Holding her while walking?

vandaalen · 2017-09-22T09:25:05+00:00

PDA (Public Display of Affection), like holding hands, walking arm in arm, kissing, should be used sparsely and only if she is behaving well.

She wants to show the world that you are "hers". You don't give a fuck. The prize doesn't give a fuck about who wears it.

As with everything, make her work for it so she can appreciate it.

Edit: This does obviously not apply if you haven't fucked her at least twice.

MattyAnon · 2017-09-22T11:47:47+00:00

You're right about mate guarding.

But women love to be held and it feels good.

So do it some of the time, other times don't touch her, actively push her away, etc.

eccentricrealist · 2017-09-22T08:37:10+00:00

Your hand in her back pocket

gg_s · 2017-09-22T10:07:15+00:00

Being unsure about it signals insecurity. If you want to hold her hand, fuck it, hold her hand.

Whenever I took my last LTR out for a hike in the cold, I used to grab her hand, lace her fingers with mine, and shove the whole fist back into my jacket pocket. She looked goofy with her arm awkwardly sticking out of my jacket like she was pickpocketing me, but she absolutely loved it because I thought it was funny. Shit was hilarious in public.

McVaghunter · 2017-09-22T10:18:45+00:00

Usually when walking my bitches I never put my arm around them or hold them, I prefer when they hold my ram like this. It shows that the girl is into me, it shows my dominance and her submission, and frankly it just feels good. I take this shit seriously; if a girl don't hold my arm it means that my game is not tight and needs reevaluation.

stylerTyler · 2017-09-22T08:51:57+00:00

It’s only beta if you’re beta. It’s only insecure if you’re insecure. Hold her hand or put your arm around her waist or even shoulder and do it proudly. Don’t pay attention to how people view you. Fact of the matter, nobody gives a damn anyway. You are only 1 more couple walking down the streets and there are hundreds like you. People tend to mind their own goddamn business.

IVIaskerade · 2017-09-22T11:29:29+00:00

Let her hold your arm. That's her attraction to you. Any attraction display from you to her, like putting your hand on her back, is earned.

SeekingTheWay · 2017-09-22T13:11:43+00:00

It really boils down on why you do it.

Are you going to take your girl's hand because you see someone hitting on her? - this is insecure

Are you going to take her hend to walk her somewhere and lead? - this is fine

See my point? The chick herself and other people will subconsciously pick up on this.

jb_trp · 2017-09-22T15:53:53+00:00

Will it signal insecurity or is that just my blue pill upbringing making shit up?

If you're insecure, it'll signal insecurity. Shoot, anything will signal insecurity if you're insecure. So: Be confident. Have a take it or leave it attitude.

I touch my LTR quite a bit. But I don't if she's shit testing me (which is rare). If we're having a good time and she's being really sweet or good, I'll give her random hugs or lightly kiss her, or let her hold onto my arm, or hold her hand.

But...

As with anything, don't do it too much. Like texting, or giving compliments, or doing nice things... Too much and it loses it's impact. It's just human nature.

Peter_B_Long · 2017-09-22T14:38:27+00:00

If you haven't fucked her yet, you want to do all of that kino for escalation. You want her to feel comfortable touching. Don't have your arm around her 24/7 but the goal for the night is to increase escalation.

Once she's a plate or LTR, only DPA when she's behaving well.

NexusReflexX · 2017-09-22T14:21:25+00:00

If shes earned it sure. I usually like to switch it up though. If im walk8ng through a crowded area (bar/club) ill hold hands and pull her arm around my body as i walk in front of her, if we are walkibg down the street i may hold fingers, basically holding hands but with 2/3 fingers. I believe this communicates that while yes, i am into you, i can let go at any moment. Ill also not hold hands but as we walk i notice we continuously bump arms.

If we are standing, ill have my arm around her waist/ass and hers around my shoulders.

Title	Holding her while walking?
Author	TheRedSwordsman
Upvotes	33
Comments	29
Date	September 22, 2017 8:35 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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