Hard nexted a bitch over $20

fnordsnord · 2016-09-09T14:57:12+00:00

Your call, of course, but I would have kept her in my rotation, but never spent another dime on her again.

As long as the sex stayed good, I'd keep seeing her. But she's officially off the "potential LTR list."

Surfincloud9 · 2016-09-09T04:15:49+00:00

Where do you find these bitches? My plates will pay for all their stuff. We go to a lot of concerts and I buy the tickets up front and she pays me back at the show. Every time. No asking, no arguing. 50/50

RedCommander101 · 2016-09-09T03:53:52+00:00

That's a red flag for me. She's already cheating you out of money, what else is next?

stickfiguresk · 2016-09-09T03:53:57+00:00

That's amusing. I won't say you were in the wrong for nexting her, but I absolutely do not loan anything that I also wouldn't give away for free. She's right, bullshit over $20 is petty, but you also shouldn't have put yourself in that position, imo. Any direction you choose to go in, think of this as a lesson, I'd forget about the $20--you got plaid, "fool me once..."

SkorchZang · 2016-09-09T07:03:56+00:00

Would've done the same as you. Fuck that noise. It's not about the $20, it's about the presumption.

Probably doesn't apply to your situation, but I've observed this behavior a few times just before the breakup / branchswing. When that "new guy" energy has worn out a bit, they start testing the boundaries and seeing what they can get out of you.

Had almost an identical situation, except she was a little more cunning, after she got her item, she deliberately pretended to forget paying me for it and then said "we cool? I owe you anything?"

Of course as a good little beta you're supposed to say "all good" and be happy at least you're hitting the pussy. While she's grinning and secretly despises what a weak can't-say-no-to-her piece of shit you are.

I think the overall lesson is, better nip it in the bud - bitch no, buy your own catridge.

SpinPlates · 2016-09-09T04:20:32+00:00

Good job.

I would have said "Exactly, its only $20 so pay up"

Thats a huge red flag. Glad you got it in though.

flying_cumshot · 2016-09-09T04:46:53+00:00

Major disrespect on her part. It's about the principle and women don't understand principles... I would've nexted her too but I don't think I would've been in the mood to fuck her. I would've just left immediately.

I've actually hard nexted a female friend on a similar situation. she borrowed $5 from me, and I asked her to give it back to me, but she said "it's your money, you come get it back." I went to her to get my money and never talked to her again.

thor_away92 · 2016-09-09T13:12:10+00:00

20$ hooker so fuck it

clint_bronson · 2016-09-09T13:34:00+00:00

20 shekels are 20 shekels after all....

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-09-09T05:04:46+00:00

"Oh come on it's only $20..." "Did you not say you were going to pay me?" "Don't be so cheap."

You: "Don't be a liar."

That said, if you loan someone $20 and you never see them again...it was worth it.

pbgswd · 2016-09-09T07:58:59+00:00

nope. you did well. Really, nobody should ever put up with that. Its lying to your face.

YouDislikeMyOpinion · 2016-09-10T03:11:02+00:00

I'd make her cook me a 3 course meal. And then after eating it, I'll tell her it was "okay".

FrgElder · 2016-09-09T14:52:48+00:00

It's a red flag that disqualifies her from being anything other than a plate, for several reasons:

1) She was using for her own gain.

2) She was dishonest.

3) She attempted to shame you rather than rectify the situation.

Of course the real problem here is you losing frame. This could all have been cleared up if you didn't freak out over a $20 favor. Doing people favors is fine, but she should be willing to do you one in return. If you just waited for an opportunity for her to repay the favor, you could have vetted her properly without damaging your position (if she did it willingly, no problem. If she was hesitant, red flag). But you reacted poorly over $20 and now you're seen as cheap and whiny in her eyes, with nothing to show for it (since you can't confirm if it's a true red flag).

Either way though, no reason to hard next. Don't be so touchy. Just keep her as a plate and don't promote to anything else.

TopTRP · 2016-09-09T12:36:41+00:00

Whether or not you next her isn't the important decision here.

I probably would, but I would have never been in that position in the first place because...

I don't care so I just buy it when I'm at the grocery store. Mistake?

By the way you describe it going down (she said that I should buy her a CO2 cartridge), by doing it you're putting yourself into a position of servitude. Running her errands for her.

Replace her with one of your guy friends. If you're hanging out with a bro, and he says "hey man you should pick me up an AC filter next time you're out", are you going to do it?

Aside from the fact that whether or not he has a new AC filter is the absolute last thing on my mind, I definitely wouldn't be running his errands for him and none of my guy friends would think of asking me that in the first place.

InformalCriticism · 2016-09-09T14:23:09+00:00

It kind of sounds like you were hoping she could be an LTR, so if that's what you're after, then it was a good call to move on.

Keep your expectations high, almost unreasonably high, when looking for LTRs. Never, ever, settle.

ReallyLikesRum · 2016-09-10T06:50:57+00:00

This reminds me of the time she slapped me in the face for not buying her a drink.

GarlicSaucePunch · 2016-09-26T18:50:41+00:00

I mean, 20$ for sex is actually a pretty decent discount.

rattamahatta · 2016-09-09T07:42:32+00:00

Sue her in small claims court 😂

PlansAndPlates · 2016-09-09T13:15:44+00:00

Nothing wrong with ending your interactions, I probably recommend it. Sex is cheap, you can get it from someone who doesn't actively steal from you/disrespect you.

I am a big, huge, massive believer in only choosing to spend time with people who respect you.

If you choose to spend time with people who disrepect you, how can you respect yourself? And if you can't respect yourself, how can you do anything?

That's my logic and why I do not associate with people who are disrespectful.

Pacman1500 · 2016-09-09T15:18:12+00:00

There is a bigger picture in all of this and a lesson to be learned. She views you as a beta provider and you need to work out why, maybe you have lost frame before this. In the meantime, keep her around to use as a jizz rag.

RedSinecure · 2016-09-09T12:55:40+00:00

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W_O_M_B_A_T · 2016-09-09T13:14:13+00:00

You implied through your actions that it wasn't a big deal at the time.

You lost frame by asking for the money after the fact, instead of asking up front when she asked. "what's it worth to you?"

Title	Hard nexted a bitch over $20
Author	piper19832
Upvotes	66
Comments	48
Date	September 9, 2016 3:40 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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