Age gap dating and the perception around it

V3X390 · 2026-05-27T13:31:15+00:00

18 vs 23 isn’t that big of a gap. The goal is to meet some dudes still in their 20’s but out of college. College kids can get judgy about being around people out of college unless you’re providing all the booze and weed.

Western-Month-3877 · 2026-05-27T14:35:11+00:00

That 3-4 years gap is frowned upon because you were just in school. That’s pretty much a high school/college mindset.

If you stay in a workplace long enough you’d see that the gap is not that narrow. Even up to +10 years; people go out with their coworkers or their bosses which totally fine. Unless you live in Japan or S korea where this kinda thing is very important. Over there most tend to choose partners around their age. Even if you’re just a few months older than them, then they should treat you more senior than them.

therealslimshady1234 · 2026-05-27T13:32:53+00:00

Its not a real issue, do whatever you feel comfortable with as long as its legal and consensual.
You dont even have an age gap lol. Im 32 almost and I easily date 10 years younger. I also have women 15 yrs older hitting on me. I dont think its creepy either way

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-05-27T15:11:07+00:00

it's not a big deal tbh.

But for me when i was 23, at most id date a college junior or senior.

The thing is there's a lot of growth that happens from 18 to 22. An 18-19 year old is an adult but they still have a child mindset. They havent adulted enough to have the mind of an adult. That's why a lot of these 18-19 year olds get used by these grown men. Because they think their grown but these older men have years of tricks in the game that these girls havent even seen. It's why it's almost seen as preying on these girls.

It's why people wont really bat an eye when a 29 year old dates a 39 year old, but it hits different when it's 29 and 19.

Id say if you know people at these college parties, go for it and have your fun.. But dont just show up at a college party.

Elegant-Wolf-12 · 2026-05-27T13:32:19+00:00

You're young enough to date women who are 18, but they're pretty immature. So unless you're ready to kind of take her in hand, probably best to stick to 20+.

Frankly, though, at your age, older women who will take YOU in hand and show you how to be a great lover and a good man are probably the best approach.

As far as public perception goes: Be kind to women, don't just use them and discard them. Don't date younger women because they're naive enough to not see your red flags. That doesn't mean you can't tease a woman or spank her, but do it while you're actually paying attention to her, closely and kindly. Then let people say what they will, because you're good

Zillah345 · 2026-05-27T14:57:49+00:00

Its another new thing that's easy for people to hate on, because everything everyone does is wrong. No one askes WHY it's wrong. The WHY is what matters. If you feel like them being a few years older is a problem just cuz it's probably fine. If you feel like being a few years older demonstrates a maturity gap or an actual material problem then you decide if it's for you.

OpinionThink481 · 2026-05-27T15:14:01+00:00

It’s not your job to do what your friends want or what society wants, your job is to do what you want.

The moment you do what other people believe you should do according to them, you are not longer a man that a woman you like will respect.

You are a pushover who is always trying to please other people, and trying to conform to social norms and peopke who conform to social norms at the expense of what they actually want do not respect themselves and don’t deserve respect. And wothout respect women cant be attracted to you.

A man who is worth respecting is a man who has his own internal code that is willing to go against the norm or go against what other people think not as an act of arbitrary provocation but as an act of self-ownership and self clarity.

So date who you want because you want to, and stop needing others to approve of your choices.

FromGymToQuim · 2026-05-27T16:14:40+00:00

Who gives a shit what people think?

Here’s what you should ask yourself. Is it legal?

I don’t give a damn about morals, ethics, or weirdness. If I can pass as someone who’s 19, then I’m having fun whether they’re 18, 19, 21.

Why? Because in my twenties I was the fatty friend-zoned guy who often lost to 18-year old fuck boys and frat boys. We gotta level up and learn someday, right? Lol.

Just have fun dude. Don’t care what people think.

blackwolf2997 · 2026-05-28T22:05:33+00:00

Nobody gives a fuck, and your friends want to fuck the 18-19 girls as well, it’s legal and you are not “old” at all so have fun.

Title	Age gap dating and the perception around it
Author	besitomusic
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Comments	13
Date	May 27, 2026 1:22 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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