Text game doesnโ€™t exist. When I text, Itโ€™s all logistics.

Girls will meet up with me without me having to โ€œtext gameโ€. How do I do this?

I make my interactions really good.

When I talk to a girl, I donโ€™t focus on getting her number. Instead, I focus on making her the most comfortable she can be.

The thing that prevents girls from hanging out with guys is not a lack of attraction. Itโ€™s anxiety or fear that theyโ€™ll do something.

The more at ease or comfortable she feels around you when you first talk to her, the more likely sheโ€™ll feel down to hang out.

This goes along with what I call a Sexuality Disconnect: Girls already like guys. You donโ€™t need to do anything to get her to like you when you first talk to her.

What I do is make her feel as comfortable, the least pressure as possible. Thatโ€™s what makes her feel Iโ€™m a cool guy.

And how do I do that? I genuinely donโ€™t care for her reactions. She can feel that non-neediness off of me.

When I talk to a girl, I also accept that she might reject me, and I accept the burden of how shitty that might feel. But on the other hand, with risk comes reward: I understand that the upside is I might meet a super cool girl, and that I might hang out with her. The upsides far ought weigh the downsides.

That gives me the power to commit to talking to her. Fully. Even if Iโ€™m super anxious. Even if Iโ€™m super nervous. I can stand there, and she feels Iโ€™m talking to her TO MEET HER. Whether its laid back or intense, she feels that Iโ€™m 100% okay with whatever happens.

That makes her comfortable. That makes her feel at ease. That makes her feel like sheโ€™s going to be taken on a ride, and she can trust the driver.

Thats the frame I keep the interaction in. As for textingโ€ฆ

I pre-frame getting the number by saying โ€œHey, we should hang out sometimeโ€ so that she can expect the number as merely a gateway to hanging out.

  1. I always send my name as soon as weโ€™re done so she remembers its me
  2. I get straight into logistics. No small talk, all that has been done already.
  3. If sheโ€™s available, I go for the hangout. If she isnโ€™tโ€ฆ
  4. I respond with something light hearted, and try again later.
  5. If she stops responding, I send her random interesting texts, like what Iโ€™m doing that day. Nothing crazy. Think of it like posting a story on your instagram, but sending it to her instead. (Memes are good, where you are is good, pics are good)

Thats how I text girls.

The biggest thing that hinders guys is they never try to go for the meetup. And if they do, they never try again.

The bitter pill to swallow is this: if girls arenโ€™t down to meet up, your vibe needs work, not your texting.

Anyways, stay up boys. Keep it real,

-Sean

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