I'm having a difficult time visualizing what push/pull is, can anyone help me understand it?

frognads · 2019-10-08T16:34:40+00:00

It's not a specific thing. Rather it refers to being able to switch your attention off and on with her. That means being able to eye fuck her one moment then shrug her off the next. It makes you less predictable and will cause her to think about you more. "Like omg he was so chill at first like talking to me but then I saw him in the lunch room on tuesday and it was like I didn't even exist like wtf, what is his deal?"

MattyAnon · 2019-10-08T20:46:31+00:00

What are some examples of push/pull?

"You're so beautiful........ we could never be together"

"Let's get married.... no wait, let's get divorced and say we hate each other".

Those are the classics, but there's much better ways once you fully "get it". The idea is to show extreme non-neediness and abundance by being prepared to push an attractive girl away from you, implying you are higher status than her.

You have to keep this playful (which is exciting for her), and you have to do it with a smile - because girls egos are super fragile and easily bruised. You'll find this out once you start to play like this.

Disqualifying yourself is another example: "I'm totally unsuitable for you, you should go find a nice boy to settle down with".

Another example is pulling the girl close, then saying "nope, too close" and literally pushing her away from you.

Attractive girls almost never receive this kind of behaviour from men because men are generally either trying to be aloof/disinterested/indifferent, scared to escalate, or pull pull pull pull pull.

And they freaking love it. It's exciting, easy, non-threatening, attractive, etc.

Ultimately you'll get this through abundance, but hey: fake it till you make it.

EspressoCappuccino · 2019-10-08T15:32:55+00:00

Push and pull. Giving her more attention then giving her less. Saying hi when you see her, hug her as you lift her off the ground, gassing her up and shit, Pull. Next time you see her just wave hi then leave, Push. Basically

KillaJewels · 2019-10-08T18:58:09+00:00

Teasing = push. Ignoring (speech/body language) = push. Being contrary = push.

Hug/high five (or any type of kino) = pull. More positive attention = pull. Laser eye contact = pull. Responding well to something she said that you like = pull.

Push/pull is a great way to keep her guessing, create a spectrum of emotional responses (builds attraction) and amplifies masculine/feminine polarity (attraction).

It's essential.

319Skew · 2019-10-08T18:21:38+00:00

OP you should really learn to read the side bar. It's got all the basics of TRP and it's written really well for beginners and advanced alike.

I mean short of busting out the sock puppets, I'm not sure what you're really looking for as examples of giving attention/intimacy and withdrawing attention/intimacy.

IcyBear7 · 2019-10-09T04:49:09+00:00

Being able to talk about normal shit then joke around, then back to normal shit, then back to joking around.

If all you do is talk about life goals, careers, school, etc it just gets too serious for most people and even boring.

If you joke constantly and wont' stop, it's weird and makes you seem like there's something actually wrong with you

have both mixed in

asdfvegas · 2019-10-08T20:34:09+00:00

Push, or pushing away, refers to any interactions that seemingly reject her in some way. It could be passive, such as giving a lack of attention to her specifically for a short to medium time, or long enough for her to doubt if you are as into her as she would like you to be.

Push, could also mean actively pushing her away, for example, by outright rejecting her requests to her face, or teasing her gently in a cocky and funny way about something you noticed about her. This should create some discomfort in her, and the interaction overall, but actually makes her laugh or pretend-sulk. When you engage in Push, it increases her attraction for you in a counterintuitive way.

Pull is more obvious. It is actively indicating to her that you are attracted to her, and you want her around you or in your life. This comes about through complimenting her in general, wanting to spend time with her, touching and caressing her, etc.

TheCiph3r · 2019-10-09T00:06:28+00:00

Most basic example you can use easily:

Push - spiking their emotions negatively (teasing) Pull - spiking their emotions positively (compliment)

Example:

“You look really gorgeous (pull, positive emotions)... but it’s probably because I’m not wearing my specs (push, negative)”

“I love that all black outfit of yours! (pull) where’s the funeral? (push)”

which are esential to flirting. Verbal push and pull is just the tip of the iceberg. Too much pull will make you look like a clown/friend but too much push will make you an asshole. Watch a lot of offensive standup comedy and try to practice it on every girl you meet even friends. I’m telling you, girls love this shit.

SeriousAccount0 · 2019-10-08T17:14:33+00:00

READ THE FUCKING SIDEBAR

Title	I'm having a difficult time visualizing what push/pull is, can anyone help me understand it?
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