LTR throws a tantrum

dbz0x · 2018-07-12T00:05:30+00:00

Comon bro she straight up told you to get a job and that you’re a worthless piece of shit. It’s like when someone’s drunk and they speak the truth about how they really feel about you. In this case she let it all out because of pure adrenaline rush from her little tantrum- same shit. In essence, that’s what she thinks of your ENTIRE frame as a man.. how is that not enough to hard next?

heyuguyzbrekfazt · 2018-07-11T22:11:42+00:00

Definitely scrap the celebration. Do not do it in a mean or hateful way, it will only give her ammunition. Simply tell her after her tantrum, that you need some time to think about everything due to the way she handled herself poorly. Short and sweet, no big explanations. This is indeed punishment for her actions, but the last thing you want to do is admit that.

In terms of how to proceed with the relationship, that ones up to you. If you're already thinking about trashing the relationship, then this probably isn't the one bro.

The__Tren__Train · 2018-07-11T21:25:15+00:00

she doesn't respect you.

Peter_B_Long · 2018-07-11T23:59:56+00:00

Did you start the relationship before or after TRP?

It doesn't sound like she supplements your life. If you aren't enjoying the relationship, then don't be in it. Believe me. I was in an LTR for 5 years. I found TRP after the 4th year and it took me a whole year to finally break things off. I read posts about guys saying that they had girls who would do anything and everything for them and that is what I wanted.

For a whole year I practiced game + improving myself (SMV). I experienced a long range of types of girls who I read about on TRP. I spun plates. I went on a psycho Tinder date. For some of them, I was their plate. And some of them wanted commitment and exclusivity from me, but instead of working hard for it, they just branch swung to a different guy who they could try to commit with.

I've experienced a lot in the past year with the whole dating scene, but the one thing I had yet to experience was finding that one girl who would do anything and everything for me. I started to question other people's stories and relationships. Thinking it was probably fake or exaggerating. This girl finally comes along. She's a friend of a friend. We had been building tension for a few months but I never escalated for her because we actually got along as "friends" and because I was talking to her best friend.

Anyways, She comes over one day (as friends) and long story short, things escalated and we are about to have sex but I didn't have any non-latex condoms (She's allergic). She gives me head and we call it a day. Fast forward to now and this chick has become one of the girls who I've been reading about on TRP this whole time. Just, head over heels for me. Brings me lunch, pays for dates, gives random blowjobs, and pretty much does anything I want her to do. It's still surreal sometimes and at first I was skeptical if she was just messing with me or not, but by now it's obvious it's genuine. She's finally someone who I consider LTR material.

And the point of my boasting is that you can find a girl(s) like this too. There's no reason why you should be unhappy in a relationship. No kids? No marriage? Walk away. I was nervous about breaking up with my LTR of 5 years but now I wonder why I didn't end things sooner and even consider what my life would've been like if I knew about TRP and didn't even start a relationship with her in the first place.

wkndatbernardus · 2018-07-12T00:52:04+00:00

Issue #1: You live with your gf (sounds like in her house!)

Issue #2: She stone cold disrespects you on the eve of your anniversary because the festival is on a different day than you both thought.

Issue #3: You actually put up with a grown woman's tantrums.

This relationship sounds beyond repair. Time to next her no respect having ass.

TimPartendale · 2018-07-11T21:45:37+00:00

Mate it’s only been a year and you have to deal with this shit? If I were in your shoes I would skip celebrating the anniversary all together. I wouldn’t necessarily tell you to leave the relationship but you should sit down by yourself and question if it’s worth it.

BTW congratulations on your passive income. I’m trying to reach a stage like that in my life. For now it’s a grind. But it seems silly to criticize you for this.

Memeandmesomemore · 2018-07-12T07:28:21+00:00

I suppose if you have a passive income then you're pretty much free (from the 9-5 grind everyone else is in at least), and she probably doesn't like that because it means she can't control you.

If she got you to "be normal" like everyone else, then she'd find it easier to manipulate you.

GayLubeOil · 2018-07-12T07:47:17+00:00

My advice is to buy yourself an Egyptian Head Dress and a staff of Ra because your Cleopatra Queen of Denile

[deleted] · 2018-07-12T00:53:55+00:00

Hard next. This relationship has no future because she’ll never respect you if you stay with her after this.

VillagersUnite · 2018-07-11T22:12:08+00:00

Oh easy answer. Tell her to kick rocks. No time for that selfish bullshit. She already disrespected you heavily. No need for further engagement. She can lash out on her own.

ChadFromColumbus · 2018-07-11T23:09:33+00:00

As a last resort she told me I'll be sleeping on the couch tonight, so I quietly started packing my things to leave her appartment instead. Then she broke down, started crying and apologizing for saying all these things in order to hurt me and trying to drag me in to an argument as a whole.

So, did you still leave?

zboo1h · 2018-07-11T22:34:19+00:00

For whatever reason she doesn't respect you and isn't afraid of losing you. I don't think LTR's are sustainable in 2018 or worth it at all, but if you want to "keep" this girl for some reason you've got to give her some space, and go give some more grateful women your time.

RedLegendx · 2018-07-11T21:46:34+00:00

I think it’s that time for a soft next.

floresw4 · 2018-07-11T21:30:05+00:00

Tell her that her eye brows look weird then go no contact permanently. Eye brow comments put the hamster in overdrive for girls

[deleted] · 2018-07-12T00:46:29+00:00

if your question involves the word "should" then you're doing this wrong

Dulow1220 · 2018-07-12T01:47:14+00:00

In my opinion, this is beyond a shit / fitness test. Skip the anniversary, soft next and dread, and do not tolerate that manipulative behavior again. Keep in mind what she said about you when she blew her top.

stankmo · 2018-07-12T11:17:49+00:00

Finish packing and leave. That was who and what she is. What she has planned for you. Doormat training.

Jampak_5000 · 2018-07-12T15:08:33+00:00

personally after that fucking PERSONAL ATTACK - I would cut all ties with immediate effect without any hesitation or an ounce of guilt. She's thinks your a piece of shit really. That's what she really thinks, and you know it now. The answer is obvious, you already know what has to be done. She did you a favour really, now you can get someone better than her. Enjoy

Ruby_Red_Pill_Maker · 2018-07-12T19:16:45+00:00

You better not take her out on this anniversary dinner! If you do, she will think that she can have a temper tantrum again any time she wants.

She will most def pick another fight after the fact either way. You need to be ready for that fight, ready to walk out without packing your shit. Like a bug-out-bag needs to be ready for you when she does start to get snotty over not having that anniversary dinner or whatnot.

Getting your stuff after the fact is a simple matter. Allowing a fight is a much more complicated matter.

tdlr; get a bugout bag and don't do anything for her for the annv.

Title	LTR throws a tantrum
Author	Rav_the_slav
Upvotes	29
Comments	36
Date	July 11, 2018 9:22 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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