Obsessed with social status. Need help.

_9teen · 2021-03-04T03:56:51+00:00

Talk to everybody including people that are "not cool", nerds & teachers, look better by lifting and upgrading your wardrobe (bonus: girls will talk about you), and most importantly:

BE FUN

Nobody (including cool dudes) wants to hang out with a guy who has no interests or can talk about nothing. Sports & whatever that's mainstream is enough for highschool level.

Having lots of friends doesn't make you cool. It's cool dudes that get a lot of people who wants to be their friends.

Then you'll make it to "the top" and realize that all that validation doesn't make you happy.

lujanthedon · 2021-03-04T05:18:31+00:00

Just do sports or clubs or something that involves you meeting lots of people and talk everyone up. I know I’m going to sound like an old guy but, you should really just focus on bettering yourself and success. FUCK WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK.

DerpJungler · 2021-03-04T08:58:26+00:00

First, work on building your personality based on what the fuck YOU actually like. Build your identity and be proud of it.

Then try to be relaxed, social, fun to be around. Don't get offended by stupid shit. Apply banter and playful convos. Show up at events, parties etc.

That's pretty much it for high school lol

CoachOcelot · 2021-03-04T08:09:38+00:00

Stop giving a fuck about useless concepts.

Social status at school doesn't mean much anyway, and can change at the drop of a hat. When you all finish school, it gets forgotten about and you will never see the vast majority of those people ever again in your life.

Do what you think is cool. Gain knowledge, gain money, stay healthy, set yourself up for the future as best you can.

RomanH101 · 2021-03-04T07:34:28+00:00

Lift weights, do a sport or martial art like MMA/BJJ/Wrestling and get a part time job if you can. Showcase the first two hobbies on social media to show how on your purpose you are. Then follow more people from your high school & talk to the high status guys in real life like they’re your brothers (but remember they are not) and make yourself known. Talk to girls and get comfortable doing so in a calm, friendly but masculine and non-goofy way.

Overall, remember that high school is a tiny and mostly irrelevant stage of your life where you’re literally still just a boy who’s nowhere near the full height of your potential. It gets better AFTER high school of 90% of guys, focus on getting the grades and learning a high income skill (i.e. coding) on the side, getting a job & saving money and going to the gym/training a martial art. It’ll pay off in your early 20s to have a head start. In the real world, high school status doesn’t mean shit.

ofkarma · 2021-03-04T07:46:47+00:00

Be a cheerleader

That’s right, best thing I ever did

Just do stunting tho, the acrobatics is gay

Yolemmegetsomehelp · 2021-03-04T11:06:18+00:00

Try to think about other things besides social status. Do you think having a high social status will get you women? It probably will, but focusing directly on social status and women will most likely negatively affect your life. I'd rather focus at being great at something, probably something that makes a decent wage. Money can increase your social status.

jn14j · 2021-03-04T13:01:21+00:00

Join a club or get a part-time retail job, something to just get desensitized to talking to strangers. Also, read. How to Win Friends and Influence People is a good start. Social Skills are just that, a skill. Skills can get rusty with no use.

Don_Draper27 · 2021-03-05T14:36:22+00:00

First of all, stop being needy. Stop "needing" anything. All you "need" is water, sleep, and lifting.

If you care that much about status then join the football team. Top of the food chain at any HS.

Then in college, join a fraternity.

fourwindsgold · 2021-03-04T14:27:40+00:00

Watch RSD they have a lot of stuff like seeing things from a different paradigm eg low status vs high status

Snowboard18 · 2021-03-04T20:29:20+00:00

Do you think all the high status dudes at your school are walking around constantly thinking about not being high status enough ??

No.

So, stop worrying about it so much and just be cool and talk to the high status guys/girls at your school and don’t let the aura of “insecure about my social status” show through

Title	Obsessed with social status. Need help.
Author	lunidoesitright
Upvotes	21
Comments	17
Date	March 4, 2021 3:30 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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