How can I stop hating myself?

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2019-08-08T11:39:48+00:00

God damit kid your breaking my hart. 17 is an amazing age and you got life by the balls.

I swear to christe the internet is fuckig you guys up. You think your suppose to be a fully developed man, with a rich social circle, and be comfortable in your own skin at 17?

You are still building the foundation that your adult person will rest upon, so get the fuck out there and do some shit. It dosent even matter if you fuck up, actually, do that, try and fuck up.

These are the best God dam years right now, you will never have the ability to manuver like you do now. The girls and life experience available to you now only exists now. They are only this age once and so are you.

Go lift, tackle your diet, approach, fail, get humiliated!

Come back and tell us how you did.

I had a full head of long faggy hair at 17, it was 1994.

This is your time.

This is not a trial run.

nobody_thinks · 2019-08-08T12:35:26+00:00

remove social media
control your diet
hit gym
control your sleep
stop using porn
reduce mass media consumption / read books.
remove toxic people from your life. may require taking a break from parents or close "friends".
spend more time in nature.
do something that you've been really wanting to do for a long time.
tell someone to go fuck themselves who deserves hearing it

plumo123 · 2019-08-08T10:31:42+00:00

Do you hate yourself for things that you can change? If yes change them, if not accept them.

comounamanzana · 2019-08-08T11:33:56+00:00

read about stoicism and not giving a fuck, u be takin this life thing too serious

lbrownlbandit · 2019-08-08T14:40:10+00:00

Go lift, talk to people and get good at something. Once you do these three, you will see yourself feeling healthier,more confident and people will want to be around you.

Also, try your best to find people who are like you that you can comfortably talk to. Tell your shitty jokes and they'll still talk to you. This builds a nice base you can always come back to after you go out and challenge yourself.

If you need more explanation or just want to talk PM me

Darknessblinds · 2019-08-08T10:31:09+00:00

You should set up some goals and think about what you want out of life. You don't need to think long-term goals although those are more exciting short-term goals are also going to drive you forward and you'll eventually be proud of yourself upon achieving any of your goals. Try working out as it will not only raise youe self-esteem but also make you more ambitious and healthy. Make time for yourself and think it all out. Do not let others opinions interfere with your life at all, easier said than done but focus on your shit.

Darknessblinds · 2019-08-08T10:33:09+00:00

I'd also like to add that at the age of 17/18 and such it isn't weird to feel lost or such because you're about to learn a whole bunch of new stuff and this is where you're supposed to find your purpose and figure it all out.. though it will take you some time, love the process.

acp_rdit · 2019-08-08T12:34:21+00:00

Get good at shit

XXXMersenne · 2019-08-08T13:23:38+00:00

Start living more in alignment with your values. Gym, nutrition, reading, meditation & weekend bar/club game gets you out the gate. from there adjust for higher self-esteem after stabilizing at each level.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2019-08-08T17:27:18+00:00

To be honest with you, looking back, I didn't even feel like I was alive until I was about 23. Everything before that feels like another existence. Not that those years were bad or anything, I had a lot of fun, learned a lot and accomplished some things but it just seems kind of grey in comparison. What I'm saying is fulfillment is not something you can expect as a teen, let alone an early 20s man. Give it some time and just do what needs to be done.

You'll still have some good times as long as you do what we espouse here, be fit, get good grades, be social to the extent it doesn't inhibit goals etc. Doing this will also win the respect and admiration of your family and friends, not that you'll actually care after awhile.

Fulfillment is something you'll get when you're out in the real world and how fast you accomplish it is based off of how well you're preparing for it now.

Ps. I appreciate that you're asking for legitimate advice about this kind of thing instead of being like those pathetic faggots that say shit like "I'm depressed! You don't understand, I can't do this I can't do that! I need someone to do everything for me!" That is no fucking way to live ESPECIALLY for a man. As a man when you were born the universe said fuck you, you will have to work for everything you get and everyone will constantly be trying to take what you gain from you. You were born to struggle. But if there's one thing you remember through it all remember that the struggle is the fun.

Corvus_Uraneus · 2019-08-08T13:43:50+00:00

First, realize that no one thinks about you as much as you'd think.

Secondly, consider the things you don't like about yourself and work on improving them. Secondly, think about the things you like about yourself and develop them. Most importantly, consider what you are known for and what you want to be known for. Start doing the latter, do what you want to be known for.

Even if it makes people go, "You? You're going for another hike?" "The gym, really?" "Damn how often do you go shopping for clothes?" "You didn't need another haircut, its only been two weeks." "Since when do you read?"

If you want to love yourself, be lovable. Be useful to your family. Bring something to the table with your group of friends, even if its just a dozen donuts next time you come over to hang out. Make people want to invite you to dinner parties because they know you wont show up empty handed or be a poor house guest.

jjj2576 · 2019-08-09T02:16:42+00:00

Use the STAR method for answering questions.

Command them to, “Close your eyes. I want you to imagine your ideal employee. What traits do they have? What did you like about them? Now tell me about that person.” It’s a concrete, concise, big dick question. If you don’t say you have those traits in the interview, then you can in the Thank You E-mail/Letter.

ChubbbyLover39 · 2019-08-09T02:54:43+00:00

Hit the gym! Do some of the basics, start light and start making gains. The pump will have you feeling great. Watching your body become strong and feeling strong will help you realize there's no reason to hate the gift you've been given. Try to avoid fast food like McDs for awhile too. It makes you feel like shit. Eat some not great tasting whole, clean foods and you'll also feel better all around. I don't know where you live, but if you're in the USA, see if there is a planet fitness nearby. Only $10 a month and a $1 to join you can be lifting tomorrow.

At your age, you should be fucking chicks at school. Put on a nice looking outfit and ask out a chick who will be a starter chick. Aim low, a little over weight is fine, low self confidence is awesome. In high school, a lot of chicks are just happy to get any attention and you're odds of getting laid are really good. Having a chick you can fuck, and forgetting about porn and getting out of your room will do wonders for your emotional health. Just remember, she the first plate of many to come. No LTRs and be honest about it. You're young and want to have fun. Once you've banged your starter chick, your SMV will instantly boost at school and you'll be ready to move up when you want to a hotter chick.

lokilis · 2019-08-08T13:25:41+00:00

Look for role models that you admire.

Strive to become like those people. After long enough, you will be able to admire yourself and what you've achieved, as well.

craneonacrane · 2019-08-08T12:59:59+00:00

Vote trump and see the light.

Title	How can I stop hating myself?
Author	123undeuxtrois123
Upvotes	22
Comments	25
Date	August 8, 2019 10:16 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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