Asking for a first date is one of those "make or break" steps when seducing a woman. It's like the rock climber who has to leap from one hand hold to the next. If it isn't executed perfectly, he'll fail to get to the next level, and he'll definitely fail to summit.

With that analogy in hand, here are 5 critical components when asking for a first date:

1) ASK ON A HIGH NOTE

Whether through texting, on the phone, or in person, don't ask for the date until you have her on a high note- preferably laughing. When she's feeling good, say "You know what, you're fun. We should hang out sometime." She'll be more likely to agree when she's feeling good, and she'll likely say something along the lines of: "Yeah, definitely!"

2) LET HER TELL YOU WHEN SHE'S AVAILABLE FIRST

The next step is to find out when she's available. Rather than asking if she has so and so day free, ask her: "What is your week looking like?" When she gives you her free days, then you can say that you happen to have one of those days free, too. This is much better than saying "Do you have Thursday free?" because if she says "no," then you're stuck backpeddaling and asking for other days. When you get her available days first, then it puts you in the "decider" position.

3) YOU WERE DOING THIS THING ANYWAY

On the day that you decide to see her, make it sound like you were going to go this thing anyway. You could say: "You know what, I have Thursday free too, and that's perfect because I'm going to this lounge that night. You should come."

4) ASK HER IF SHE'S COMFORTABLE WITH YOU PICKING HER UP

If possible, you should try to drive. This sets up the correct dynamic that you're the leader and she's going into YOUR environment. I used to just assume that I'd pick her up, but lately I've been asking if "she'd feel comfortable" with me doing so. 95% of the time they say yes, and most of the time they tell me how much they appreciate that I asked. Knowing when to "assume the close" and when to ask takes some experience and calibration, but in this particular instance I've found that respecting her comfort level really works to my favor.

5) SET UP A NON-NEEDY WAY TO CONFIRM

when she says you can pick her up, reply with the following: "Great, I'll text you on DAY OF DATE for your address." This sets up a non-needy way for you to confirm that you have plans. It's a little like saying "Hey, we're hanging out tonight, don't flake..." But instead of you having to say that, you're address confirmation is the same thing in disguise.

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