The Cheating Ex Saga Continues

LordThunderbolt · 2017-06-09T23:42:00+00:00

Destroy all that bullshit she sent u. Don't even think about putting your dick back in that disrespectful piece of gutter trash. You might think you're getting the one-up by turning her into "my fuckslave" and not committing, but the truth ish you're just giving her everything she desires. She's designed to be fucked like that, she will deeply enjoy being treated like that. She'll enjoy having your attention again. She'll deeply enjoy knowing that even after she cucked you, you still don't have enough self respect and balls to ghost her for good like any respectable man should. Tell me this, would you go back in business with an ex business partner who conned you out of billions of dollars and sold your company secrets to your competition? No! I'm sure your rather die in the dirt than to have to stand next to such trash. Its the same way for these hoes. Attention is what keeps them alive. Never acknowledge or contact her ever again. It will leave a gaping hole in her soul that no amount of cock or material possessions can ever fill.

Do not bother with that sewage lump. Destroy all that fucking nonsense.

SkimSTi · 2017-06-09T22:07:56+00:00

damn dude. thats intense... good job for getting out and doing you/enjoying yourself in a time like this. if you do plan on turning your ex into a plate, i'd strongly recommend you wait awhile, to make sure all your emotional attachment/feelings for her as a 'once GF' are gone. only then should you decide to hook up or be FWB. otherwise you will risk of going through the same issue... being in an LTR with a girl that has already shown you shes a cheater. and honestly, the odds of you still being attracted to her to fuck when you get fully over her, are slim. the thought of her cheating ass will probably repulse you and you will be seeing hotter chicks by then anyway.

stay strong.

Buttslam1488 · 2017-06-09T23:23:36+00:00

"And she doesn't want the evil to win over us."

I would be tempted to tell her it didn't win over 'us,' it won over her.

Ramesses_ · 2017-06-10T04:03:33+00:00

Hello friend. I'm going to give you the sort of advice you'd want from an older brother. Not emotional stuff about being a 'cuck' or all that other ego based garbage judgement. Just an explanation and advice.

Firstly, for all the loveliness of this girl (and I'm sure she has lots about her that's awesome) she is clearly addicted to feeling like a sexual object. Think about how eagerly she would take her top off and get flogged by her friend's boyfriend in a semi-public setting. That feeling of being a total sexual object is one helluva high. People outside of the kink communities probably don't get it. But you do - so think about this. By caging her you're taking that away from her. Sucks right.

Next thing, people are going to do what they're going to do and no amount of rules or controlling is going to stop them. When you present strong rules to anyone and then carefully watch them to make sure they'll follow you are creating the PERFECT environment for lying. Because people aren't stupid, they're going to see your positive response when they follow the rules and your negative response when they break the rules. Their mind doesn't then go to following the rules: it goes to pleasing you. Super obvious right? They lie to you because they want you to feel good.

So when you tell people not to do things they just get sneaky to avoid upsetting you. They're still gonna do it. You can tell her not to do drugs, you can tell her to stop feeding her sexual high addiction and all that will do is cause her to lie to you about it. She's still gonna do it because that's what she wants to do. That's who she is: someone who feels impulses and responds to them. If she can't get away with that socially she'll simply lie as she has done to you.

Regarding why she would behave this way even though it was HER who pushed for commitment: she is hard wired to reach for YOUR commitment, not to give hers. She gives her pussy, YOU give your commitment. Her biological job is to lock you down. But once she does the magic is lost, you begin the slide into provider role in her eyes which causes her to remain open to being inseminated by alpha cock, particularly around ovulation. Once she's got your commitment her feelings change. She no longer looks at you and feels about you as she did when you were refusing to give it.

You're still viewing commitment as an agreement: we both agree to put aside our sexual feelings for others for the sake of making each other feel special. But women don't make decisions and stick with them. You can add the addendum "Right now I feel like" right before every statement a woman makes. As soon as she doesn't feel like that she almost forgets she ever said it. "Right now I feel like" I'll love you forever. "Right now I feel like" you're the only man I'll ever need. And then, what happened with you, "Right now I feel like" I need to get fucked hard by an alpha (not you). And as she has shown you over and over she follows her feelings when she feels them.

So that's the explanation of her. There's no doubt she didn't mean to hurt you but there's equally no doubt that she would do it again. She has shown you over and over she will do what she feels like doing and follow her impulses without refrain. That's just who and how she is. It's not changing.

Now, about you. You have abundance, you can get laid, you're obviously an attractive man. However don't let that paper over your obvious neediness. You let her behaviour control you completely. You needed her to feel a certain way toward you and demonstrate that through behaviour: and when she didn't you became a mess. YOU aren't pathetic - but acting like that is. And see I think that's where you're struggling to find the real lesson here which should be abject humility. You're protesting a little because of perceived contradictions: "but I do have abundance, I am alpha". For sure you can get laid - but the emotional comfort you're seeking, you are not abundant in.

Now I'm not saying this girl wasn't going to cheat inevitably. Perhaps she was (as discussed, she's a slave to her feelings and impulses). But there's equally no doubt that a big part of the reason she was seeking outside was because of how you behaved. You were not the same after you committed. You became needy. You wanted her to love you so bad. She knew that: why do you think she was so good at feeding it to you? Women are geniuses at this sort of thing. I bet what she wrote in the letters portrays exactly the way you wanted her to be with you BEFORE she cheated. Interesting isn't it.

It's like they all of the sudden realize that what I was giving them was the real shit, and how they will never ever feel that way again.

No, it isn't. It isn't like that at all friend and I'm sorry to say that to you because I don't want you to feel worse. They respond that way because now that you're unavailable they're seeking you again. It's the absolute basics of female psychology often discussed here. "Right now I feel like" remember. It even affects memories. "Right now I feel like" you were the best thing that ever happened to me. But at the time "she felt like" you weren't the alpha she thought you were once she got into a relationship with you and your true colours came out.

So here's the key for you friend: it's all about working on that internal security. You must find a way to feel complete even without her love. And her in this sense is any woman you're in a relationship with. The reason you want to LTR in the first place is to get that love. To get that feeling of worthiness through the way someone else feels about you.

I'm sorry, that is never, ever going to happen. That's why many men here opine the pointlessness and valuelessness of LTRs and commitment. They too want that same feeling of love, security and worthiness but they've seen through the veil and realise now that they can't ever, ever get that from a woman. Because for some men when they show their true vulnerable selves it often destroys the vision their woman had of them: the vision that made them attractive to her. And when women lose attraction their feelings and impulses change. And as we have discussed they are often slaves to their feelings. And so they cheat.

I hope you can see clearly enough to learn from all this. Feel free to ask any questions but please re-read my comment before you respond. Good luck friend.

recon_johnny · 2017-06-10T04:13:27+00:00

Stop with the revenge porn BS.

Let things go and move on.

Focus on making you better.

MuhTriggersGuise · 2017-06-10T04:36:32+00:00

You're done with her. Stop being drawn into her bullshit. It's nice that dude tried to be straight up with you, but you already know all you need to know. Do not talk to her. Do not accept packages from her. Send it back return to sender. Do no not open. Do not apply a moment's more time thinking of anything to do with her. It's a waste.

SkorchZang · 2017-06-10T01:27:34+00:00

"There's something to be said, for sayin' nothing at all..."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P0fS6fDEK1k

DiggerClam · 2017-06-10T02:14:12+00:00

What is this mess? How did she message you on Facebook if you blocked her. Stop hoping to turn this cunt into a housewife. She doesn't exist. No plating, no nothing. You think the sidebar is written for fun or applying the fundamentals are optional? It works and it's proven. Ignore them and you're on your own (well except the sad saps here on ASKTRP who do the job for you, myself included haha).

empatheticapathetic · 2017-06-10T15:03:18+00:00

I respect the shit you write on here bro, always followed your posts/comments as you've always been super honest about your struggles from who you were to who you are. You've been the only person to give me advice on many of my posts which I appreciated a lot.

As a completely objective opinion here, this is just a game to her, whether she realises or not. She just wants to win you back to prove to her how powerful/attractive she is. And once she got you she'd lose appreciation. It's the epitome of what we read on here.

It would never ever be the same as it was, that energy is gone. It was beautiful at the time and I hope you appreciated it. Not that you're talking about getting back with her properly, but that's what you really want behind this poor attempt at pretending you'd plate her.

Be honest with yourself, swallow the pill again, show yourself some proper respect and remove her from your mind. Stop considering anything with this woman.

Ramsees gave a great reply, just wanted to give my 2 cents.

Archwinger · 2017-06-10T16:30:02+00:00

No contact. Ghost. Any contact she does manage to get through your barriers just destroy or delete unread. Don't even be curious.

The fact that you can recite her excuses to us and know she's been seeing a therapist means you're way too busy paying attention to her and not busy enough fucking I other women.

Get another girl. Hell, get 3.That will make this one leave you alone .

[deleted] · 2017-06-10T16:41:00+00:00

in her mind, she did make a mistake.

she got caught

saladon · 2017-06-11T03:09:15+00:00

"I stopped halfway through and got up and left because it felt so wrong"

God damn these lies are so detailed. The lengths they go through to protect their egos is amazing.

dontbedenied · 2017-06-10T01:40:00+00:00

Just wanted to say thanks for sharing. My ex is the exact same as yours. She had a shitty attitude up until the moment I broke up with her. If she didn't cheat on me, she was going to at some point. Then she went into love/apology mode. So I got back together with her. Then after a while she got a shitty attitude again. So I broke up with her again. Then she went into love/apology mode...again.

AWALT

Throwawaysteve123456 · 2017-06-10T07:01:02+00:00

Aw shit man, she just had a spell cast on her, cut her some slack!

Go read some Harry Potter, see if you can break the curse!

NolanKnowstheTruth · 2017-06-10T16:46:34+00:00

I would turn her into a plate, a very dirty, degrading plate. Anal, girl-girl, whatever you want, she is primed for it.

ylod7 · 2017-06-10T10:13:51+00:00

Bro, I just want to say one thing. Do not take her back no matter what. Walk away and never look back and I know it probably is pretty painful but this will make you stronger. This is something I believe every man has to go through. It's a necessary step in emotional development.

walawalawa · 2017-06-11T03:23:29+00:00

I blocked mine and went no contact for 6 months now.

They always try to create some kind of drama.

Last night I'm at my Latin dance night...having a blast, tons of girls...Suddenly I hear a yelp and it's the crazy ex trying to make like me or my partner bumped into her.

Maybe we did or didn't it was an accident. Neither me nor my partner felt anything like a collision or bump from a crowded dance floor.

But the over-reaction was classic. I ignored, had a good dance with my partner of the time, laughed and forgot all about it.

Because these little dramas and victimizations are designed to keep you hooked.

The fact you're still agonizing over this means you're still plugged in.

Do what I do...ignore...ignore...ignore.

Mine is like a mosquito...she buzzes around trying to get in my face.

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Title	Tom Waits - It's Over
Description	From the CD Orphans: Brawlers, Bawlers & Bastards

Title	The Cheating Ex Saga Continues
Author	AwakenedSovereign
Upvotes	28
Comments	48
Date	June 9, 2017 10:03 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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