Almost 22 years old and still a virgin

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spoods420 · 2024-11-04T02:28:22+00:00

Dude... i promise not everyone is getting laid and living whatever fantasy you think is happening. I've gone years without female attention and trust me most people are so damaged these days. Just because you have someone you could be having sex with means you want to, or even should.

Hang out with friends, get a new job....do something where there are women, and men..just people man. I great women the same as dudes, try being friends with em.

Ps I'm 44 trust me it's either feast of famine there's no cheat code.

Embarrassed_Head_219 · 2024-11-04T02:42:56+00:00

Don’t feel bad about it. Some girls without much experience, like myself, prefer guys without much experience as well. You will find someone, don’t have a negative mindset.

Fate-in-haze · 2024-11-04T02:32:46+00:00

I suggest reading Models by Mark Manson, first it will give you realistic expectations about dating and attraction instead of hyperbolic marketing, second it offers a healthy non toxic model of how to become a man who naturally attracts women, and third I believe this book to be innoculation against black pill thinking which unfortunately is becoming more and more popular these days despite being bullshit.

Easy_Preference_268 · 2024-11-04T03:05:26+00:00

I lost it at 20 to a girl who wasn’t good for me and it kinda messed me up for a new months. A year later I met my first girlfriend and she was a virgin. Kinda wished I had waited and lost it with her, would’ve been a better experience but I did it just because I thought I had to🤷‍♂️

slowupwardclimb · 2024-11-04T02:28:15+00:00

It sucks not having what you want. I get that.

Try to be honest with yourself for a moment - do you want to change? Are you ready for it? If someone gave you the steps, would you take them?

Sometimes we’re not ready, and that’s okay.

Coolguy1699 · 2024-11-04T02:24:39+00:00

The only advice I could give you is to put yourself out there. Cold approach, dating apps, and the whole shebang.

Open-Illustra88er · 2024-11-04T03:11:41+00:00

Comparison is the theif of Joy. You’ll find her.

Small-Acanthaceae567 · 2024-11-04T03:21:00+00:00

Statistically you are the norm my dude. First step is to work on being attractive, next is to put yourself out there, talk to people. Don't be in a rush to get laid, it puts women off (ironically).

The mist important thing to remember is you have to be in it to win it, if you arnt talking to girls, dating apps or otherwise, you will never get laid, it's the most basic principle you have to be applying.

DreamShort3109 · 2024-11-04T02:24:13+00:00

I feel the same way. I’m almost twenty, and afraid I’ll never experience teenage love. It seems like a unrealistic idea right now.

No-Philosophy5461 · 2024-11-04T03:20:23+00:00

Overrated buddy, I didn't lose my virginity til 23. After a long failed relationship, my body count went up by 9 in the last year and a half. You'll get your chances but you have to be assertive (albeit respectful) and take initiative to get there most the time.

Getting laid doesn't fall in many males laps like women

FnB · 2024-11-04T03:29:24+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with that

NoiseProfessional694 · 2024-11-04T03:47:11+00:00

Will be 25 this 25th nov still a virgin🥲

HeatDroid · 2024-11-04T04:02:50+00:00

25 here bro

I’m not bitter about it, didn’t get a chance when younger with the girls I liked, after that I had some chances here and there but they were mostly mediocre and I figured I’d actually save it for someone worthy

tabqwerty · 2024-11-04T04:06:41+00:00

I didn't lose mine until I turned 24. Once you have sex, you'll just say to yourself, "That's it?" Porn makes sex look like it's this odyssey of pleasure and excitement the same way Hollywood portrays epic action and adventure movies. Life isn't like that at all.

Sun_Bronana · 2024-11-04T04:08:47+00:00

I can relate, I’m turning 21 in a few months and I’ve never got pass kissing with a girl. I always want to meet a girl, start a relationship and eventually have sex but I never really get anywhere with trying to start a relationship. Usually it’s like a month of talking and I get friend zoned. I guess what I’m trying to say is you’re not alone with these thoughts and feelings. Just keep trying and eventually you’ll fine the right one

mustardbud · 2024-11-04T04:10:26+00:00

do you want a relationship or just lose your virginity?

rentinghappiness · 2024-11-04T04:20:14+00:00

I didn’t lose my virginity until i was 22 about to turn 23, and have had a lot of sex since then now i am 27. Also Hugh Hefner didn’t lose his virginity till he was 22 lol.

Murakamo · 2024-11-04T03:11:13+00:00

Stop defining your worth by your virginity. Virginity is a made up concept. I lost my virginity at 25. My only regret is that I thought ny first time should be with 'someone special'. If you really wanna lose it, just go an hire someone willing. There's no shame in that. You'd probably end up losing it to a 10/10 if you went that route, anyway.

Arif_4 · 2024-11-04T02:27:56+00:00

hookermaxx

OneParadox · 2024-11-04T03:16:12+00:00

You need to figure out why you are having trouble connecting romantically with other people. Are your standards too high? Are you not taking care of yourself? Do you have trouble talking to people you are interested in? Instead of sitting back to wait for someone to magically drop from the sky, you need to be proactive in figuring what is not working and do something about it.

Skuntologist · 2024-11-04T03:54:12+00:00

What worked for me mainly: - Join a gym - Set personal goals for yourself that diversify yourself as a person, whether it be skills, academics, career-wise, etc. - Read "The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" and "The Laws of Human Nature" - Put yourself in social situations where you form conversation and make small talk with people in general, not just girls - When you're talking to girls, keep in mind they're literally human (treat them as such) and their thought processes aren't as complex as you think, though there are intricacies to interacting with them (which are explained immensely throughout this sub)

Finally, I wish you luck and genuinely hope you achieve what you're seeking, at the end of the day don't forget to not just be yourself, but better yourself as well 🙏

Cosmicslayer1 · 2024-11-04T03:00:05+00:00

Honestly .. I would just stay celibate and wait until you find the woman of your dreams .. Sex is not even worth it and in this day and age they relate sex to your worth which is not the case .. Stand confident in yourself and chase after the goals you’ve set before you and put women and sex on the back burner .. I promise in the end it’s not really worth it if it’s not someone your genuinely care for and love

Bigboyfresh · 2024-11-04T03:06:52+00:00

It’s a number game, the more women you approach the more you are likely to sleep with. How many approaches have you done in the last month? I’ve seen guys talk to 15 girls in a year, and then they wonder why they aren’t successful

PrestonHolden · 2024-11-04T03:21:51+00:00

Apparently in France 75% of men between 18-24 have never been in a relationship. Ur alright man

Longjumping_Act9758 · 2024-11-04T03:27:52+00:00

22 are you crazy?

I lost mine at 26. What's the rush??

Eagerforfreedom · 2024-11-04T03:49:18+00:00

At that age you should have went and paid for it now tf you doing watching porn and beating off everyday?

Krazed-Freeman · 2024-11-04T03:20:47+00:00

Leave the internet, video games, quit being shy and an introvert, because all of those things women hate.

By the way, I work with models on a daily.

Onzalimey · 2024-11-04T02:45:56+00:00

No time like the present to start working on it. Start hitting the bar 4x a week and approaching. Study game and you’ll have more girls than you want. I didn’t lose my virginity until 19 so started very late and have had a lot of success now with dating.

MentalCelOmega · 2024-11-04T02:48:06+00:00

Take the black pill and achieve enlightenment.

Title	Almost 22 years old and still a virgin
Author	ATATwalker92737
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Date	November 4, 2024 2:20 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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