Serious, is having gf/relationship a necessity for life?

dimmy666 · 2020-10-30T06:02:13+00:00

Also, at the end of the day, the type of connection you make with your boys/parents is quite different than what you would with a gf.

Yeah, I can attest. Connections with LTRs are actually more meaningless.

Why? Male friendships are forged in the heat of fire. Usually through common adversities. Once formed, the bonds of loyalty between men are a truly special thing.

Parents? If they raised you well/gave their best, you'll be grateful for the rest of your life. They'll always be important people for you, and vice versa. (People with shitty parents can simply disregard this paragraph. You have no idea.)

Now, a girlfriend? One of many girls you've fucked, one of many plates you've spun, except you decided to upgrade her to LTR because she behaves well and you enjoy the emotional connection. Nothing wrong with that. But it can't really compare to relationships with your shield brothers, or your close family.

When in a relationship, the constant emotionally-charged sex makes you amplify your perceptions of the relationship by a large degree. A small connection becomes a soul-bond. A caring partner becomes a saint. A relationship with some meaning becomes the most meaningful thing in life.

The fact that it's sold and pushed so hard by mainstream media also creeps into our minds, even if subconsciously. This very discussion is a reflection of that.

So to directly answer your question: no, you do not need a relationship to fulfill any needs, nor to make the most of life. I do, however, recommend you experience a relationship, preferably several, since it's such an interesting and potentially amazing experience it's worth it. You really shouldn't be dying without having ever had a girlfriend once.

If you want an LTR for the rest of your life, however, don't bother. It's something very, very much outside of your control. (And not really advisable. Unless you're marrying at 70, you're missing out on tons of great pussy)

Unless you want kids. You're truly fucked then.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-10-30T05:55:00+00:00

I can’t help but think would one be able to accomplish more and overall be happier with having a great connection with a romantic partner?

Because you've been told that? Women kill your dreams. My favorite example of this is the famous Wright Brothers, Lorin and Reuchlin.

What? Something doesn't sound right? Don't I mean Orville and Wilbur? Of course I do; Lorin and Reuchlin got married and their nagging bitch wives forced them to get jobs as bookkeepers and the never kicked ass and did anything fucking cool like invent the goddamn airplane.

I enjoy the company of some women, find then to be pleasing to the eye and a tremendous aid in relaxation....but I'm not going to sign up for some shit deal whereby the state can weaponize the courts against me. Fuck that noise. At 53, I happily bone women in their 20s - which I can do because I don't have a 50 year old wife telling me I can't. Wives don't want hubby out stuffin' young muffins.

Women should never be the primary goal, but simply a happy accompaniment to a life well-lived.

amwfhunter · 2020-10-30T05:46:51+00:00

You can have many romantic partners in your life. They come and go. Look at it like eating. You gotta eat everyday, you can only eat the same meal everyday for so long.

moontripper1246 · 2020-10-30T07:01:33+00:00

I think it depends on the type of life you envision for yourself, and the kind/quality of partner you find to try and fill that role.

There are a lot of people in this world with varying needs, everyone else that's commented so far seems to be satisfied being alone/not having a serious long term partner. And that's completely valid. But they're their own unique people that have their own goals. One could say that they either haven't found someone to fit their role perfectly and gave up or aren't interested in looking hard enough to find a fit. Or that they ask too much of a partner/don't find the effort worth the payout, which again is valid.

Or they just don't think any single person can satisfy them. Again, completely valid.

All this to say.....you need to experience it for yourself. I think that your right. With the right person, under the right circumstance you can accomplish a lot more than you could alone. But your also giving up other paths and options by commiting to being someone's partner, that detracts from other things in your life. No one is completely emotionally stable. They'll need some care too, and that will take you away from your other endeavors. Even if both of you are aligned.

Again, since this is trp, most men here are going to skew towards "be alone, focus on yourself, women are a distraction" and that's a completely valid viewpoint. But it's also equally valid to search for a partner that fits your goals/expectations if that's what you genuinely want in life.

At the end of the day it's up to you to decide whether or not having a partner or not will lead to a "subpar life".

KirthWGersen · 2020-10-30T07:08:48+00:00

What is riskier: having one close long-term intimate partner who can die/leave at any time, or a dozen close long-term friends/lovers and the ability to form new relationships at any time?

I have seen widows/widowers fall apart after the loss of their partner after a 40-year marriage. They never recovered. And I have seen the same situation with people who had many friends and neighbours who loved them and within months were living life like never before.

The danger is that in romantic relationships people tend to close themselves off from others to engage more their partners. They think they are doing the right thing, the thing that society tells them is best. But there are clear diminishing returns in such a set-up in terms of money, sex and emotional intimacy. It also diminishes you as a person and makes you less useful to those around you.

You don't have to do what your family or society tells you is the right way. You can define your life as you see fit for your benefit and that of those you love.

SeasonedRP · 2020-10-30T11:28:14+00:00

If a man's goal is to have a relationship, he'll probably find one, but it won't make him happy. Needy men who desire relationships are unattractive to women. If you are living your life the way you want to and are indifferent to being in a relationship, you'll have a better chance of having a rewarding one. Live your life and see what happens. Don't be out there desperately offering your commitment to women.

sixseven89 · 2020-10-30T07:11:33+00:00

Only if you want kids

2020-10-30T11:12:21+00:00

Asking these philosophical questions is completely rhetorical and almost pointless. There’s no answer to this, because it’s based on personal values that only an individual can answer for themselves. Other people cannot answer this for you, others life journeys cannot be your own. Any other persons input is like watching a movie; it can at best be experienced vicariously, but you’ll never be able to live it.

All you can do is to be open in your own life, and try to foster meaningful relationships with people who you care about, male or female. See where it takes you and make your own journey. All relationships are temporary as time and death remains constant.

PatrickIIDX · 2020-10-30T10:06:12+00:00

It would be nice to have a female partner to support me with her femininity, but the real world isn't like that for the average male. Feminism has completely obliterated romantic relationships by making women less womanly.

daproest1 · 2020-10-30T13:29:19+00:00

I used to think the same thing. Since I was a kid. And on some level I still do. It’s a fantasy. It’s just social conditioning. Learned the hard way. You’ll never fully know your solipsistic partner no matter how good she seems to be. No matter how many years or decades you guys are together. It used to be something we can count on. Our constant. Just like family. But that was 40-50 years ago. Not anymore. It’s something u have to come to terms with. I know it sucks. But you come first. At the end of the day, you’re all u have. We all die alone. And male bonds/friendships are more meaningful. There’s a sense of honor amongst men that doesn’t exist amongst romantic relationships. Just accept that you come to life to lose. First your grandparents. Then your parents. Then your siblings. Then your friends. Then yourself. But those are 1 time losses. You’ll lose your romantic interests over and over and over until there’s not much left of you. Each time it’s like a death. Not worth it to be so invested. Worst case you lose your wife AND your children because she’s bored or unsatisfied one day. Best case, she’s with you forever until she passes or u pass. It’s all the same thing. U have to kill that ideology and become completely outcome independent. Sorry bud. Don’t mean to bum u out, but it’s something you need to hear. The lower your expectations of things u can’t control (other people) the less heartbroken or disappointed you’ll be. They switch up on you SO FAST it’ll make your head spin.

warthundersfw · 2020-10-30T14:22:14+00:00

I have completely changed my mind on this issue. It takes too much work and time to spin plates. To have the time I need to do everything I need to be sexually satisfied at all times without distraction. A girlfriend is great for that

realtophland · 2020-10-30T16:44:56+00:00

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2020-10-30T21:25:46+00:00

Honestly,

It's the societal norm, as convention pretty much dictates that a male should complete school,higher education,boy meets girl,competes for girl,boy wins girl(the "prize") over,boy spends money on engagement ring,boy then spends more money on wedding ring,marries girl,makes babies,lives in big house,pays for all girl's shit,puts up with girl's shit(spending,nagging, dead bedroom,cheating,etc) til he DIES....

....or she divorces him,taking the kids,half his net worth,the house,his salary,his self respect,his will to live,and hell why not the dog too why she's at it.

DONT LTR,DONT GET MARRIED,NO COHABITATION........EVER.

just have fun with em,use em for whatever you wanna do,when you get tired of her....

...Chuck her ass.

She belongs to the streets anyway, and if you think not.....you'll find out the hard way.

beginner_ · 2020-10-30T08:06:29+00:00

Maybe 50 years ago it would have had some advantages like not having to do groceries, cook, do laundry, clean yourself. Nowadays if you have a good mission and making progress you can simply pay someone to do all the above which will cost lest than having a wife.

stud__siddhesh · 2020-10-30T06:22:22+00:00

Totally not. I would say they have to come and go, while you level up and stay on your mission. Be grateful for your parents. However, you should forge bonds with male friends. Have atleast one friend who'll be by your side no matter what.

xxx69harambe69xxx · 2020-10-30T11:51:15+00:00

yup

if you take a game theoretic perspective, a gf is the only biologically incentivized form of social interaction and sex

if u truly want to be a rational male, then you must accept we are slaves to our biological instincts as we ourselves are just hairless monkey animals

Robin2Fast2Furious · 2020-10-30T12:22:29+00:00

Relationship? No. Sex? Probably.

2020-10-30T12:39:15+00:00

Nothing short of food, water and shelter is necessary for life. But does it make your life a whole lot more pleasant to have constant feminine energy in it? Fuck yes

319Skew · 2020-10-30T14:25:23+00:00

Think of it as a nice used car. You can get inside it and enjoy the ride. Having it will open up opportunities for you, but you know that at some point it will die on you, be rammed by another guy, or just break down.

Some guys can maintain a car for a long while. Others collect them or horde them. Some have them in pristine conditions and only take them out to show them off. Regardless, it does get expensive.

You have to be careful because one wrong move with your car can cost you a life of rehabilitation or, in extreme cases, death.

But what's the alternative?

You can go around with a village bike or just go for a brisk walk.

You have to make some life decisions like being closer to family or friends and you can't go to places that you can only go with a car. The village bike gets to show you some new things but there's always a risk of catching something as it's not very clean.

Walking is healthy but can get kind of boring unless you go for very scenic trips.

You choose what you think is best. The world will tell you that you need X, Y, or Z but you know yourself best. Do whatever you want and enjoy/pay for it.

whiteindia · 2020-10-30T17:20:18+00:00

No

All you fucks upvoting this post are retarded losers and need to read more shit before posting

chazthundergut · 2020-10-30T18:51:38+00:00

No. But having a partner is definitely one of the more important aspects of life.

If you're unable to find a decent woman who likes you, then it is a signal that you're doing something wrong

willwang2020 · 2020-10-30T21:03:52+00:00

Absolutely no

cfbovernfl · 2020-10-31T02:02:10+00:00

Why would you ask us? For some it may be, for others not. Entirely dependent. Do what makes you feel secure.

Masterdoubt360 · 2020-10-31T05:41:05+00:00

If you think it is

WhatRemainsAfter · 2020-10-30T07:30:37+00:00

Necessity are food, shelter and clothes.

ppvknifefight · 2020-10-30T15:39:08+00:00

For the upper echelon of life satisfaction? Yes. Don't blindly follow the advice of these autistic redpillers who live in fantasy world. Any true to the game playa will tell you that a great relationship with a single dedicated woman (they exist to TRUE Gs) who assists your mission in a myriad of ways and you can trust is greater than any amount of pussy in the world.

Your connection with your boys is cool and valued and all, but that "forged in the fire" "battling to the end of time!" battlecry chit over connection with your A1 LTR alot of people here drone about endlessly is delusional and borderline homosexual.

Any boy of yours who's a true G has a down ass bitch that he's rocking with primarily and solidifying his family. My solid connection with my boys is about making money, sharing ideas and having good times -- it's not no where near as deep as this forum makes it.

I swear, some of these guys on here describe linking up together like they're the damn Thundercats.

Pelikahn · 2020-10-30T07:12:51+00:00

Rimefang · 2020-10-30T12:55:59+00:00

Unlikely_Composer · 2020-10-30T13:11:00+00:00

Danielsavv · 2020-10-30T16:21:38+00:00

i ask myself this all the time i’m 22 and i’ve been single since birth. I thought about trying to be in one but theres always skepticism so i don’t know. I don’t believe that it’s a necessity cause i’ve never been in one and i’m fine but it’s all on you to decide. Ask yourself do i like fucking with multiple bitches or am i person who just wants to deal with one. I know alotta people who are in relationships but still wanna fuck other bitches and it’s leads to so much bullshit.

Title	Serious, is having gf/relationship a necessity for life?
Author	TimeXmars
Upvotes	78
Comments	77
Date	October 30, 2020 5:20 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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