Never fall in love?

looseonthemoose1321 · 2018-09-11T04:12:07+00:00

You're wrong.

Your thinking is a bit skewed with the "all women are evil deep inside and will fuck you over", because honestly, that isn't true.

Refer to sidebar for more clarification on this, but yes, you are allowed to "fall in love" to say (more like, experience the feeling of loving and being loved).

However, it's a different kind of love than what you're normally used to.

A woman can never love you in the way you desire to be loved, that being the unconditional type-love that you were given by your mother (hopefully).

So what do you do? Change your expectation of the type of love you expect to receive from a woman.

Most LTRs are shitty because the woman cannot love the man in the unconditional way he desires to be loved and is capable of loving her. But, when you switch the thinking, the woman and the man can both experience love in the relationship.

Also, you should be willing to walk away from any woman because you know your value and the awesomeness you bring, and if she doesn't show appreciation for that, there's a woman out there who will. That's why you should always be willing to walk away.

TheRedPillMonkey · 2018-09-11T04:00:53+00:00

You need to recalibrate. TRP is a series of truth and philosophy that provide you the tools to be your own man.

What you should take away is this: -Live your life for you and not for any women.

-understand a woman's motivations are for her own betterment. Yours should be for your own as well. If she can do better than you she will. You should think the same way.

-some women aren't ltr material but are great plates. Don't confuse the two

-shes never yours, its only your turn. The lucky ones just get a really long and fruitful turn.

You'll fall in love. You'll be heart broken. You'll fuck up. Welcome to the real world, kid. TRP just helps you avoid some stupid mistakes, make the best out of what you have, and realize what qualities really matter and don't matter for a plate, ltr, and beyond. Do with that knowledge what you must, just make sure you take some damn responsibility for yourself.

Plate, ltr, marry, fuck models your entire life, whatever makes you happy. Just make sure whatever you decide your well equipped for and you really understand the truth of her, and the situation you're getting in to.

superdoofus69 · 2018-09-11T03:42:52+00:00

With the term "AWALT". Does this mean that all women are the same and are evil deep inside and will fuck you over at the end?

Nope

Is any girl special

Special to who?

What I take from r/TheRedPill is to never fall in love because it's not worth it. Please correct me if I'm wrong.

I was talking to a mechanic the other day and he told me about all these shortcomings cars have, what I took from that conversation is that I should never buy a car because it's not worth it. Please correct me if I'm wrong

BloodSurgery · 2018-09-11T04:15:04+00:00

/r/MGTOW Is that way sir.

AWALT means that every women can cheat, not that everyone will. There are lots of married RP users here, and even an entire subreddit.

IVIaskerade · 2018-09-11T10:47:35+00:00

evil deep inside

No, not evil. Is a lion that kills to eat evil? Is a hurricane that razes your house evil?

Women will do what's best for them, just like how you're trying to do the same. It's not evil, it's just how we are.

Still thinking in terms of "good" and "evil" shows that you haven't learned nearly enough. That's some incel shit and comes from the inability to accept that other people aren't there just to make your life easy.

you should never be attached to any girl

No, that's stupid. The reason you shouldn't get attached is because you're still living with the sunk cost fallacy firmly ingrained in your mind.

ALWAYS be willing to walk away so you don't ever get fucked over?

Yes.

moreinhoe · 2018-09-11T04:25:59+00:00

Sexual strategy is amoral, so, no women are not evil deep inside. They will fuck you over though, and that's okay, just like how one day as a Chad not committing might be construed as you fucking them over, literally.

A girl is not inherently special. She can have a propensity to be special and it is up to you and how you conduct yourself that can mould her into the best version of herself AKA a unicorn.

Ya never be attached. Ideally, you should position the dynamic in a way that it is clear that you are ready to walk out at any time, which is why so many in the manosphere do not recommend getting married.

You can still do all the above and be in love. Just don't be gullible about your feelings. Feel all you want but be cognisant of the trp principles and you can come out intact if it goes to shit. And if you feel too much, try not to let it show (follow the 2/3 rule).

In any event, if you feel so strongly about a woman, it probably means you have yet to internalise the trp principles. I think the ideal feeling is adoration, amazement of how good she is in comparison to the other hoes, but knowing that she has demon potential within her, and that you would be okay if it came out and you left.

Whisper · 2018-09-11T08:23:05+00:00

With the term "AWALT". Does this mean that all women are the same and are evil deep inside and will fuck you over at the end?

Female nature is present in every woman. Which parts of it she expresses depend upon her history, and upon how you interact with her.

I don't know what "evil" is, but I do know that the term is meaningless if it applies to no one... or to everyone. Women are as women are. If you cannot deal with that, it's your fault.

Is any girl special if they are all the same?

The answer to this is to unask the question.

Does this also mean that you should never be attached to any girl and ALWAYS be willing to walk away so you don't ever get fucked over?

How can I help you if you don't read my goddamn articles?

MattyAnon · 2018-09-11T09:55:42+00:00

With the term "AWALT". Does this mean that all women are the same and are evil deep inside and will fuck you over at the end?

AWALT yes

Evil no.

They're just female. Hypergamous, uncaring, will usually fuck you over at the end of a relationship, but not evil.

Does this also mean that you should never be attached to any girl and ALWAYS be willing to walk away so you don't ever get fucked over?

Absolutely yes. Or at least not THAT attached. Wives of 50 years get divorced and destroy their husbands. Never ever expect loyalty, especially when it ends. And it will.

never fall in love because it's not worth it.

The point is to understand female "love": a feeling of need and attachment that confers obligation on you while involving little sacrifice or care from her, and is temporary. Live your life accordingly.

But not evil, it's just how they are.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2018-09-11T03:39:40+00:00

Love is made up by wallmart to sell cards on valentines day.

Dont be soyboy now. You are in big boys club.

ricoue · 2018-09-11T04:18:56+00:00

The way I see it is that the basic of TRP is to think with your brain and not with your heart. I do not know what you mean by "falling in love", but if you're talking about that rush of butterflies and other associated warm feelings that would make you wanna orbit a girl and devote your life to her, then no. Do not fall in love.

What TRP advocates is putting yourself before others, even before the woman you love. So, have self respect, get your life together if it isn't already, and put your job/life/hobbies before a woman.

AWALT simply means that all women have similar emotional mechanisms that revolve around feeling of security, intimacy and perceived strength, and they gravitate towards (good looking)men who provide them. They all have similiar sexual strategies, where they would like to mate with the best man possible, but since the best man won't commit they will have to settle for someone below him. Now depending on the kind of culture you live in this will either result in a woman marrying who she can get or marrying a beta after fucking Chads throughout her 20s

What I take from r/TheRedPill is to never fall in love because it's not worth it. Please correct me if I'm wrong.

Fine by me. If falling in love means you lose sight of what is normal and what isn't you shouldn't fall in love. If, however, you can love calmly and rationally then by all means go ahead, do fall in love.

SmamelessMe · 2018-09-11T05:14:59+00:00

With the term "AWALT". Does this mean that all women are the same and are evil deep inside and will fuck you over at the end?

AWALT means all women, just as men, are subject to biological drives hammered into survivors of the evolution. All women are hypergamous. All women seek best genetic material and a provider. And a few other things, as described in sidebar.

AWALT is a reminder that this has always been the nature of women. This is not something new. What changed is our society. You as a man are a problem solver. Solve the new society for x.

Substitute x for what you want. Sex? Family? Peace?

Never fall in love because it's not worth it.

Love is a label we've assigned to a biological drive to arrange reproduction with (or seduce, if you prefer this emotionally loaded term), a partner we have chosen for reproduction. Love fades. Fast. I don't think that's what you're asking about.

So, to answer the question you didn't ask.

Should I avoid women, and long term relationships with them, because they have the ability to hurt me? Will every woman hurt me?

I don't know? Should you? Will life without children fulfill you? Are you willing to risk being hurt to win a family? What do you want to do?

Don't ask internet strangers what you should do. You are a man. You are responsible to determine what you want (I know, it's hard!), then determine which of the things you want are worth the effort (I know, it's unclear!), and then pursue the things you want, and are willing to work for (Did I say I know it is hard?).

Nergaal · 2018-09-11T09:25:34+00:00

AWALT means all women CAN be AWALT, not that they will be AWALT.

Love whoever you want, but don't expect the love to be reciprocated, or at least not in the way you probably desire. She will tell you that she loves you, and she will probably even mean it; but it will not mean the same think it means for you.

TheTrenTrannyTrain · 2018-09-11T09:33:35+00:00

Why is this tagged NSFW?

MakeMenGreatAgain44 · 2018-09-11T09:52:55+00:00

AWALT doesn't mean all women are evil but rather that they all have the same nature. The nasty behaviour as perceived by us is just their natural Hypergamy at play. They t likely behave as sluts, cheat, monkey branch, hamster...etc

And yes, falling in love is not recommended in TRP because it's oneitis territory. You can like a girl to the point of commuting to her but this is after all a rational decision on your part with the caveat that you could break it off at any moment if your personal dignity is on the line. Or just if she doesn't behave the way you want her to or fulfil her function as a woman.

deville05 · 2018-09-11T10:54:07+00:00

Don't fall in love, learn to love. Falling hurts and you don't fall on purpose. Learning is intentional and rational. You do it to grow as a human being. Pain and happiness is involved in both paths. But the intensity pain and happiness varies greatly between the two paths

wobbleelbbow · 2018-09-11T13:56:17+00:00

Men will never experience love from a woman like men expect to. Man's love is different from a woman's love. Again, one of the basic ideas of RP is to understand that men and women are different and that you will never get the love that you desire. Woman's love is more opportunistic, more conditional, more "emotional" and more "flaky". That's how the world is.

Most men who aren't RP aware think that they are able to get what they want from a woman simply because they are willing to "give it" to a woman themselves. That's why most men go through anger phase once they discover RP since their all worldview is shattered into pieces.

How come women can not love me as I want to be loved? It's not faaaaair!!!!

And so they either reject RP and continue with their blue pill ideals, or they swallow it, go through a phase, accept the world as it is and no longer hold any illusions of women being same as men.

OP, you need to do much more reading since you ask basic questions. AWALT has been explained millions of times.

hb8only · 2018-09-11T13:43:48+00:00

what is love? imagine her getting fat or deformed face in accident - still in love faggot? there is NO love.. just attraction.. so modify your approach...

rassiamelo · 2018-09-11T03:59:44+00:00

Essentially, yeah. But I'm sure you can see that this doesn't make practical sense IRL. Resigning yourself to a life without love is a bit overdramatic. And deciding all women are evil is clearly overlooking good feminine qualities. Be a little hopeful . Someone once said to me "Go ahead and look stupid. Who are you trying to impress? Who do you think is keeping track of what you do?" No one.

Title	Never fall in love?
Author	Savaaage
Upvotes	9
Comments	49
Date	September 11, 2018 3:23 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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