Potential LTR - but possible red flags?

MytruthNotyour · 2017-09-11T13:03:47+00:00

You already know the awnser.
What is hindering you in believing yourself? Let me make this clear. You know you
didnt like that. You perceived it as a red flag (correctly). So why do you hesitate to
do what you feel like doing? Cut loses and move on. Or plate her.
She gave you a red flag which is red enough to take her out of LTR-territory. Why think twice about it?

AwakenedSovereign · 2017-09-11T13:27:30+00:00

Trust your gut. All liars fuck up sooner or later - even the really good ones. I once caught a plate explaining how she'd had a threesome after she & I started hooking up.. even though she swore up and down she wasn't seeing anyone else at the time.

Knowing what I know now, just keep your mouth shut. Plate her. The timeframe for vetting is more like 6-8 months anyways. If she is 99% on point throughout that time, you have the option of LTRing. The plate is already broken so it's up to you what you feel like doing. Worry less about things ending badly and more about keeping yourself strong/healthy/focused on your priorities.

That said, once a cheater always a cheater. Any other slutty indicators? Drinking? Partying? Drugs? Group sex? Camgirls, sugar babies.. etc.. alot more of them dabble in pay for play than people realize and that's instant turboslut status

raisins3142 · 2017-09-11T14:02:05+00:00

Do not LTR this girl. She will do the same shit to you one day. Bet on it. When someone tells you or shows you whom they are you should believe them.

TheDreadnought1 · 2017-09-11T14:27:56+00:00

PLATE PLATE PLATE, only. Do not fall into oneitis, go fuck some other women to clear your mind, and go do your thing.

BusterVadge · 2017-09-11T15:21:35+00:00

Most women would have just lied about this because it would never come up. She's actually more honest than the average woman, but AWALT.

I read further then saw that your gut is nagging at you that you can't trust her. Trust your gut dude... Always trust your gut.

muddynips · 2017-09-11T16:47:09+00:00

Maybe I'm getting soft in my old age, but a girl trying to make plans to go to an exciting foreign country while in a sexually strained LDR under the presumption of boning the dude down isn't surprising. What does anybody expect to happen, it's a tale as old as time. Women sell their sexuality, and men buy it.

All this tells you is that the girl you're taking your turn with is like any other. If she goes on another "vacation" while you're dating she's replaceable. As long as you don't start negotiating sexuality while she's with you, you'll be fine. Just don't invest in her something you can't see walking out the door.

Weefilly · 2017-09-11T15:02:25+00:00

Continue to bang but immediately transition your thinking from feelings to reason. She's already ruined her LTR potential so accept that and develop no further feelings. Just continue to bang hot girl while you find others who may be LTR suited, if that's your goal.

jb_trp · 2017-09-11T16:00:41+00:00

So while she was in an LTR she met another man (whether she hooked up with him or not is irrelevant) and she bought tickets to fly to Australia to visit him? That's how a single girl acts, not a girl who should be in an LTR.

You know the answer: She's a plate at best, not LTR material.

Also, after reading the first line in your post, you should look up "the halo effect."

TRPAndNofapGotMeLaid · 2017-09-11T14:38:53+00:00

Hard next or plate her

ScottDurden · 2017-09-11T14:56:52+00:00

Plate or next.

Eating-mushrooms · 2017-09-11T15:03:53+00:00

She's gonna fuck him. Accept this. So either plate or drop depending on how you feel.

DadOnDabs · 2017-09-11T16:10:54+00:00

It's crazy how fast I've started spotting red flags with girls. If she brings up ex's on the first date (red flag), lists of piercings or tattoos (red flag). I can pretty much tell in the first date how far something will go with a girl.

CC_ee · 2017-09-11T16:52:15+00:00

She is no longer ltr material then...

TrenGod37 · 2017-09-11T16:00:10+00:00

Bro if you're posting this you already know. Yes what you're fearing is true.

Carbone · 2017-09-11T16:02:38+00:00

I don't understand ?

Was this in the past before you ?

or Is this like in the near future ?

nofilmynofucky · 2017-09-11T18:45:13+00:00

She hesitated to tell you because she is ashamed about her slutty behaviour as she knows it will lower her value in your eyes

$10 says there's more that went on than she's telling you.

Peter_B_Long · 2017-09-11T23:54:27+00:00

Nah that just seems to sketchy. If anything hold off for a few more months and see if you can seek out any more red flags. If her exLDR was completely beta then I think you can understand her hypergamous intentions, but still, I would not LTR this girl anytime soon.

SisyphosOnTop · 2017-09-12T11:25:37+00:00

It's treason then.

PantsonFire1234 · 2017-09-17T18:16:12+00:00

Girls that go for long distance relationships subconciously do this on purpose. They view it as an inconvenience to have a guy around preventing them from acting like they usually do. Compartmentalizing the relationship to a long distance meet and leave gives her lots of time to be 'herself' inbetween.

So that's already a red flag. Obviously she likes the freedom it gives her and freedom equals cheating on her part.

Reformed65 · 2017-09-11T18:20:42+00:00

You haven't even LTR'd her and you're already having doubts.

Title	Potential LTR - but possible red flags?
Author	Nattyvegan
Upvotes	18
Comments	34
Date	September 11, 2017 12:48 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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