I have a difficult time creating interesting convos with women...

CharruaNative · 2016-11-14T05:29:56+00:00

Relevant. This paragraph by Archwinger explains this

"You have to be fun. Nobody likes a complainer. So performing small-talk about stupid shit instead of real-talk about what’s going on in your life turns out to be a pretty important aspect of your game. Unlike the Japanese, we can do a little better than talking about the weather in passing, but no woman wants to have a real conversation with you. They just want to see a hot guy, exchange social graces, get a good feel for yours, and if you demonstrate social aptitude, fuck you. Only creepy beta losers in fedoras think that talking about “real, deep” stuff is “interesting” to girls. If you complain about shit or try to have a real conversation, you’re done. The skill they’re looking for is your ability to have a fake conversation, but drop in very small tidbits of real shit about yourself to keep them hooked and searching for more"

Never complain. Don’t have a real conversation. Don’t look for connections. Keep her guessing about your real self, your real thoughts, and your real feelings, but drop in the occasional juicy morsel to excite her. That’s the fun of the game – for you and for her. Be fun"

AFauxPasPrincess · 2016-11-14T02:53:19+00:00

Honestly, don't worry about excitement. The right woman will like seeing that you are real. Just talk to her about your day and ask about hers. I know I just want someone to show interest in me and what I do.

LordThunderbolt · 2016-11-14T04:03:55+00:00

Do you even lift bro? You don't need a personality if you're attractive.I know a guy who's very boring. He never talks about anything other than other people. A conversation with him is like inhaling bleach for me. He's 5'7 yoked and has good looks, he's got a wife that he cheats on fairly often. My point is jyst be attractive. Ive seen him do some outright cringy shit but he still got a pass because of his looks.

648262 · 2016-11-14T02:46:04+00:00

Develop a life you find pleasure in living. Be proud of that life. Your friend did that, and therefore it is easy for him to share stories about his life that he finds interesting.

Maybe put things related to women on hold for now and become someone you think is cool instead of whatever it is you feel you are now.

Apanthropos · 2016-11-14T07:04:50+00:00

Lift.

Accept reality and work on yourself to raise your SMV.

uwotm891 · 2016-11-14T07:21:01+00:00

Your happiness is based on female attention at the moment. That's a big no no bubba. You slide into depression because a girl from tinder didn't want you? Really? Listen brother, you're placing too much importance on the wrong things. You need to work on building up your confidence and self-esteem. Otherwise, if you do get a girl, it's going to be an emotional disaster for you. You're going to be all flustered and depressed until you take pussy off of the pedestal. It's not some special thing, bro. It's just pussy.

anabolic92 · 2016-11-14T07:28:28+00:00

You are like me, but tell me, are you at least physically average?

Do you have any deformity in your fAce? Because I do, I'm bald.

If you don't then all the advice given here applies to you, hit the gym and look clean irl, focus on yourself and just keep approaching.

I relate to a lot of the stuff you say as waking up and hating your life since the first second, shit sux so I try to have my mind occupied 24/7(work 10h, study 3, train 2) so I barely have any time to even get depressed.

To me, at least, I think the best option would be forget about anything related to sex or women, but it's hard, specially being in my early 20s.

All I can say is oh boy I wish I was average at least... i know very well the place you are at, I've been for years, and all I can wish is you get out soon.

redhazardlights · 2016-11-14T17:47:49+00:00

Stop using Tinder: if you're not as visually attractive as the girl you want, you're not going to get anywhere.

No one will find you interesting if you don't even find yourself interesting. Why would they? I mean, listen to yourself. You just said that there's no reason for you to wake up happy. The longer you wait to change your life, the longer you will be waiting on women to make the first move. And there are very few women who find that attractive.

Take a trip. No money? Sell your shit, take a trip. Get a job, take a trip. Can't manage that? Sign up for one of those volunteer programs where if you're selected, you're housed with other young people and you, you know, actually DO shit. Like helping people. You'll be meeting people AND helping people. When I was 23 I lived in a group house in a city across the country doing just this, and I tell you it made me a man.

There are so many ways to break your paralysis. There is so much in the world, and you're here? Upset because a Tinder chick rejected you without even meeting you in person? It's laughable when you think about it. Not saying this to be a dick, just so you'll pull your head out of your ass.

Title	I have a difficult time creating interesting convos with women...
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Date	November 14, 2016 2:31 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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