LTR HELP!

FixYourselfFirst · 2019-03-14T16:25:28+00:00

You don't want TRP help. We don't have any good advice for fixing your GFs depression.

-Norwayy · 2019-03-14T16:26:15+00:00

I’ll break it to you right now...your girlfriend is either depressed or thinking about getting back together with her exes. She wouldn’t have brought it up to you if those dreams were no big deal.

The reason I could genuinely believe she’s depressed is because melatonin has made my mind go crazy in a million different ways before. Positive and negative

ChesterRickman · 2019-03-14T19:21:53+00:00

You ahouldn’t have let her move in with you, that’s the problem man. You jumped the gun.

huggyblossom · 2019-03-14T16:22:50+00:00

I may be like a black humor, BUT '' some bad dreams about ... one of her ex boyfriends.'' into " she wanted after she had these dreams was to be on her own " with '' she can’t support herself financially fully right now. ''

Get ready to game other women as soon as possible. And DO NOT be a provider. She is staying atm with you only to get the finance part until she can hop back happily to her ex boyfriend.

BusterVadge · 2019-03-14T17:59:21+00:00

I don’t initiate contact with her anymore at all via text or phone calls. I think she needs to miss me in order to appreciate me more...

Good idea, but make damn sure that you drastically increase the level of communication you DO have. Cutting out inane drivel can help you, but you need to make sure that when you do communicate, you're stirring emotions in her.

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She stated that what she wanted after she had these dreams was to be on her own but she can’t support herself financially fully right now.

Next dude. NEXT. Have some self respect. She's done, and you need to do what's best for you, which means breaking up your household and moving on.

InformalCriticism · 2019-03-14T17:13:06+00:00

Some relationships just run their course. Plan an exit strategy. If you're renting on a lease, just tell her (up to you how far in advance) that you're not renewing the lease and break up with her.

If you really want to lift all that dead weight the rest of your life, it's up to you.

TRP8myfeels · 2019-03-14T18:12:22+00:00

So find a new roommate for her and move out.

You need to not rush into a move in. School of life has answers to why the attraction dropped.

Tell her let's just be friends and split right now. Get a futon and sleep in the living room. Game other women, move the fuck on.

HurricaneHugues · 2019-03-14T17:27:43+00:00

Get the fuck outta here with that weak shit my guy

Pete_Worst · 2019-03-14T17:22:22+00:00

On the texting front, I live with my gf and we literally only text each other if we’re going to be late or to ask if the other wants food. There’s no reason to text all day if you live together.

Start going out with friends more and get hobbies that don’t include her.

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-03-14T17:55:05+00:00

Melatonin sometimes gives you crazy dreams. It doesn’t mean anything that she had a dream about anyone. I’ve had dreams about my exes before and it meant nothing to me.

yumyumgivemesome · 2019-03-14T19:59:06+00:00

Continue focusing on improving yourself and enjoying your own life. To the extent some of her problems are related to how she views you, these simple things will remind her why she was attracted to you in the first place.

Glowv2 · 2019-03-14T20:50:35+00:00

It's not your job to fix her. That being said, the way you write this post , sounds to me like you've been a sappy boyfriend. And the dreams she's been having , seems like a good excuse to get the hell out of the relationship, because she realise that she ain't no lesbo, and being with you , almost feels like rubbing clits.

And trust me when i say this, This answer is going to be one of the nicest you are going to receive on this forum, when you post here in utter ignorance to the redpill.

ramfex21 · 2019-03-14T21:56:55+00:00

Tell her to fix her problems because your sick of it. If she wants to be alone.. let her be ‘alone’ ..whatever that means. (Fucking other dudes I assume)

lokilis · 2019-03-14T22:02:08+00:00

Give her space / demote to plate (your choice), but don't give her any money.

LondonChad1999 · 2019-03-15T11:23:46+00:00

Depressed girls are the ones who end up hocking new dick as a form of exictment. OP did u even vet ur girl I bet she a hoe

Metalgear222 · 2019-03-15T13:21:29+00:00

My LTR is being distant, help

Can’t salvage via more attention. Pull away, gym more and go out with other friends more than her and see if she comes around. If she doesn’t after 2 weeks, next her.

mrdeeds1972 · 2019-03-14T16:48:32+00:00

Keep doing what your doing, give her support and space. Also focus on your own interests and your needs. If she's not giving you what you need, look elsewhere for it.

Title	LTR HELP!
Author	SoullessForever
Upvotes	7
Comments	36
Date	March 14, 2019 4:12 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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