Keeping Frame under Stress.

YMU15 · 2017-03-07T13:29:18+00:00

Remember that your reaction is based upon what you've perceive to be "stress". Say, home from long day at work, relative dies, tire pops, Murphy's law in one day. Wife makes some ridiculous demands of how Laura got a pearl necklace and she didn't.

It is critical that YOU take notice of your reaction. Do you have thoughts of anger, regret, or grief? When you realize the emotions are there, you have achieved catharsis. From then on, you're capable of choosing your reaction under stressful situations, and this takes practice. Meditation will help a lot.

Soberskipper · 2017-03-07T14:03:05+00:00

Your stressed because of an up coming examination, it because you have a young and narrow mind...turn on the Al Jazeera news channel watch all them little kids in Syria fitting, literally shitting themselves, can't communicate and are spazzing out due to mental illness because they are been bombarded every day with bombs, bullets and gasses. All of a sudden your stress levels will drop. Perspective.

ReddJive · 2017-03-07T15:42:42+00:00

You can control yourself. You just aren't.

You cannot control the phsycail reaction to stress or emotional response. ie shaking, flush skin, what have you.

BUT you can control how you respond. If by breaking frame you mean you are snapping at people, you get angry, or short with them...these are you deciding that it's easy to break frame then it is to actually push aside the emotional context you are experiencing.

You can control this. It takes time and practice. You just need to do it and stop with the excuses.

I am also going to point out that this means your frame was weak to nonexistent in the first place if you easily step outside it. Yes step outside. You are making the decision here.

king_kay_ · 2017-03-07T15:44:58+00:00

People here advocate meditation for a reason.

Practice stoicism. Put yourself and get used to tough situations. It makes you resilient. - Or 'anti-fragile' as Nassim Taleb puts it.

IIlllIllIIIllIl · 2017-03-07T17:10:30+00:00

Release testosterone. Solve problems.

Cesare_MA · 2017-03-07T21:37:32+00:00

One of the quick fixes I've employed in your specific situation is to study in a public area so I don't have the option to break shit, kick shit, or yell. Physics is a bitch.

moichidan · 2017-03-07T17:57:05+00:00

Combat sports man. BJJ, MMA, I don't care. Find a gym and start training. Nothing is better training than having your ass whooped for 2 hours, 4 nights a week. You'll realize your cute little work thing pales in comparison to a 250lb guy who knows how to choke you and break your arms.

veryrealman · 2017-03-07T16:07:25+00:00

Personally, I find consoling myself helps alot. Specifically, just pretend like I'm another person and tell myself thoughts that reassure. "You can handle this." "It's not your first rodeo." "It will pass." "You're awesome." Even imagine hugging yourself. In short, you can counteract stress and other negative emotions with thinking positive thoughts and visualize happy situations.

Title	Keeping Frame under Stress.
Author	futahchad
Upvotes	18
Comments	40
Date	March 7, 2017 1:04 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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