Hard next or reach out?

CopperFox3c · 2017-10-13T14:07:46+00:00

You need to have standards for how women treat you in life.

If you text a girl, and she doesn't even bother to respond, your thought should not be "how can I get this girl's attention? Should I reach out again?" You should be thinking, "this girl isn't even respectful enough to reply. She does not live up to my standards."

This isn't about her, it's about you and what kind of behavior from women you will tolerate. Start expecting more from women, and your life will become a lot more stress-free. As you think, you shall become ...

WISE_TURD · 2017-10-13T14:26:17+00:00

Non-exhaustive list of the effects/reasons of/for ghosting:

Sometimes the quickest way to gain someone's attention is to remove yours.
she should earn your attention
being able to walk away creates power
it's time efficient
it saves your mental focus for more important problems

EDIT: added "of/for"

TheGatesOfValhalla · 2017-10-13T14:41:20+00:00

Women do not respond to texts for a reason. They ALWAYS fucking see them. They NEVER lose their phone.

tiger-muffin · 2017-10-13T14:01:24+00:00

Delete block ghost

AlphaGrad · 2017-10-13T14:45:14+00:00

Hard next...it's either black or white.

imdar3ald3al · 2017-10-13T13:56:03+00:00

ghost her

mdcrubengonza · 2017-10-13T20:18:25+00:00

Delete. Also, don't set a date further out than 2 days.

CoolCarnivore · 2017-10-13T17:43:18+00:00

If you were doing something anyway that day, you could Aaron Rodgers it with a hail mary of "see you at (place) at (time)" and leave it at that, and go do that thing anyway solo, and have a blast doing it.

If it was going to be a more traditional structured date, then you might be SOL.

BestSC86 · 2017-10-13T18:29:01+00:00

Did she get hit by a bus?

So let us look at this for a moment....you sort of suggested that you two might go on a date but didn't have a real plan just mention something about going on a date.... We sort of fucked up didn't we? Did she really even know that you would be contacting her? You do realize that if she is attractive that Saturday night is prime time for her social calendar and sorry but a random new dude who she has never dated and who offhanded "suggested" something about going on a date are not at the top of her list.

Now, of course, that she has not responded at all likely means that you didn't make much of an impression on her among the other 10 guys she is currently gaming....she isn't really interested in you so I would say that you are wasting your time. Next time set something up in a less prominent timeframe or quicker....at least have definite plan.

poochman · 2017-10-13T19:25:05+00:00

Soft next

Zanford · 2017-10-13T21:04:16+00:00

Needs more context. If this is a fresh Tinder lead, then next.

If this is someone you've seen 20 times and she'd been your sex kitten since date 3 and all over you 'til now with no warning signs lately....maybe the message didn't go through. It happens with phones. Maybe send one more, ignoring the fact that your last one was ignored.

But the way you said 'a date' suggests this would be a first date (I'm guessing this is a girl from a recent number close, or Tinder et.) in which case this is a textbook case of a girl that despite the number close / Tinder match just isn't into you so far, so just forget her and go fish for more numbers / matches.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-10-13T21:07:53+00:00

please respond

Title	Hard next or reach out?
Author	tiger-muffin
Upvotes	16
Comments	41
Date	October 13, 2017 1:45 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/764v8d/hard_next_or_reach_out/
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