Pregnant plate

NazoXIII · 2015-01-26T19:58:05+00:00

She would ask me not to use condoms, claiming they hurt her or that she was somehow allegic.

This is a red flag if I ever saw one, but wait! there's more...

I am almost certian it is mine, if she is in fact pregnant.

Said no expectant father ever, initially

She knew we had an open relationship, and I told her she was free to go after other cock, but I dont think she was interested.

Then you haven't quite swallowed the whole of TRP, YOU basically gave her a loaded gun, and for all you know, she used it, always keep that in mind.

She has put pictures on instagram suggesting shes in love with me, and has made comments about us getting married and living together.

And do any of those things interest you? Shes a Plate, I'm guessing not, so I suggest you start running fast.

We almost had our first argument via text (shes working in a foreign country right now)

What? Your plate tells you shes pregnant, and in a foreign country and your Initial thought was the kid is yours? ...

shes starting to make demands. telling me to "make my choice now" and to "choose wisely".

And there goes all of your power in the situation, shes pulling you hard into her frame.

These are my key take a-ways, I don't think this is a shit test, but for your sake I hope so. Not only is she, from what I read, showing off what I would deem red flags for someone that isn't your LTR (and even then, that's pushing it), shes gearing up to pull what little power you have over your relationship away from you.

I can't tell you how to live your life but, its not looking good.

You said you handled her with radio silence before, keep that up. Any loss of mindset is just her clawing at your frame control, do not let her do that. Continue as you are and don't give in to her trying to break your frame/

hamsterbator · 2015-01-26T23:17:51+00:00

She's in a different country. Maybe it's not yours, maybe she's not really pregnant but pulling for your commitment.

Let her know under no uncertain terms that you are not committing to her and that your relationship is over. She may fear being a mother at 18 and missing out on all of the partying in her 20s and get the abortion of her own will. Let her know that you are not ready to be a father and she is not ready to be a mother. That she will never be able to have an education, a career, become that strong independent women and will never be able to lock down a man who doesn't dismiss her as a single mother.

Alternatively, you can tell her you want to be with her and have a family with her but on your own terms, in a year or two when you both are ready financially. The timing is off but you want to be with her. Get the abortion and gtfo.

fnordsnord · 2015-01-26T21:21:25+00:00

You, sir, are almost certainly a victim of "oops, I'm pregnant."

First - paternity test. You may choose to marry, but, and here's the thing, you MARRY ON YOUR OWN TERMS, not what she dictates.

Make no commitments, proposals, or anything until the paternity test comes back.

Second. Don't marry her. Be an involved papa. Help raise and finance the child if it's yours. But this stinks of manipulation and deceit. If you marry, she will have her hooks in HALF of your money and resources.

DevilishRogue · 2015-01-26T21:49:00+00:00

Use whatever lies, tricks or scams you can think of to get her to abort. Say the timing is wrong now but you'll have kids later. Offer to propose and marry her if she will delay having children until a few years down the line. Promise her whatever she wants and then if you are lucky and she does it support her through it until you are 100% sure she's gone through with it and then run like fuck and never look back.

lemoncakesaregross · 2015-01-26T19:42:14+00:00

A girl having your unplanned child isn't a shittest lol. I think you're on the right track so far with wanting a paternity test All i can say is that if it does turn out to be your's don't hit the road and leave like a loser. Own up to your mistakes and be responsible. Be a father that the kid needs. There are enough single moms already

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secret_barber · 2015-01-26T20:27:45+00:00

Your intimate (plate or LTR) relationship is over. Never have sex with her again. If the kid is yours, be a good co-parent. If the kid isn't yours, ghost her.

Or, marry her. /s

edwardhwhite · 2015-01-26T20:38:09+00:00

Paternity test. First thing.

lemoncakesaregross · 2015-01-26T19:56:27+00:00

Just tell her not to contact you again unless its confirmed by a doctor

Workout_Ham · 2015-01-26T22:46:55+00:00

You can get a paternity test at 6 or 7 months pregnant. It's when they check to see if the baby has any diseases or disabilities. you only need one parent's consent in most states. If the doctor refuses to do one get another doctor.

SoundsLegitButWrong · 2015-01-27T00:17:13+00:00

Dont let her pressure you. This isnt a decision to make in a rush. The fact that she wants you to commit so fast is shady as fuck, along with her being in a foreign country.

You played it safe. I can see if you didnt use condom but you did and you didnt want this.

As everyone else said paternity test. It might piss her off, but you gotta be sure, and it sounds like to me there is a decent chance it might not be yours. Be sure. If it is go from there.

Title	Pregnant plate
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Upvotes	6
Comments	33
Date	January 26, 2015 7:20 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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