

My advice to you is be cool, calm and collected. You're dealing with 3rd grade drama.

Title	Got called out for spitting game, having 2 personalities.
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Date	June 23, 2016 10:06 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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