Met a girl (cheerleader) two months ago. She was being brought to my fraternity house by my roommates girlfriend, and she would stop in to see me. We hung out, but since I was seeing two other girls, I didn't escalate much until about a month ago.

Two weeks ago, she confesses that a guy she has been confiding in for the past 6 months (male cheerleader) sat her down and told her he had feelings for her, sending her into a whirlwind of confusion. According to her, he began feeling jealous when she started talking to him about me, as I got more action in less than a month than he did in 6 months of constant interaction.

She asks how to handle him, and I tell her I don't give a fuck, we're not exclusive. I begin to realize she's spending a lot of time with him, staying up late, etc., but she insists she hasn't slept with anyone since spring. I believe this, because two of my brothers (who are much more experienced in picking up women) dated her for a few weeks at a time and then were left without so much as an OPHJ. I know this because they told me about her, and according to them she's "fucking crazy".

However, seeing as she's young, with a low count (3), looking for an LTR, I figured I could spin this into a relationship by shitting all over my opposition.

Cue to 3 nights ago. She invites me over to her dorm for a cheer party, and he's there, on a 3 person couch, with her in the middle, and motions for me to sit down on the other side.

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So we're chilling, there's about 10-15 people there, I know most of the female cheerleaders so I'm enjoying myself, while the AFC on the other side of the couch is keeping it one on one with this cute little unicorn in the middle.

Over the course of the next hour, she asks him to perform several tasks, like plugging in her phone all the way in another room, getting her water, getting her food, moving her laptop, etc. He complies. Every. Fucking. Time. Like he was some sort of dog.

She asked me once, to which I responded by putting my arm around her and saying, "Babe, you got two legs, use em!"

She immediately huffed and turned to the AFC and of course he immediately jumped for her.

After an hour of this, as people began to leave, I left her, alone, with him. I felt like I had established myself, held frame, and left on a good note.

The next day, she asks to get lunch with me, then we go back to my dorm where she proceeds to give me a pretty decent BJ. According to her, it was her first since spring.

She leaves, I go party. Next day, she sits me down and tells me that even though she wants to be with me (high paying engineering job, top fraternity on campus, makes her feel good about sleeping with me) her "heart" is with this AFC.

"Babe, nothing's gonna change. We haven't been exclusive. You've been great, but this <AFC's name> bullshit has given you nothing but trouble. My doors always open if you want to stop by." And I walked the fuck away.

How did I, an athletic, young (21), relatively fit (Squat 3x5x225, bench 3x5x185, weight: 170, height: 6'), highly paid software engineer, in the top fraternity on campus, vice president of the 2d biggest student organization on campus, with clearly demonstrated high SMV, lose this?

After spending the better part of this year playing the field, picking up girls and enjoying life, I thought I had women figured out. I played this almost perfectly (IMO), she even told me she was more comfortable in bed with me, she could never get a rise out of me (while the AFC would get annoyed hearing about me constantly), she told me I was, "perfect" and her entire family/cheer squad wanted her to get with me. But her "heart" was with the AFC.

What the actual fuck?