"You never talk to me" problem

SirKolbath · 2018-05-23T05:21:23+00:00

Ballsy. I like it. I would probably say exactly that.

Don't be surprised if that gives her the gina tingles, however. There is little like a blunt rejection and refusal to become an orbiter to make a woman suddenly start trying to qualify herself. You're not playing her game by her rules and she's going to go mad (Mad, I tell you!) trying to figure out why her feminine wiles aren't working on you.

Or, she's gonna call you a dickrat and be bitchy. Either way, you get some peace and quiet.

nicholasbuchanan · 2018-05-23T04:14:55+00:00

That would piss her off to no end but idk what to suggest

StrongAffordance · 2018-05-23T10:04:06+00:00

Or you could say “sure we talk” and then carry on exactly the same

5JS1XBG64A · 2018-05-23T07:16:28+00:00

Your response, while I like it personally, sounds like it might just create unnecessary drama with your mutual friend. Just tell her you've been pretty busy or some generic vague bullshit like that. She'll take the hint eventually.

I'm assuming you've been working on improving yourself over the past 3 months, so alternatively, you could try and invite her over to talk over drinks and escalate like the other commenter said. If you do definitely post a field report.

Agni_Forma · 2018-05-23T07:04:49+00:00

"I am busy" It is not that hard,you got important shit to do so why would you waste your time with her? You make her realize that you do NOT put her in pedestal and that you can find what she has to offer (a hole) in plenty of pussies out there. Remember that people always want what they can't have,the moment you make your self available is the moment you come into her frame.

Of course next step is to ACTUALLY got important shit to do but you have to fake it before you make it.

cl3537 · 2018-05-23T14:54:00+00:00

Usually girls who send 'mixed signals' are not interested.

"sexually unattractive" and "why do we never talk" are two opposite ends of interest. One indicates quit explicitly you are in the "friend zone" the other indicates she wants your attention.

My guess she wants you to be her 'beta friend' and for you to continue to validate her while she gives nothing in return.

I would just continue to withhold attention from her. If you see her be polite, be civil, and just focus your attention on people who are more important to you. I don't see the point in blowing up the bridge.

You have a very slim chance of fucking her, If that is still on your mind I would completely go no contact. You have a limited window with women, if that window has passed because you acted like a beta bitch it is almost impossible to come back from it.

FieldLine · 2018-05-23T12:14:55+00:00

"I am literally talking to you right now."

Then I tell her the story about my 90-year-old Aunt Petunia who used to give me shit about not visiting her when I went to visit her.

Then, next time it comes up, I'll say something (to her) like "Aunt Petunia, I am literally visiting you right now, sitting in your living room", refusing to actually acknowledge the issue she is trying to address.

I was thinking of saying this: "I keep a few close friends. You're just not one of them. Nothing personal."

Nope.

Would you say that to your five year old when he asks you why he can't come with you to the movies? You'd more likely say something like "shhh, grown-ups talking. Go play with your toys now", without directly addressing what he is saying to you.

Treat women like the children they are.

irvingwashington12 · 2018-05-23T09:37:35+00:00

Reads to me like you still have feelz for this girl. I wouldn’t go with your suggested response as she will likely see through it.

Instead I’d just say you’ve been busy and leave it at that.

redpilledcuck · 2018-05-23T14:04:07+00:00

"Heh, nothing personnel, kid"

rpthrowaway871 · 2018-05-23T04:36:09+00:00

What you have is fine.

mgtownigga · 2018-05-23T10:55:59+00:00

you don't owe her anything, just ignore her ass. When you see her act like everything is gucci. That's it, that's the end of it

redhawkes · 2018-05-23T11:14:34+00:00

Yours is good, just don't deliver it in a butthurt way.

You can go with "You already miss me" and let her qualify herself, then ignore.

BusterVadge · 2018-05-23T12:16:52+00:00

"I've been super busy" is better than "you're not one of my friends". Creates less drama, and she will be able to read between the lines.

Scuzzin · 2018-05-23T18:55:54+00:00

This would probably strain any mutual relationships you two share. She'll get butthurt and tell everyone in your social circle what a mean, unfuckable, beta you are. Might even say you were talking behind their back. I'd just say "how come you never talk to me?" Put it back on her, just act jokingly sad about it. "You never talk to me sniff, why don't you like me X sniff, wipes fake tear." Got a friend who used to do this when we were teens and it worked well with anyone who felt butt hurt by his lack of fucks. It made them realize that relationships are a two way street, and that they were just expecting it to be a one way validation train. And it doesn't come off as confrontational/insecure.

But IDK, you do you

Merwebb · 2018-05-24T04:07:05+00:00

Say "but we are talking!! You silly you!!!" and then never talk.

DrLithium · 2018-05-24T07:39:07+00:00

Ignore

Thunderfin · 2018-05-23T07:15:39+00:00

I had the same problem.

TheDisillusionist · 2018-05-23T06:34:19+00:00

Don't be a pussy, that's what got got you here in the first place. They can smell the lie on you.

You don't talk because you were interested and it didnt pan out.

Title	"You never talk to me" problem
Author	Cringe_Machine
Upvotes	18
Comments	22
Date	May 23, 2018 4:13 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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