Why do I have a low-libido?

8675309c · 2015-03-15T20:17:48+00:00

I'm an analyst by trade, and I'm theorizing the effects of trp "trauma" are directly associated with decreased libido and/or impotence

once swallowed, the Disney fairytale becomes the rug that is pulled out from underneath you along with all of the magic you once thought was there. now you realize women are just people, whereas before you felt you could only fantasize from below the pedestal. with that fantasy came excitement. take away the fantasy and what does that leave you with?

most of my core beliefs were completely shattered, and I had to rebuild myself from the ground up. one of the curses I am now dealing with is impotence. no testosterone issues, some libido issues (but not consistently), and I consider myself physically and mentally fit at 30 years of age

if there is a cure out there, I'll be the first in line. otherwise, I'll continue popping these little blue pills hoping I don't go blind from the side effects

acorn_dick · 2015-03-15T21:00:18+00:00

If you haven't heard of it already, try practicing "healthy masturbation" as Robert Glover (author of No More Mr Nice Guy) calls it. Basically, you can masturbate as much as you want (it's not like NoFap), but with the 2 restrictions

a) keeping one's attention on physical sensations only. staying "in" the body. this means no fantasizing and no porn or images etc.

b) no "goal" of orgasming. the only goal can be doing what feels good in that very moment. if it leads to orgasm, fine, but pay attention to how what you're doing is feeling good every instant along the way.

This should awaken your natural sexuality (which is completely separate from women) as opposed to the one that was riddled with bluepill mindset. It is up to you if you decide that bringing women back into the picture would feel good in your body-- not on their terms and not on society's terms.

If you're worried about the health side of it, note that almost all men have at least one period of low libido in their lives. It is common and it will bounce back. If you're worried about a health-related cause you could see a naturopath (if you can afford), since they are usually better at troubleshooting that stuff than western docs. But sounds like you are pretty healthy already, so it might be that your body & mind will figure it out on their own.

brujon · 2015-03-15T20:26:14+00:00

Do bloodwork, check your hormone levels. What you say about emotional breakdowns coupled with high libido, followed by periods of low libido, might mean that your estrogen/testosterone balances are off.

animalpoo · 2015-03-15T21:41:37+00:00

I can empathise with you, I think I'm the same. It's not like you're unattracted to girls, it's just like you have no innate instinct to chase tail, you just don't care but you used to (or I used to at least).

anothercarguy · 2015-03-15T20:50:48+00:00

Neuroscience here, 1: vitamins won't do anything unless you have a deficiency. Take a multi and forget the rest.

2: Depression, anxiety, meds or other drugs you are on all have an effect on Libido, as does being biologically "naive".

For test, look at your score and compare it to the breakdown by age. if it is outside of a standard deviation you are insurance qualified for treatment and it is medically sound to do so. was the Testosterone lab you did a full assay including thyroid, estrogen etc? To have a 250pt swing is rather large and worth looking into.

docs20 · 2015-03-15T19:17:20+00:00

It might be a psychological thing and thus not hormone-related

(premed here)

mindfucks · 2015-03-15T20:10:07+00:00

Last year at this time I had like a month like period where my libido was sky high, I drooled at girls walking, got tunnel vision when I saw nice asses, but also had bizarre emotional breakdowns where I would laugh and cry at the same time.

That just came and went for apparently no reason?

ilovemagicmush · 2015-03-16T06:37:13+00:00

Hormone imbalance my friend

You have high testosterone and low estrogen. Estrogen is necessary to make you horny, and it makes you feel more emotional (hence the laughing/crying). Low estrogen turns you into more of a robot.

FrameWalker · 2015-03-15T20:24:27+00:00

Having really good sex gets me going again and again. It's a mix of being comfortable being very sexual, doing the kinky hints I like and making sure the women are sufficiently hot.

DoctorsHateHim · 2015-03-15T22:35:42+00:00

Inform yourself about and get some L-Arginin and Maca, it will help you out big time dude.

SocialJusticeWhiner · 2015-03-15T23:52:12+00:00

Although I have my doubts because of some of the things you wrote you may want to see an MD or psychiatrist to look into possibilities of bipolar or anxiety disorder(s). Hypomanic phases can produce incredible highs of euphoria, dramatically increased sex drive, creativity, and drive. During the depressive states anxiety is typically higher and can cause difficulty getting erections and reduced sex drive even if your testosterone is normal or high. Before sex with new women who you don't feel comfortable with it can increase the anxiety even further making it very difficult to get an erection. Best of luck and I hope you figure it out.

Symptoms of hypomania: http://psychcentral.com/disorders/hypomanic-episode-symptoms/

FelixCopy · 2015-03-16T08:10:05+00:00

You said you received a blowjob for the first time last year and you'd rather fap than have sex. Most of your sexual experience is with pornography. You have associated sex with porn and masturbation. Cut that out completely (I mean completely) and watch your libido become overwhelming.

Psychedelic_Leg · 2015-03-16T04:26:44+00:00

low dopamine bro

Title	Why do I have a low-libido?
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