This is a question for anyone who struggles with approach anxiety, who psychs themselves out of going out and meeting people, who want to get better with women (or anything) but is still struggling with the fear of throwing yourself out there.

What's the alternative?

Is it that you don't talk to that person and instead stand over in the corner looking around and doing nothing? Is is that you stay at home? Is it that you talk yourself out of doing it over and over? Is it that this area of your life never gets any better, that things keep on going about the way they've always been?

And if that's the alternative, are you alright with that? Are you alright with things going about the way they've always been? Maybe you are, maybe this isn't that big a deal, but if the alternative is really bad, if there's no way you're going back to it, then the fear of inaction will be greater than the fear of talking to that girl. But first you've got to really ask yourself what would happen otherwise and are you okay with that.

I do this all the time on a variety of levels, from walking up to someone to deciding whether or not to go to an event tonight. And every time I ask myself whether or not the alternative is alright with me, whether or not I'd be alright going back to being awkward and afraid, I always say "hell no" and then I do it.