Keep getting depressed. Cant focus. Help Me

recursoinominado · 2017-02-27T16:52:01+00:00

Most people feel like shit 24/7, that's why they are constantly distracting themselves (drugs, Sex, television, food, smartphone, games, constantly thinking, EVERYTHING). You have to learn to feel good without needing anything, from there, everything is a bonus. Read about meditation, being present, Buddhism, zen culture. This will greatly improve your overall happiness. TRP is all about being stoic and suck it up but it misses a great part of wisdom. Focus on your well-being, learn to be positive, socialize more and people will be drawn to you like ants on candy, it's addictive. Also know that most experiences are greatly overrated, like most sex. Try to make friends, go out, learn to balance your life, is great that you can focus on study but if this is all you do you will go crazy. Meditate like a motherfucker, read "The illuminated mind" (teaches you how to meditate, is a awesome step by step system) and "The power of now".

ManChooses · 2017-02-27T17:35:12+00:00

man, there's two main things about your post that stick out like a sore thumb to me, both have to do with your mind set

20yo virgin here

So this is who you are? This is how you choose to define yourself? Then on top of that you use that identity as an excuse whenever you choose to be miserable. It also seems like you feel as if this is something out of your control. I can tell you right now 100% that the reason why you are miserable is because of your shitty mindsets. You shouldn't even be worried about getting laid, you have bigger problems. In my opinion your main focus should be on changing your mindsets about yourself and the world. This is primarily an internal endeavor that will probably take years to come to fruition. You can look to external sources for help (motivational garbage, etc) if you want, maybe they'll give you an idea or a direction but all of the leg work on this is going to be internal.

I keep thinking about this girl i like bouncing on some other guy's dick

You're still very bluepilled, clearly you haven't internalized red pill concepts yet.

im already applying TRP concepts (lift, read, focus on yourself) and still feeling like shit

You should be lifting, taking care of yourself and improving yourself for the sake of doing them for you, and nothing else. I doubt you have been applying these for longer than a year, I'd guess a couple months at best. I don't think you realize how long it takes for these things to change you in a drastic way, in fact you will never perceive a drastic change because it all happens so fucking slow, but if you have the discipline all the minor changes accumulate over time. Your problem here is yet another mindset issue, except this one is both a temporal issue and an expectation issue wrapped up in one.

You still have A LOT of work to do man. You should feel lucky that you discovered something like TRP at such a young age. The next decade of your life should be spent primarily focused on building your kingdom and your identity, whatever that may be. Don't expect anyone else to give a shit about you until you've actually made it.

Auvergnat · 2017-02-27T18:47:29+00:00

Go see a prostitute. Your obsession on your virginity is something natural for a man (we inherently measure our self-worth with the number and quality of girls we sleep with) but it's a weight that's drowning you and you need to get rid of it.

With that out of your system and the realization that sex is just a phone call away (even if you have to pay for it), your mindset will finally benefit from the efforts you're putting in.

brideboy · 2017-02-27T17:46:16+00:00

You arent depressed. Youre just not mentally healthy. Try doing something that matters to you.

TheSmellOfOnions · 2017-02-27T16:49:55+00:00

Just stop caring what other people think. Go for what you want and speak to who you want.

underrdog · 2017-02-27T18:26:11+00:00

I smell porn addiction

stealthcreeper · 2017-02-27T21:05:09+00:00

meditate

lift

sleep

jojodo190 · 2017-02-27T22:45:22+00:00

You'd be surprised how big of a difference confidence makes. It takes some time to build confidence, but you should put yourself out there more to get more experience.

CaesarsSeizure · 2017-02-27T18:06:47+00:00

Have you heard of NoFap?

aurelius_shrugs · 2017-02-27T19:11:34+00:00

The truth of this world is there are a ton of people that will do better than you based solely on genetic jackpot and circumstance. You can work your balls off and there will always be someone better.

So what? You're a man. You overcome. The biggest defining quality of success is grit. You get knocked off the horse, you get back on the horse. Work smarter not harder.

Dio_Brando_Joestar · 2017-02-27T20:10:25+00:00

Ever tryou meditating man ?

DadOnDabs · 2017-02-28T03:42:05+00:00

Step 1) go outside and go for a walk. Walk and admire nature and think about life. Think about how at most you have 100 years on earth and you've already live 1/4 of them. Think about the time you have already wasted. Next think about how much of that time you have spent sad or not satisfied with yourself. Then I want you to admire the world around you. Think about how beautiful it is that all of this exists for one reason or another (or by random chance). Think about how lucky you are to be able to enjoy this world.

Step 2) go home and meditate. Meditate about what you really want in life. At the end of the day all you have is memories and the life you lived. For me money is but an object to buy food and pay for an apartment. Place real value on your experiences. Think about your goals and how you can achieve them. Write down every detail about who, what, where, and how you will achieve them. Think about why you want to achieve those goals.

Step 3) act on them. Get a daily planner and schedule every day from start to finish. Do this for the whole week and start working on your goals. The more progress you make the better you will feel. Take a monk mode from women to work on yourself. Don't focus on what you don't have but what you already have and what you yourself can achieve. Look at your gym self. How far have you come since you started? Be proud of that. If you put in 2 hours of work on your skills everyday like you do the gym you'd be unstoppable.

Step 4) as much as you want to believe you can, you can't do it alone. By this I don't mean rely on other as that will make you more depressed but reach out to others. Have friends you can talk to and hang out with. Being an antisocial kills you. And if you're ever at a really low point and need to talk to someone who's been there feel free to PM me. I've been through it and still go there sometimes. It's all about willing yourself out.

prodigy2throw · 2017-02-28T04:22:39+00:00

You need to clear your mind man. Force yourself to meditate and focus on school and gym. 20 is still young. Only a few guys actually enjoy their early years.

bf1bro · 2017-02-28T07:11:02+00:00

Don't blow it, keep it simple, count yo money.

Seriously though. Your a 20yo virgin who can't get laid so now life is worthless? Dude it's going to be fine. Your going through a very testing period in your life and it's normal to compare yourself to others like a madman.

No matter what keep lifting, eating well, studying your thing, basically ensure you look after your body because its all you got.

The majority of these people you compare yourself to wouldn't care if you died tomorrow so go and buy a fucking kebab and enjoy it.

Shaman6624 · 2017-02-28T15:49:43+00:00

You're a man so you're enough for those girls you just dont belief it yet that's why you don't get results.

And btw you have to feel better about yourself cause your doing the right thing to building your future man. Keep on studying bro!

meanjelly · 2017-02-28T11:02:30+00:00

Being serious, eat low carb for a month or two. I have food intolerances that have depression as a symptom. You could be the same.

If not, what do you have to lose other than a little insulin insensitively.

Title	Keep getting depressed. Cant focus. Help Me
Author	canlrn96
Upvotes	22
Comments	39
Date	February 27, 2017 2:46 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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