Having a "nice time" on a date: failed strategy

abdada · 2018-03-03T16:42:03+00:00

I've been dating 31 years now (ouch) and my rule back when I was 15 is the same as my rule today: the minute she looks bored, I take my leave. Even if it's 7 minutes into a day.

If she reinitiates, it's probably because she got tingles that I bailed so quickly and didn't attempt to fix anything.

Some of my best longest term plates came from a really, really, really shitty second date that I nexted super early. 30 minutes into it, she's almost yawning, and I'm all "well I'm feeling beat so I'm outta here" and off I go.

DochreanSepp · 2018-03-03T17:15:18+00:00

I am pretty sure you got those dates because you are looking exceptionally good. So thats nice.

Some things to remember:

Dont try to qualify for her
Remember that you are the price and she should be happy that you spend your valuable time with her. 3.Go on dates with this mindset and escalate properly. Results will come.

DadOnDabs · 2018-03-03T23:41:12+00:00

I slay my dates 99% of the time and here is how you do it.

1) start off with the rapport build so she knows you aren't crazy. 5-10 minutes of school, work, and current shit going on

2) go deeper. Hopes, dreams, goals. Builds a connection (5 -10 minutes)

3) get sexual. This is done through tone more than words. Tease her, do some light kino (my fave is the "you have small hands" line then you compare hands. Hold till she pulls away.

4) move locations. Go on a walk or do whatever but it's another kino strat. Hold her hand when you walk. Push her away from you playfully and pull her back. Just have fun with it.

5) go for the kiss

6) pull. "I can't wait to get home. I'm gonna make the best cookies." 99% of the time they will ask to come. If not just say, "you're welcome to help if you promise not to burn them"

The rest is history

NPIF · 2018-03-03T16:53:57+00:00

Do you escalate physically?

Aesthetik_1 · 2018-03-03T17:01:23+00:00

Kino, escalation, teasing, banter is what will get you out of this

atticusfinch1973 · 2018-03-03T18:49:42+00:00

You're probably not sexualizing enough while you're with them. Touching, flirting etc are a good way to get over this - that way she knows that you're interested physically and either responds well or doesn't.

And yes, sometimes they are sick of you waiting to make a move and once you do it's game on. Even if you think she's bored.

mangoat12 · 2018-03-03T23:15:04+00:00

Same thing happened to me last night. Conversation was good but I couldn't touch her because she was across the table. I'm predicting a ghost for next time. Every date I had with kino usually ends up with a second date

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2018-03-03T20:32:37+00:00

"Nice" is boring. You should be having fun.

PhaedrusHunt · 2018-03-03T22:13:17+00:00

No, don't ignore them. But don't feign interest. If they start talking about Beyonce and you're not into Beyonce, tell them you think Beyonce is lame. If they start spouting feminist bullshit, call them on it. Drop TRP knowledge without actually mentioning TRP.

This is where you started getting into the subtle differences between being a jerk and actually being who you are. This culture has become so feminized that being masculine is misconstrued with being a jerk.

So don't be a jerk unless you are a jerk. Just be masculine. Being masculine is all the things that we talk about here. Holding frame, putting yourself before others, having a plan, lifting or doing a martial art or boxing, and not giving a fuck.

The stuff has to all be internalized.

So I'm going to go against the common advice given here and take it to a deeper level. We rail against the old adage of just be yourself. But that's only when your actual self is some simp. Be a man in charge of your own destiny-- and THEN just be yourself.

The panties will drip. "Kino" (a weird term if I ever heard one-- something that I just did naturally before I ever even heard of this place) will become unconscious. Escalation will be free, easy, and your new normal.

This is not to say that there will not be cases where the chemistry just isn't there.

But what you'll find more often than not is that it will be YOU that is not attracted to the woman. When you're in the right place if you are attracted to a woman you will find most of the time she is also attracted to you and getting her into bed is easy.

memogate_trump2020 · 2018-03-03T20:52:14+00:00

it’s going to eventually happen to you anyway. you’re going to get tired of being a performing monkey. your perceived disinterest will cause some of your next dates to try harder as you inadvertently push them away

you honestly don’t need to put any thought into this. keep going on dates doing what you want to do, and act like you want to act, and you’ll naturally adjust your strategy without even thinking

ironically, staring at redpill shit can make you act unnaturally and cause you to overthink some easy plays (that’s not to say TRP is bad. it just causes some new players to rethink very simple situations where they had the right answers in the first place)

sand141 · 2018-03-03T22:21:12+00:00

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=TILbeG_VUP0

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_awEGStnshA

Moreofmore · 2018-03-04T00:23:42+00:00

Funny isn’t sexy. That helped me

FlyingSexistPig · 2018-03-03T17:53:07+00:00

If she has a nice time, then she's feeling good, and she doesn't need anything else. If she's feeling ignored, then she needs more.

Title	Having a "nice time" on a date: failed strategy
Author	Caspero444
Upvotes	21
Comments	26
Date	March 3, 2018 4:36 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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