Pretend not to be available?

failingtheturingtest · 2018-09-20T19:03:14+00:00

If she is the only sheila you're rooting, AND you're seeing her twice a week, she is your girlfriend.

How about outing effort into pretending your banging other chicks, you instead go and out effort into banging other chicks. Seems weird, I know. But sometimes, the best way to pretend you have a life is to have a life.

And you don't tell her you have plans with another sheila. Abundance is demonstrated, not explained. Are women attracted to a bloke who says he can deadlift 500lbs or a bloke who LOOKS like he lifts 500lbs. They believe the results they can see.

FixYourselfFirst · 2018-09-20T18:18:44+00:00

Why? What's your end goal here?

EDIT: usually you 'show abundance' to get a girl interested in you. This chick is already banging you.

chachaChad · 2018-09-20T18:42:28+00:00

It's one thing to be busy when you are but she'll hop on a new cock when you start playing games.

boy_named_su · 2018-09-20T20:10:19+00:00

Get another fuck buddy
Find a mission and work on it

kendallb183 · 2018-09-20T23:00:46+00:00

Push pull man. Your asking how do you PUSH when your already PUSHING.

Shes pursuing you... you should be like 1/3 or 1/2 push pull. She asks to see you once or twice, then once you ask to see her.

She WILL branch swing to someone who gives her both sets of feels if you dont.

Get your push pull ratio set... then worry about more spiking of emotion with jealousy.

You dont want to add jealousy on top of her already always chasing you... she will likely just give up and move on to someone who isnt making her feel like a pure piece of meat who cant ve bothered to even hang with her.

oytrp · 2018-09-20T20:24:59+00:00

Make yourself actually busy with your mission and cultivating abundance.

Meet up and fuck when you want to fuck.

Peter_B_Long · 2018-09-20T20:56:33+00:00

I try to live as best of a genuine life as I can. By this, I mean you shouldn't be faking it just so that you can try to make her think that you're out with different girls.

Be honest with yourself. Look, if you don't feel like seeing her, then just tell her, "Not tomorrow" if she asks to come over. Why not just set up other dates that way you can actually tell her you're busy and you actually have a date set up.

Even if you have some excuse for not being able to pursue other chicks, you should still be living a busy life. I meal prep, go to the gym, work an 8 hour shift, meditate, journal, etc. I don't really get too much free time so when my LTR asks me to hang, I often say no or set up the date myself because I actually have shit that I'm doing.

redhawkes · 2018-09-20T19:54:04+00:00

Actually have something to do instead of acting busy.

Second, dread is played covertly. You don't mention another girl, she'll see thru your bluff.

From what you've wrote it seems good. Just never invest more than her. Keep things 2/3 and hold frame.

Title	Pretend not to be available?
Author	rosewoodguy
Upvotes	6
Comments	11
Date	September 20, 2018 6:07 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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