Question for guys who are into rough sex/dominance/sadism: do you do it because you like it, or just to please women?

linkschode · 2019-03-19T23:38:39+00:00

I was always a guy who preferred making love rather than going cave man.

Lost two plates I really enjoyed, I suspect due to my lack of assertiveness in the bedroom.

Current girlfriend (and probably the woman I’ll have children with, yes I’m at that point in my life), started dating her when I was well and truly into my RP journey. Had lots of time prior to think about all the ways I billy beta blocked my previous plates sexually. Decided to man up in the bedroom with her - ended up doing some psychedelics with her and she had a moment of self discovery regarding rape fantasies and extreme domination.

This was a turning point. Sex from this point on was primal, no holes barred (excuse the pun). For a long while it felt strange and wrong to be doing what I was doing. I wondered if one day what I was doing would be presented as evidence in front of a judge.

But you know what? I started to love it. I also realised that no woman I have ever been with sexually has enjoyed sex with me as much as she did when I was in caveman mode.

And now, most of our sex is this way. If we’re lazy and tired sometimes it’s lights off missionary, and we both love that too. But I make no mistake now, I am generally rough and dominant in the bedroom and it just feels so right and in line with the gender roles we feel in our bones.

Whisper · 2019-03-20T04:59:40+00:00

If you do what you like, you wind up with chicks who like what you like.

If you do what chicks like, you wind up with chicks who like what you do.

FereallyRed · 2019-03-19T22:47:59+00:00

Always do things for women, not yourself... it's the TRP way.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-03-20T01:42:11+00:00

Hate fucking is fun in moderation, when a woman has done something to deserve it. I don't think I feel enough repressed anger to do it on a regular basis.

Pretending to be mad when I'm not takes the fun out of it for me.

Well_hung_Yakuza · 2019-03-19T22:42:41+00:00

Leaning to the first but both, I guess. Most vanilla people on here don't get that pleasing a woman isn't beta but a way to turn her even more into you, thus a win-win. Cave man dominance is my default state when I'm in the zone, so I can't really do anything else lol.

FederalAnxiety · 2019-03-19T22:57:04+00:00

For me. I honestly wish more women were into it. Sadly the girls I've had the best rough sex with have all been batshit crazy.

vas_mhtro · 2019-03-19T22:46:53+00:00

Pleases me, a man has to be a man, especially in bed.

bluefingerblue · 2019-03-19T23:43:36+00:00

Women getting off turns me on. I like getting them off. They like rough sex and dominance. So thus I like rough sex and dominance.

Honestly I try to switch it up tho. I go back and forth from rough and fast to more emotional and slow.

jbpostv · 2019-03-19T23:53:56+00:00

I feel like I grew to like it from my pornography watching habits when I was a teen and it became my default sexual style. Sometimes I wish less rigorous love making sex was more pleasing and I wonder if maybe it could be if (1) I didn't condition myself to like something else and (2) if women liked it at all. Which I'm pretty sure they don't. I like it but even though I don't feel like doing it all the time I do it to please women.

BrodinsOats · 2019-03-20T05:46:24+00:00

I was always naturally dominant and took the lead in sex, but wasn’t necessarily rough. Then I explored being rough with girls and mainly just enjoyed it because they liked it.

But then one time i had a girl that wanted some rape play and boyyyy that was one of the fastest hardest nuts I’ve ever busted.

CanaryCherryJewel · 2019-03-19T22:45:48+00:00

I do it because I like to please women

Title	Question for guys who are into rough sex/dominance/sadism: do you do it because you like it, or just to please women?
Author	SilenceOnTheWire
Upvotes	8
Comments	26
Date	March 19, 2019 10:33 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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